>Just be yourself, that's all a girl wants.
>Ignore everything your mother just said. Think of someone really cool and attractive and... be them.
Who was right?
>Just be yourself, that's all a girl wants. >Ignore everything your mother just said.
>Just be yourself, that's all a girl wants.
>Ignore everything your mother just said. Think of someone really cool and attractive and... be them.
Who was right?
>top panel
Nicole
>bottom panel
Gumball
You cheeky b***h. I see you, Anon. Go outside and get yourself a gumball, you little scamp.
?????
Made me smile
Yes, and?
Damn you
AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH I get it now
Why there's porn of Gumball fricking his dad?
>furries are degenerates
And in other news, the sky is blue.
Correction. Its the other way around. Gis dad fricking gumball.
"Be yourself" is the "git gud" of socialization; it means nothing because it only works if you are already cool.
What people should say instead of that is: go out and actually do shit so you are an interesting person.
Well that can be wrong too, you need to combine them into:
do things you find interesting.
This. I think 95% of incels are just dudes who never put themselves out there.
I've seen plenty of fat, ugly frickers who don't look particularly wealthy with gf's and wives, some even have fairly decent looking gf's and wives.
So yeah, unless you're legit some John Merrick ass looking motherfricker the only thing really stopping anyone from getting a gf is just not really trying.
t. Effectively hasn't talked to a female in a decade
>the only thing really stopping anyone from getting a gf is just not really trying
females can know a person from their senses
This is a dumb question but what counts as 'doing shit', I'm an artgay so I wound up being kind of a shutin.
Art qnd music dudes get hella pussy bro, as long as you're not too autistic.
I am autistic, though I've gotten pretty good at tricking people into thinking I'm normal. I don't even know where to meet other art people, I've actually been desperate to know, do you know where other artists gather? I want an irl art (girl)friend so bad,
>Art qnd music dudes get hella pussy bro,
Oh come on anon
Doesn't answer the question though
Self improvement is never a bad thing but unless you're legitimately so poorly socialized as to be some kind of awful unlovable person, you can probably find someone that loves you for you even if it does take some time
Unironically being yourself is extremely good advice. The problem is that you're going to get a shit ton of rejections which frickwits like you think is a bad thing. You want to be rejected by people who do not share your interests, beliefs, or desires because if you end up having a relationship with someone who doesn't than you're in for a painful break up or unfufilled relationship later. You are going to have to open up to your partner eventually you might as well get it over with early so you don't have to deal with the emotional stress later. Being open about yourself is the right move.
Anons, the people on Cinemaphile whining that they want girlfriends don't see women as people. They don't care what they believe or care about or think. They're just intensely lonely and want a pet they can frick.
that's why I want a boyfriend instead
And those are the kinds of people girls that want to act like pets you can frick are looking for. You just gotta be around the same level of attractiveness they are.
And if you tell people that then you're the bad guy all of a sudden.
>Unironically being yourself is extremely good advice.
So the whole "fake it 'till you make it" advice was complete bullshit?
"Fake it til you make it" is about confidence and work
Don't fake hobbies or personality traits if you want a good relationship
So it's just bad advice in general used to justify dishonesty.
>
no, "it depends" every solution depends of the person, situation, time and place.
>no, "it depends" every solution depends of the person, situation, time and place.
Meaningless answer. So it is bullshit. I do hope never to see that phrase again since confidence/relationship advice can be given better than that empty buzzword.
>So the whole "fake it 'till you make it" advice was complete bullshit?
no, "it depends" every solution depends of the person, situation, time and place.
>go out and actually do shit so you are an interesting person.
You sound like a woman. I'm not spending money so that I'll seem interesting to you
If your only hobbies are playing video games and shitposting on Cinemaphile all day, then you're extremely boring and won't have any luck making friends or finding a girlfriend.
the average person is fricking boring as shit. its hilarious that people here need to cope with acting like the average person who gets laid is some super interesting individual with a multitude of unique hobbies. they're not. the average person is too busy working and having responsibilities to have some quirky and interesting hobby to entertain you with.
true that
"Go out and actually do shit" also means nothing because it only works if you are already cool.
Literally just talk to women, if you're their fetish or they need money they'll talk back
This
The ultimate secret is that women are people that are just as weird and horny as everyone else
There's no secret or strategy or rules but the most very basic essence of what mating is:
Advertise what you are. Buyers will find you.
no women have a fetish for awkward older virgins anon. it literally turns their veganas into the sahara.
you people are more toxic and abrasive than the "incel" boards. which says a lot.
>no women have a fetish for awkward older virgins anon
>t. never visited Encanto threads
anon those are fujos who want nothing to do with real men with those qualities.
At least 2 of them married the type. Cope.
>no women have a fetish for awkward older virgins anon.
How completely and utterly fricking naive. Do you really think there's no such thing as a female dom? I don't even mean s&m, you just don't believe in the existence of women that take initiative in the bedroom? That want the power in the dynamic? Awkward sadbois are a commodity in high demand.
People have fetishes for everything. One girl I wound up turning down had a nerd fetish and a israelite fetish. She ran her fingers though my beard and told me I looked like Matisyahu.
People have fetishes for eating shit. You are not less palatable than eating shit. At least not physically. I obviously have never seen you interact with someone in person which is hopefully very different from how you type on Cinemaphile
true dominant females are about 0.1% of the population and half of them are gay. the vast, vast, vast majority of women do not Iike submissive virgin men because they don't approach women and almost all women expect to be approached and courted aggressively.
[citation needed]
Seriously, man, I actively avoid situations where there's a chance of a hook up or getting hit on and even I know that you're talking utter bullshit.
Go outside
Shit, you don't even have to do that. Go on a dating site for your hobby and post a picture of you with an animal.
Do literally anything that isn't whining that all women suck
>You people are more toxic and abrasive than the "incel" boards. which says a lot.
We're about the same, the difference is we're challenging you on your shit instead of reinforcing it.
Fun fact: a common cult behavior is to slowly indoctrinate followers into more and more abrasive and socially unacceptable beliefs so that they become more an more isolated from the outside world and more dependent on the cult for self-esteem and relationships
"Just be yourself" is more about people can tell you are fake and will be turned off by it rather then saying people will love the real you.
I see it as "be the best you" as well - it's more like "'Changing' doesn't mean changing your core personality/interests, it means improving yourself"
People with low self esteem cannot really get that message if they don't see anything valuable in themselves, or have no strong sense of identity.
Yeah, I have low self-esteem myself and it's still difficult. It's difficult to become confident and not be needy around friends when you've never had solid support your whole life. I'm finally aware of my own shortcomings now, but now the problem is that everyone else already has their solid groups so I'm redundant. The hot potato friend.
Be yourself. Because that's how Richard got Nicole
"Be yourself" is horrible advice. Why be yourself when you can be a better version of yourself?
Why did the show have to get so cynical, bros?
I wish the show actually acknowledged that Gumball and Dawirn had grown up in a way, even using it to explain the shows new cynicalness.
the truth is if you need advice on this shit its already over.
>Be yourself
This is the advice we give videogame and porn addicted sperglords and wonder why they are still virgins.
Better to say be the best YOU you can be. Get the best grades/job. Work and groom yourself to be the best looking you that you can achieve.
Think from her POV. She doesn't want a guy that is passive and not going anywhere.
Be confident and ambitious.
The heavens have designed a destiny for every man. The superior man will find what that is and pursue it.
alternatively: don't be ugly and skip all that garbage.
I tried that. Until I got money, that only got me girls who wanted one night stands
you're conventionally attractive and couldn't get pussy? you must be moronic, an butthole, or lying.
the modern person's reading comprehension here, folks
What's he saying besides "I couldn't get LTR pussy"?
If you are getting one night stands your personality must be shit, or you are too slow to open up to them.
There's always something wrong with you but not women huh
If one person hates you, ignore them.
If two people hate you, don't worry
If twenty people hate you, look inward.
If 50 people hate you, you're the butthole.
But no one hates him, they want to frick him
If you're ugly, then your ancestors probably passed some of that on to you, they got laid, what's your excuse?
They didn't live in the worst time for dating in the history of human society
Funny but this thread is unintentionally proving this post right
Once I achieve all that I'll never need a woman in my life. Why have a girlfriend when I can cook myself?
This but unironically.
When people are left to their own decisions with one another they will inevitably form markets where benefits are exchanged. What can you do for me? what can I do for you? That sort of thing.
What people are too shortsighted to see however is that thanks to the erosion of gender dimorphism and gender roles, there is very little that either can bring to the table reasonably. women can bring home the bacon AND cook dinner and men the same. Demand plummets as a result.
My suggestion is rather than letting another uncontrollable, self interested party influence you, strive to mitigate the needs of said party through self improvement. Learn to cook, clean, and other things you expect form your partner yourself and do this to the best extent possible. What can't be done (ex. childbirth) is what you actually "need" from your partner. Then when it's time to bargain you have little attachment and therefore leverage in the relationship.
>TLDR: People are selfish, Learn to do things yourself and you can manipulate the selfish people easily.
>What can't be done (ex. childbirth) is what you actually "need" from your partner
It doesn't justify keeping a b***h around for many years to come. Adopt/pay a surrogate mother/donate cum
>All this basic con man hopium
Go write a self help scam you worthless poopsock
They're both right and anyone with a working theory of mind and a modicum of social skills already understands that. Be genuine (what's the point of a relationship if you don't actually like each other?), but put your best foot forward and emphasize your good qualities.
Also, I know most of you are complete social invalids, but what people want and like varies dramatically from person to person. There is no blanket "guys like this, girls want that" that is in any way useful or accurate.
>There is no blanket "guys like this, girls want that" that is in any way useful or accurate.
Actually there is, it's the stuff you're instinctively drawn to, for example women love tall aggressive rich guys, men love submissive girls with big breasts and ass, and everyone loves attractive people, since all of those are primal traits for marking worthwhile partners, it's superficial and animalistic but it's there.
Of course not everyone will have instincts of the same strength and some can ignore them and it's not a guarantee of anything, but it increases your chances greatly with the vast majority of people.
>Actually there is!
No, there isn't.
>women love tall aggressive rich guys, men love submissive girls with big breasts and ass
This is childish and naive and more than a little bit insulting.
You've taken the base notion that in general neoteny and confidence are attractive traits and warped it into a pretty disgusting and presumptuous worldview that you need to grow out of.
I pray you're under 16
You are delusional if you think taking any random anon ITT and gradually adding to his height, wealth, attractiveness, and forwardness wouldn't also gradually increase the amount of women they have chances with. I don't know what sort of cope that delusion is helping you with, but you need to figure it out.
Saying "having more money increases your dating pool" is very different from saying "all women want tall rich aggressive men and all men want short passive women with huge breasts"
I think you're aware of that and are too stubborn to back up from the cliff you're on
You seem to have issues with reading comprehension because no one said that
You're moronic, anon. Stop blaming your failure to find a partner on misunderstanding of evolutionary biology. It's your personality.
BTFO
>You are delusional if you think taking any random anon ITT and gradually adding to his height, wealth, attractiveness, and forwardness wouldn't also gradually increase the amount of women they have chances with.
This isn't wrong. If you're ugly as hell, very few women will actually wanna date you no matter how nice you or your other qualities are are.
LMAO moron go see why bloomberg's election compain failed, that's because he was a manlet, a manlet 30 times richer than donald trump, but still a manlet. have a nice day you pick up trainer
Can you make yourself tall at will dumb frick? You're not helping anything with this incel l "gotcha"
that's not the point i'm making you trainee, i'm talking about how wealth, physique(if you're not a landwhale) and your conversational skills ultimately don't matter, which you have already unconsciously admitted, that bullshit you're spitting about earning money is just that, bullshit, because a wise man is a wise man, be he rich, poor or burning inside the brazing bull, and a wise man will never succumb to one sin for another sin(greed for lust, money for shallow relationships), have a nice day
Top if you're looking for a lasting relationship with an unspecified person.
Bottom if you're looking for a specific frick buddy for a few months or so.
Both are right. Become better while still being true to yourself. Just be a better you bro.
Best advice.
There is 4 billion females out there boy. One has to be as despreat as you are
>Just be yourself
Unless you’re a troony.
Be troony,
Ask Incels on date,
Get turned down,
Ask girls on date,
Get turned down.
Ask troony on date
Get turned down.
INVADE UKRAINE
I think you mean be yourself and stop being the person twitter tricked you into thinking you are
No one was right.
she looks like she slurps Gumball's cum while wearing nothing but a collar
>Who was right?
the one that got the girl
>Be naturally gifted with a dumptruck ass
>Get /ss/'d by your alcoholic, big titty babysitter
What's the problem?
Post full, it's not even NSFW
His dad. Women give the WORST advice for relationships, because it's stuff they think makes them look like a nice person rather than what they actually want. They will always avoid saying they're a prostitute that wants to be choked out, unless the internet makes it socially acceptable or they have no filter.
The advice that rings true for me, at least, is that you'll never make anything of yourself if you never try, just hiding to avoid risk. Most nerds and losers or whatever are acutely aware of how dumb they look doing anything, so they never get out their comfort zone, which is basically just their computer, which makes them really boring to be around (unless you can appreciate their autistic online hobbies/passions, which even then really depends on what they are and how good they are at expressing them)
Never leave your comfort zone for a woman
"Be yourself" isn't advise for picking up girls, it's a warning to remember when choosing a life partner. Being yourself is not the most effective way to get a girlfriend, it's the most responsible in the long run, because if you act like someone else to attract a girlfriend, you'll either need to maintain that persona indefinitely for the rest of your life, or she'll eventually realize she's stuck in a relationship with someone who's not the person they fell in love with, and either leave you or just make your life miserable.
But what about "fake it till you make it"?
That's a work strategy, which doesn't apply well to romance because the entire process is centered around a personal connection between you and them, so using a fake you is contradictory to the whole thing.
objectively correct post
>anime image and paragraph
you had me there
Anime website, tourist.
yeah ok weeb
Go back
to where?
You have to first improve who you are for the "be yourself" advice to work. In short, both are wrong because they left out important details.
Richard. You need to be cool and hot for her and entertain her 24/7 if you want to keep her for long or prevent cheating. Women don't want a partner, they want a daddy.
You're confusing women with sugar babies
What's the difference?
me
i am correct. my philosophy?
>stop fricking trying you moron
if more people were content with what they had the world would be a better place
'people" who constantly strive for 'better' for no real reason other than to get 'better' are stupid homosexuals who need to be punched
You don't need any other reason other than for your own sake
>board with a bunch of fujos, women, and gays is largely ignorant to how bad things are for the average/below average straight man in the modern dating market
really makes you think.
>Straight men with no social skills, obscene political beliefs, and absurdly high standards can't find their oneitis!
It literally could not be easier than it is today to find both hookups and dates. People are lonely, atomized. Dating apps and groups are plentiful. The only ways to fail in today's market is to be physically repulsive, have a repulsive personality, or actively avoid any real leads to chase sugar babies.
I'm completely without any desire for romance or intimacy and even I fall into a few situations a year just going outside.
>Dating apps
Stopped reading there. People don't use that shit for anything but a one night stand, but people here are looking for something more than that
What are you trying to cover up with your cope? The vast majority of women are interested only in a tiny percentage of men
>No! My utter failure has to be someone else's fault! It's society! It's all women! The problem couldn't possibly be meeeeeeee!
>objective reality is not real because I'm coping with some personal issues reeeeee!
>Can't dispute
I accept your concession
well at least you didn't bring up how your midget, autistic friend who totally exists is getting laid, and instead used your own anecdotal first hand evidence as an outlier as an example. against the raw data we have of how bad things are objectively.
>It is objectively impossible for me to get a date, just look at the data!
>t. High school dropout who never took stat and doesn't know what a z-value is
Women on OkCupid rating looks on a non-standard distribution is not big data on how hard it easy it is to find a relationship.
You have a billion resources and they're not all dating sites. Even you pathetic clowns can find a girl on discord hobby servers. It's not the 80's, the dating scene isn't just hanging out at a bar.
Again: if you're actively seeking dates and getting absolutely none then you either so hideous that children cry when the look at you, so repugnant that no one can stand a word that comes out of your mouth (my bet here), or your standards are way too high.
why are you so afraid of putting any sort of blame whatsoever on women?
Why are you so afraid of putting any sort of blame whatsoever on yourself?
you didn't answer my question.
You didn't answer mine
i just don't understand why this can't be a modern two sided issue with dating in general. your anecdotal evidence doesn't really mean anything. why do people think because they know statistical outliers that can be the case for everyone? that's not it works and you know it, you come off as insincere.
>I just don't understand why this can't be a modern two sided issue with dating in general
It can be, it just isn't. The actual studies and stats show that there are two strata at the moment for the young and single. About 60% are not looking for a relationship at all. The other 40% are having more relationships and hookups with less downtime than ever.
You're not being scientific, you're selectively using scientific language without the due diligence that comes with it. Yes, anecdotal evidence is worth very little in the hard sciences as anything but an example, but your non-interpretation of stats released as a marketing plot means even less and is no less informed by personal experience.
It also depends on what "the problem" is, we haven't actually given an operational definition, but if the problem is "women won't date me" then where the problem lies is purely a matter of perspective.
so you genuinely believe women are never at fault when it comes to dating? that's wild man. ignorance is bliss though i guess when you're part of the group of men getting laid.
>so you genuinely believe women are never at fault when it comes to dating
Woof, that's a pretty huge jump from "you not getting a date doesn't mean the problem is with all women."
If that was an actual attempt at a strawman to "win the argument" you may literally be moronic.
If that was your actual understanding of this exchange you are definitely moronic.
It's dangerous to go alone. Take this.
I do have a morbidly obese autistic friend. Not a midget but vaguely cuban.
He beats up goth girl pussy he meets while performing/working at a local haunt. And not obese or ugly goth girl pussy, either. The kind you losers wish were your big titty girlfriend.
Stop blaming anyone or anything but yourself.
There it is
The best part is that it's absolutely true.
This guy gets pussy.
What's your excuse?
my "excuse" is I don't want to try to find a lasting relationship with someone when I am unable to put anything on the table for them.
If I can't provide or support, what's the point of having sex at all?
Women don't have anything to offer but vegana but here we are
>What's the point of sex or companionship without the rigid social structure I was brought up to idolize!
Sex and companionship don't need outside motivators.
I think I found the problem.
Hint: it's not women
of course you do. everyone online has these examples that totally exist and totally aren't a pathetic attempt at trying to force men to make fools out of themselves.
>ugly ass clown cuban frickin big titty goths
kinda hot ngl
>You either get a daddy issues chick or nothing at all
That's your counterpart to "high standards"?
>I refuse to date any woman with daddy issues.
>Why can't I find a woman!? My standards are fine!
>Having any standards at all = having high standards
Who's the desperate one here again?
If your base standard is "zero daddy issues" your dating pool is about five Mormons.
People say "just be yourself" because if you have to force a certain persona to get with someone, you're gonna have to force that for the rest of your life, if you're cool with being an actor 24/7, good for you but for some people it can get grating, look at the movie cool girl, the chick was pretending to be something she's not to get with a guy then went insane
Most women are fricking garbage people though, the amount of women you'd actually want to date and marry is laughably small and they're usually immediately taken
I wasted my high school years trying to pretend not to be a nerd. I refused to join chess club even though I would have had fun, because "chess nerds don't get laid".
then in my 20s i took a different tack, and tried to fit in with the nerds that had lots of girls in it, so I tried to get into those chinese cartoons. they were nonsensical and fetishy and melodramatic and overwhelmed my senses. And also girls can tell when you're feigning interest in something.
And also, when people tell you to "be confident" that's just their way of telling you not to be a sad sack by magical means somehow. If you actually do fake confidence, that illusion gets shattered the first time a girl scowls at you and you react.
though i've heard what you do instead, is just be non-apologetic for the stuff you're into. "you haven't seen Grape Ape? it's totally underrated, I have almost all of it on VHS tape from when it ran on USA Network back in the 80s, want to come over and watch it?" If a girl isn't into that shit then she will at least appreciate that you're capable of enthusiasm for something and offered to share it. if she IS into that shit and you're the first other Grape Ape fan she's met then she'll sit on your face immediately and ride your tongue all the way to Valhalla.
Most women think any kind of enthusiasm for anything is cringe, the vast majority of women have never experienced enthusiasm for anything and only ever tolerate it in men who they consider valuable enough
>I refuse to seem like I care about anything around women
>Also all women are the same and none of them are real people with thoughts and feelings and passions
>Why can't I find a date?!? I don't get it!
Nice projection homosexual, no one said any of that
>Th-that's not what I said!
Yes it is.
You're the problem
For millions of years your ancestors found mates one after another in an unbroken chain all the way from the first cellular life to you. You have by far the largest and most easily accessible and horniest and loneliest dating pool in human history and you STILL can't continue the chain.
You just can't handle that the failure is yours. It would break you.
You are only arguing with yourself my dear homosexual, no one said the things your mind projected, you might want to work on your subconscious biases and bigotry
such a bullshit argument, we lived in small tribal villages with nothing to do but frick and play in the woods, not this schizophrenic society
The people who think modern life is better than what a peasant's life was are moronic, you sitll have awful working hours, you will still have a rich rulling class that you will not be a part of
>The people who think modern life is better than what a peasant's life was are moronic, you sitll have awful working hours, you will still have a rich rulling class that you will not be a part of
modern life IS better, so stop having pity parties for being a fricking loser and go take care of yourself
Better is some aspects, much worse in others, love life being one of the big ones
Work life balance is much worse
Love seeking is much better for everyone that isn't a rapist
No, depends on which period in the past are we talking about, but it's crazy hard to find valuable people to start a family with these days
>I want a trad wife like my 50's propaganda!
You want a life that never existed
>I am unable to process context
Literal autism, and not the high functioning type.
Try an autism only dating site. Yes, they exist.
Here you go again responding to things no one ever said, have you forgotten to take your meds again
>Literal autism, and not the high functioning type.
Okay? You're still wrong.
putting yourself out there is a meme, i'm not doing it anymore, years of work ruined by this fricking pandemic, my stress is so high i've started balding
frick that, I will watch cartoons and play games until my suicide
At this point I wish I was a Dog, cat or some other domestic animal. At least then some woman could potentially care about me unconditionally and not only that you automatically pass the looks portion since all animals look the exact fricking same. It’s probably easy as hell to get a mate as a domestic as long as your owner gets a female pet.
What if your owner snips your dick and balls?
life free of lust sounds alright. middle age effectively snips your balls anyways.
This right here:
Plus it doesn’t really matter because you’ll still get unconditional love from your owner and all you have to do is be there, support, comfort and shower them with love just as they would do for you.
imagine if you will, a society where everyday you wake up a sunrise and you have to stand still for an hour while at least 6 people you never met before are squeezing you in between them
sounds crazy right? but that is just a subway commute
go to work on an old farm and tell me if you like it.
sure, when do I start?
Strictly speaking you'll have better chances of getting a girl if you pretend to be cooler but then you'll be dating someone who barely knows you, which is unfun and unsustainable.
People don't really talk about this but I think the real reason dating is fricked is both men and women are expected to be absolutely amazing and flawless, and then keep that up. That in itself means over time the person will appear more and more flawed when really they're being more of their real self, not the more-appealing "pitch." It's why so many people say their spouse "changed" after marriage, too. We all just want to be able to relax but we can't.
Be attractive and don't be a c**t, that's it.