Has anyone seen this movie? I don't know what the hell is wrong with me but I just watched this movie with my wife a couple nights ago and I feel like I have crippling depression now. I married I guess what you would call my high school sweetheart (we didn't start dating until a couple years after high school) and never really felt like I got to explore these feelings of connection with complete strangers. I've had pangs of this before and they seem to come and go, for instance I did a semester abroad to escape my life situation and this feeling was very strong with me back then. And when I finished university, I wanted to seperate with her and travel some more and try to meet new people. I decided to marry her instead and I've been mostly quite happy, but every now and then I get so deeply moved by romance and the thought of finding myself in a situation such as this movie, although I know I'll likely never experience it.
I don't know how else to describe this. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic/dreamer, but this movie really fricking got me for some reason and I feel like I'm in the blues again.
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One of my favorite movies. That feeling comes from the fear of the unknown and the excitement and figuring the unknown out. To replicate that, do things with her that gets you both out of your comfort zones. Have those conversations you've always wanted to have but avoided out of fear. If you still feel disillusioned, leave don't waste her time. 🙂
>t. engaged to girl I got with after hs (but kinda knew in hs)
Watch the other two. The final one hits really fricking hard.
I've only seen the first one but I plan on watching the rest when I get time. Even the fricking watercolour for the Before Trilogy criterion nearly brings me to tears??? Idk what's wrong with me, but the vibe I get from this just fits so perfectly with the film. I also have this weird nostalgia for the 90s, before cellphones and widespread internet use. I was an infant in the 90s and never experienced such a world, so maybe that kind of adds to the magic for me.
it's very depressing because i will never go to europe and meet a the love of my life .
I fricking hate this movie series
I once dated a girl that was "into movies" so we used to hangout and watch movies. I recced her some basic ass kino like taxi driver, american beauty, heat and ran (she was half-jap) and also american psycho, se7en and silence of the lambs because she's into serial killer documentaries and she says she like them.
In return, when it was her turn to choose some movies to share she gave this series, some kdrama shit, gay ass musicals, and those live action disney movies they used to make like princess diaries and I had to pretend they were good.
>basic ass kino like taxi driver, american beauty, heat and ran (she was half-jap) and also american psycho, se7en and silence of the lambs
you are a moron
>have qt hapa gf
>fail to breed her
>hung up on trivial nonsense like movie preference
>get dumped
This will haunt you
Hapas are frick ugly
shut up queer
I keep hearing these movies hyped up like this and I'm genuinely afraid that watching them will make me kill myself
t. 30 year old virgin
We're all gonna make it brother
I have 5 years of inexperience on you
we're gonna make it lads.
honestly it's just some cringe self insert on the director's part, you're not missing out that much
They’re his only good movies
Before Trilogy, Boyhood, and Everybody Wants Some are god tier.
Dazed and Confused and Slacker are high B tier to low A tier
The rest are meh
Watch the movies then go travelling by train in Europe, you will make it brother
See you on the other side
Time to reencounter love with your wife homosexual. Also this movie is not at all realistic so don't get your hopes up.
>Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic/dreamer
sounds more like you have the soul of a roastie
Shut the frick up you whiny homosexual, you sound like a fricking woman complaining all the time.
K I N O
it's also very interesting if you kinda grow old with the characters, because you understand more every stage of life and how it affects your personal relationships. Everything is new and exciting in the first one but by the last one it's not about excitement or spontaneity but understatement and peace.
The reality of relationships fading and normalizing sets in across the trilogy.
You will never match the initial high of such an encounter with a long term partner, even if you marry them.
It's a terrible drug that will leave you longing for it forever, and there is no way to regain the high, unlike with substance abuse.
So you can maybe find it, but in the end you must still contend with your existential dread. There is no escape from that.
>im going to destroy something good because of my greedy desire to always want more
terrible idea gay. take it from another dreamer, reality NEVER lives up to the dream.
im sure you're imagining some idealized perfect adventurewhere everything works out and you fell completely fufilled and all it would take is to leave your wife. but that isnt how life works, and thats not how it would turn out for you.
what would actually happen is youwould end up feeling just as unfufilled now as you ever did. pursuing endless hedonism you'd destroy yourself and would end up in a much worse place, regretting your choice
I had this exact experience with an Argentinian girl in Japan (I’m from the US) The difference between the movie and reality is that we never kissed and obviously never had sex. We spent the entire day together but because she was leaving for Kyoto the next day she did not want to end the night with a hookup and so we parted ways after sharing some drinks. I never saw her again (this was in 2018) but it remains my most cherished memory of all time. The movie despite the ending maybe not being so realistic is still one of the most romantic kinos ever made and it has a special place in my heart for helping me take the plunge to ask a random girl out in a foreign country.
Watch the other two. The second and third help to demythologize some of that fairy tale stuff in the first one. No matter what choices we make, we always wonder what would happen if we did life the other way. I didn’t marry my first love who I met when I was 20 and she was 18, so of course for a long time I struggled with idealizing that relationship. You’re on the opposite side, marrying the girl you met when you were young and wondering if you missed out on meeting others. Ultimately I’ve come to the conclusion that “falling in love” doesn’t exist, but loving someone does. The kind of love you can create by fostering it with loyalty, dedication, attention and a sincere heart is greater than any love you could luck into by meeting the “right” person at the correct time.
Thanks for this, yeah I have the other two movies downloaded just need to make the time to watch them. I was really curious to see how the theme continues. I appreciate your perspective on "not falling in love" but loving someone instead.
The passion in every relationship fades out with time, a relationship cannot be built on passion.
Essentially a marriage works when both parties know this and choose to be together still, because the relationship is based on friendship, companionship and loyalty.
If your relationship has these 3 latter things and you leave her to pursue passionate romances you will most likely regret it harshly later on.
It's much harder to find someone you can share a happy life with than it is to find someone who stuns you with her beauty and makes you want to frick for 12 hours straight.
Life is not a movie, pal.
>but every now and then I get so deeply moved by romance and the thought of finding myself in a situation such as this movie
Every single person in the planet feels that.
Be grateful you have a significant other, the very same website you are on now is filled with 30 year old kissless virgins who have no idea what it is for a person you love to lay her head on your chest and wrap their arms tight around your torso.
I'm in my late 20s and EVERY SINGLE PERSON I've ever met who ended things with a long term partner, to explore "missed experiences" always regretted it in the end, both male and female. Do with that what you will.
Yeah honestly It's not something I would actually do, I know I'm being irrational, my life has been complicated since 2016 and sometimes I find myself yearning. I guess I was looking more to have a discussion on existential/romantic themes since that's the place I'm coming from.
Unironically if you feel like you've missed out on exploring other pussy, just go beat off to a new pornstar and be grateful to have a relatively well adjusted woman who loves you. It's a grass is always greener situation.
Wooing women is an unpaid entertainment gig. The connection you suppose is on offer is really the woman smitten with any semblance of confidence and new attention. Women cannot and do not want to tell the difference between phony chads and real chads.
It'd be an unmanly life, then, trying to be a real (emotional) romantic for a prototypical creature that exists only in your head. Have flings only so you know they are useful if the need arises, not for the sake of fulfilling romantic urges which are everywhere falsely encouraged to maintain his mental weaknesses as in youth.
I must be really stupid. I just turned 27 and never experienced true connection with a girl. I had casual sex but never had a relationship. What is wrong with me?
I'm such a frick up.
Shut up idiot, soon you’ll bang someone, get into a relationship and wish you were single again. Maturing is you realising this paradox and learning to be at peace with yourself
Black person, life is all about trade-offs and you can't have it all. A relationship pulls away from the ability to focus on romantic wanderlust and vice versa. You lock into the good that you have and build that up, because the grass is always greener. That romance is just novelty that eventually falls back into the pattern you have with your wife right now, so it becomes chasing the dragon. Some people are literally addicted to this feeling and become serial monogamists, breaking everyone's heart (including their own) every step of the way because they don't want to commit to anything. So stop being such a gross gay and actually appreciate your wife. You can spice things up and get romantic with her if you want too, it's not that hard.