>character deliberately wastes his youth by avoiding people because he thought everyone was out to get him
>how could this happen to me by sum 41 starts playing
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>character deliberately wastes his youth by avoiding people because he thought everyone was out to get him
Literally not my fault at all that I turned out to be such a miserable loser, my parents just did a really shitty job raising me. I guess you could (maybe) argue that it's my fault I never improved as an adult but I just never cared at all. Wasting time alone in my room until my body expires.
and then one day you get back problems and you don't have the choice to get out of bed anymore
what then, anon?
bruh same
That's me as well. On the bright side I'm infertile and can't have kids.
>is self aware of his problems
>refuses to fix them
have a nice day
Not even refuses I just have zero will or motivation to. I just do not care anymore.
>I just have zero will or motivation to. I just do not care anymore.
So...refuses to. Got it.
No there's a solid difference. One would be denying my innate want the other is I don't care at all.
if you have to reframe it in such a way to excuse yourself for not helping that’s fine
it’s what his parents certainly did to put him in the situation
you’re such a good npc boomer copying their entropic crab in a bucket ways
I am the point that I believe that my lifestyle is actually le good for me, because when I'm imagining myself participating in normalgay activity, pretending that I care about women irrelevant bullshit stuff, hiding all my opinions, interests and knowledge and enduring smalltalk, being nice to someone or pretending that I relate to someone's sadness, when I'm imagining that, I feel the desire to kill myself more than I ever had when I was just sitting in my house playing videogames
This life is definitely not for me, because the suffering will double
Mr Autismo, good to see you.
same here anon. autistic + two distant, cold, unloving parents who did nothing but watch tv and never taught me anything about real life. its no wonder that i became who i am today. ive made progress this year though so i still have delusions that ill make it
Yup. Autistic father and helicopter mother. I love them but I'm not prepared for this world and don't care to be.
Holy based, no foreskin no contribution to society.
it's actually 'untitled' by simple plan
>Character decided to look up his former classmates
>They're successful and have families and are in shape
stop spying on me. I was doing that last night, one old classmate is in a local newspaper with his wife because he just bought a large building in the middle of the idyllic town he moved to a few years ago, and they have three children.
other people I looked up before are well published university professors living in interesting places etc etc.
i'm one step away from homeless, alone, and work part time to sustain myself and that's it. no one knows me.
It's even funnier when that character was the smartest kid in school. LOL, what a plot twist.
happened to me. I even won prizes for being the top two years running, and these were selective high end schools.
now I look around as I'm walking and see actual drug addicts and squatters that are doing better than me, they have a girlfriend, a dog, their own place, sometimes are married or long term girlfriend and have a baby.
it's like I'm cursed. I looked up the statistics and there is less than a one in a million chance that I'd be in these circumstances.
>character looks up classmate who broke his heart when they were 16
>she's fat as frick, singe and post-wall at 26
maybe there is a god
free will is fake
he was randomly generated that way
>act an butthole as a defense mechanism
>now you're alone and everyone thinks you're an butthole
I
I STAND
NOT CRAWLING
NOT FALLING DOWN
I actively avoid people my whole life.
When I go to college I always go in through the far back door where only janitors come in just so I can avoid running into anyone. When I am walking somewhere (which is always just from A to B, never stop anywhere) I'm constantly looking who is coming my way and if I see someone I vaguely recognize I immediately go to the other side of the street and pretend like I didn't see them just so I avoid the small talk. Back in high school I used to just literally stand in the bathroom stall doing nothing but waiting for the time to pass just so I don't have to bother talking to the other kids. Never eat in public alone ever, same for any activity is it going to movies/bars/whatever. It's gotten to a point that I don't even go to grocery stores if they don't have self-checkout.
It's just always easier to avoid interaction than to engage.
>going to the mail room in my apartment feels like a mission impossible scene
>It's gotten to a point that I don't even go to grocery stores if they don't have self-checkout.
IKTFB
It pains me that Covid caused normies to 1) become aware of the existence of self-checkout, and 2) cause retail outlets to no longer be open 24 hours.
I eventually became comfortable talking to people, and even being funny/charming, but i've entered a new phase where I'm almost completely indifferent socially. I have no desire to talk to people, but talking doesn't bother me at all.
I've always been socially indifferent and deliberately distanced myself, but then after a while I get fricking lonely and remind myself I have to force myself to talk to people so I don't suffer the fricking crippling loneliness.
It actually baffles me that humans can have this much social anxiety and I real feel bad for you but wtf. What happens to you people to become this way. Other people aren’t that scary, regular life isn’t that daunting.
I was not a “cool kid” growing up I was teased and beat up on a lot but I still somehow learned normal social interaction by the time was a teen.
Did you have shit parents? Some horrible trauma? Not enough trauma so you became a weak gay?
I just can’t comprehend your life it’s so alien to me
Probably autistic + raised in very comfortable middle-class lifestyle so they can just hang out on the internet all day without any repurcussions. Tbf though a lot of people ITT are probably exaggerating for comedic effect.
>a lot of people ITT are probably exaggerating for comedic effect.
h-haha yeah I'm just exaggerating I'm actually a very social normal person, drinks on Friday am I rite haha
>drinks on Friday am I rite haha
I'd have a drink with you, anon. You seem like a chill dude.
You can land somewhere between these two extremes though.
you’re so helpful and wise
I don't know what else you expect us to say to you, you're your own worst enemies.
yeah i’m the problem because YOU can’t help
You're the problem because you won't help yourself.
you don’t know me or my life so your assumptions are nothing but ways to make you feel better about your ineptitude and lack of wisdom
I can only repeat my previous message. It's a shame that the mere notion of taking responsibility for your actions is offensive to you.
>drinks on Friday am I rite haha
by myself yes
Tbf though a lot of people ITT are probably exaggerating for comedic effect.
>Uh oh
t. 29yr old neet, lives alone
Decent upbringing with normal parents, no trauma, never even bullied in my entire life.
Why did I end up this way? I have no clue. It's literally just always easier to avoid interactions than to engage. Just leave me alone
Have you considers that maybe it’s actually not? That now you’ve built up a fear and anxiety by avoiding people and what you are trying to not confront is the pain of acknowledging you’ve isolated yourself and wasted opportunities for relationships and community?
>maybe it’s actually not?
It 100% most definitely is. Avoiding interaction is always easier than engaging, always.
If you see some old high school acquaintance in a grocery store it's always easier to just avoid than to engage with inane small talk. It's always easier to just say no to a coworker inviting you to some whatever company event rather than agreeing and going there. Always easier to just have headphones on in public to avoid anyone trying to talk to you than to be available at all times.
If you could guarantee me that whenever I have to go somewhere or do something that I will 100% never run into anyone for the rest of my life I would sign that kind of contract in a hearbeat.
Yet you still use this site so you clearly still have a need for social interaction, like any other human being.
Would you at least consider having IRL friends if they were Cinemaphile-style autists like yourself?
I like Cinemaphile because I can come and go as I please. No inane small talk needed, you can just jump straight into discussing whatever you want and dip whenever you want. No small talk, no social debt of any kind, hell most of the time I just lurk.
>Would you at least consider having IRL friends if they were Cinemaphile-style autists like yourself?
Absolutely not. The beauty of Cinemaphile is that you can argue with someone about the intricacies of an Audemars Piguet watch while that person can in reality be a basement dwelling poorgay who can barely afford a mcdonalds happy meal let alone a watch. It's about ideas first and foremost, not about people.
>The beauty of Cinemaphile is that you can argue with someone about the intricacies of an Audemars Piguet watch while that person can in reality be a basement dwelling poorgay who can barely afford a mcdonalds happy meal let alone a watch.
NTA. I can do stuff like that irl. You can too. Just saying that relationships are not as limiting as they appear from the outside, there's people of all kinds out there that you can get along with. Not telling you that your way is invalid or wrong, just that you shouldn't close yourself off completely to other alternatives.
>I can do stuff like that irl.
No you can't. You can't just approach a random person on the street and immeditely argue about was Deckard a replicant in Blade Runner or not, you first have to get to know them, have a frickload of inane small talk about random stuff none of you care about only to then maybe start talking about what you want to talk about. Even if you enter a damn film club you have to do all these things, frick that. It's about ideas, not about people.
I have friends with whom to talk about that stuff. Unless you meet someone in an environment in which you van assume that they have an interest in that, such as a con or such, obviously you have to test the waters first. In Cinemaphile you can assume what people are like depending on the board. Nevertheless, if someone out of the blue asked me if Decard was a reliant I'd be weirded out by their bluntness but I'd be happy to comment on it. It's still a matter of knowing your surroundings.
Deckard was plainly a replicant.
he really wasn't. it ruins the whole film and makes it worthless if he were. same goes for "american psycho is all a dream!".
harry potter is just about a boy playing pretend by himself in his room, it's all in his imagination.
rambo is just the character having a revenge fantasy mixed with vietnam flashbacks and hallucinations.
>I have friends with whom to talk about that stuff
And you have to regularly do a whole lot of other bullshit in order to maintain that relationship with your friend. No thanks.
Not really, I just send him memes and propose hanging out for a beer and talking. Keeping friendships is not that hard, and I admit that as a recluse who enjoys long periods of talking to no one. Just meeting up with a guy for a drink or to grab a bite requires very little effort and it's usually done in an hour or two. Of course, if you like the guy you'll end up invested in his life and how he's doing, and at that point it will stop being inane talk.
there was a girl in school when I was 16/17 who I used to talk with about films. don't know how I knew her since she wasn't in any of my classes that I remember, but she knew a lot about films like I did, just in different ways. we used to test one another. she seemed interested in me.
one day, I didn't see her again, that was that. either she left or by chance we never bumped into each other again. not sure if I could remember her name now.
ended up completely alone and without ever having had a real girlfriend until I was nearly 30.
well put. I have found a slightly similar experience in real life though, for a few years in between crushing isolation.
it was just the right time and place and no one knew me there when I arrived, so I became my real self for a while.
i would go around to different bars in the evening and bump into people I'd met, hang out with them for an hour or few until I was bored then say bye and go to see if others were around.
i'd gone from just 2 years before not knowing or seeing anyone, not one friend or acquaintance, to having several different groups of friends.
it suited me, and although some people didn't like it, some only at first, most didn't mind too much and it just became how things were.
i could enjoy the different parts of life and people that I wanted, without being tied only to them.
don't know if it would. be the same for you, but there might be a right time and place out there for you somewhere.
it ended for me though, some years ago. since then it has reduced into utter isolation with not seeing anyone week after week. I moved to the wrong place, it's that simple.
Nobody here will judge me for moving my eyes a centimeter in the wrong direction for half a second
Sounds like an exaggeration. My friends put up with my autistic shit. It can be hard but most people are chill.
Wrong. People have social status to maintain. Nobody wants to be seen hanging around with a moronic loser.
Depends on the person. I was adopted into a group of normalgay friends by a dude that was pretty friendly even if he still notes my autistic bs. Some people just don't give a frick.
I was surrounded and attacked by a group of around 20 teenagers when I was 15-16, for looking at one of them earlier in the day.
I'm not even an aut/sperg, some people are just utter filth.
no, they weren't n- just bottom of the barrel turds
Actually I just come here for the pics of Milla and Ever.
I got screamed and roughed up by adults for minor disobedience when others got away with it
I realised that other people get away with too much while I get somewhat of an unfair treatment because I am a weak target
So don’t be a target? Get stronger?
That's the solution, but the process has many different alternatives and it can be hard to pin it down.
think I am not gonna
This is a solution but tbf it still takes time to bulk up, especially if you're an adult with a full time job too.
Just having a stronger character can help a lot. I know plenty of skinnygays and fatfricks who know how to throw their weight around so as not to be stepped on.
and how does that work? Do they suggest that someone else will commit violence on their behalf?
I suppose it does depend on the precise environment you grew up with. In my experience self assured people are convincing enough to avoid looking like a target. How far confidence takes you depends on how shitty the people around you are. I'm nowhere near a ghetto, and I know that being actually tough in those situations helps.
I've had the same a lot of the time, especially in school. others got away with everything and I was punished when I'd done either nothing or far less.
i was always physically strong - but didn't look imposing, mentally quick and wasn't a pushover. I behaved generally well and did well academically. can't pinpoint it really - it felt like luck.
It's usually shitty parents. Most people have no idea how damaging parents can be.
can even be if one parental figure isn't as present (usually dad working for the roof over your head) and the result is a nicely mannered individual finding themselves without the capability to escalate things in general where necessary
>what happens to you people to become this way
Overprotective boomer parents who simultaneously tell you to make friends, but who never support it by giving you rides or any money to go out.
I was given so many mixed signals and instructions by both parents
>Always be civil and polite
>-But don't get taken advantage of
>Wait your turn and be respectful
>-But don't be a pussy
>Don't look to violence as your first go to
>-But don't back down from a fight either
And then on top of that, you throw in the militant boomer mindset of "It's not impossible, you just don't want to do it!"
I'll be a 40 year old virgin next year.
>Don't look to violence as your first go to
>-But don't back down from a fight either
If it looks like you can win in a fight there's nothing wrong with this, they're just telling you not to initiate so you have the moral high ground. Parents who tell their children to fight bullies far bigger/stronger then their children are probably wouldn't (and didn't) do the same thing under similar circumstances, that's just pants-on-head moronic.
Shucks guess you're right it was sound advice all along dang well thanks for showing me the light there, brother, I'm going to get right back on that grindstone and fire it up with some firm handshakes, brother, hell yeah man thanks dude.
Christ, lmao.
All this response tells me is that you have no genuine rebuttal to what I've written.
It's your fault you're a loser.
You might actually be autistic because the world doesn’t boil down to two extreme choices as you have laid out
Sometimes you need to be polite sometimes you need to be rude, sometimes you need to be peaceful and sometimes you need to fight
I’m sorry your father couldn’t help explain this to you better
My dad constantly insulted me and screamed at me to shut the frick up when I asked him things.
I've neglected talking to people and spent my time reading cheap fantasy novels instead. Now I'm too out of phase and now I get weird looks and silence whatever I say.
Single mom that abused me. Grew up in a very rural area and was "homeschooled" so the only socialization I was allowed to do was when we went to church twice a week, but she usually guilted me into just staying by her side instead of talking to anyone.
emotional incest, read about it.
I'm aware.
It wasn't your fault anon.
fairly well treated until around 14, but parents argued seemingly endlessly from 5 onwards.
i remember thinking/feeling I was old when I was 6. elder sister received the screaming while my father was away, then at 14 she left and it was my turn. the daily berating at home plus other external factors resulted in me becoming a shutin. I felt it was impossible to escape and just holed up in my room, sleeping during the day and only coming out when everyone else had gone to bed. that survival mechanism become a deeply engrained habit. that school was nearly as bad meant I had no escape route and despite being bright I dropped out or was kicked out of everything.
the rest just became more or less a living death.
hope that's enough information for whichever journalist scumbag parasite is out there.
I don't avoid people, they avoid me.
>character has been in his new role for 6 months now
>he still hasnt been invited to the whatsapp group
>colleagues are always mentioning things they posted on it
>its too late for him to join now because then the fact it took him 6 months to get brought in will be highlighted
>if he does somehow join, he knows the banter will dry up and the chat will become barren, like it always does
writers are cruel.
I didn't get into my class's wassap group until almost 3 years since it was formed. After a while I got invited to a splinter group of three people on which I still chat. Don't fret so much over it, just mention it casually and they'll let you in. I recommend you bring it up while you're having some drinks together or something, to make it easier.
>just mention it casually and they'll let you in.
Not if you're the co-worker they relentlessly mock in their WA group.
Then frick them, at least you'll put them in a tight spot. Although in my experience, trying to befriend people is something they appreciate and they'll rethink what they know of you. I know for a fact that they used to talk about me in the group and they used to look down on me, but after making an effort we managed to get along.
>I don't need to make friends.
>My friends from pre-high school will always be there.
>They are
>But distant
>Didn't even get invited to any of their weddings (not that the main character would have attended)
Bleak second act.
all my friends are from high school and we're at the age where everyone but me is getting married and starting to have kids. I am slowly losing connection with them, and the worst part is no one ever mentions it, and I know it's bad because they won't even roast me about it
That's normal. Why would they continue giving a shit about you when they have a wife (fricks them, supports them morally/financially) and kids (cute little copies of them)? You're like an old toy or game they remember fondly from their childhood but don't really feel like playing with anymore. You're there, on the shelf. To look at and reminisce from time to time. But you're not really that important anymore like you once were.
a lot of you guys (and girls, since memes aside there are undoubtedly some here) are genuinely autistic and that's why you don't connect with most people. You need to stop forcing these things and instead only open to to people you genuinely vibe with. It's a waste of time pretending to be someone you're not and you'll feel even less satisfied with your lives even if you manage to become popular with the normies
>open to to people you genuinely vibe with
anon, people here dont have ANY friends lol. the idea of ever having someone IRL they are "friends" with is a foreign concept.
There are meetups you can go to if you live in or near a relatively large city, and even online friendships can eventually become IRL if you happen to live quite close. Just don't pretend to be someone you're not in an attempt to get more people to like you, it's a waste of time.
I'm 27 and have been here since 2009. Yeah I'm sure there are older anons around but I'm just sick of you people prostate yourselves before buttholes who are never going to like or respect you anyway.
>There are meetups you can go to if you live in or near a relatively large city, and even online friendships can eventually become IRL if you happen to live quite close. Just don't pretend to be someone you're not in an attempt to get more people to like you, it's a waste of time.
if you're not an aspie you wouldn't get it but those type of things that seem regular and approachable to you are the most terrifying things to people on the spectrum. aspie people know that acting normal, speaking to people and going to events will get them friendships but they can't do it.
I'm almost certainly on the spectrum too and also have big issues attending these things, but at the end of the day I still did it. If you can find one geared one towards your (eccentric) hobbies you're more likely to find people you genuinely like (and like you too).
I know it's difficult but you people to stop telling yourselves that it's outright impossible. It isn't
>prostate yourselves before buttholes
anon, I...
>stupid fricking normie thinks he can regale us with his 20-year-old's wisdom
"Vibe with", have a nice day, zoomer.
I dont vibe with anyone, even my friends.
>Takes them 24+ hours to respond to you on social media/texting.
>Sorry for the delay, I was busy :^)
>When you are hanging out with them, they instantly pick up their phone and respond every time it vibrates.
lol, don't pretend you don't do that as well
I have one work phone and one private phone. Sometimes my private phone is in the other side of my apartment with vibrate only.
people just don't like us that much anon
get a dual sim homie, stop carrying two separate phones like a peasant
I don't
it happened to me so i ghosted her too. it got a bit awkward cause she was my coworker but i suppose she got used to the fact that i'm not a simp
Lol oh shit I just realized I've been exposed. Good thing I can still lie because I only see people on my days off work, so "work was so busy I didn't see my phone today".
>character starts putting his life back together, goes to law school and gets a high paying job
>Sergeant Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band starts playing
>suddenly finds himself 40 years old and has to date 40 year old women but never even got to experience 20 year old pussy
better late than incel.
>character goes out clubbing with the people at his work
>blacks out drunk
>has to wait two days to find out what he's guilty of doing
Fricking implying that people aren't inherently shit and that the occasional positive interaction with strangers isn't all you need if you have a decent home life.
people are inherently good, anon, it's just that our energy is limited and being nice and thoughtful towards others is taxing, so most people just save it for people who are worth it, instead of random bitter strangers like yourself
shut up hole
>people are inherently good, anon
You talk and reason like a woman.
>people are inherently good
Absolute moron-tier homosexualry.
30+ years of dealing with the fricks says otherwise.
It's a minority or people that are good, if that.
find Christ. that mindset is poison.
>Character meets people and they become friends
>Find out over time that they actually were out to get him, loses friends
I want to see the blackpilled movie where a depressed autistic guy comes out of his shell only to find himself feeling alienated and manipulated in his new relationships, then goes back to being a loner because he realizes his new friends were opportunistic scumbags who just saw him as a mark.
Flowers for Algernon
Name 12 movies where this happens.
No.
Anyone else partially autistic? Like I have friends but none of them close. I can make small talk but usually a bit stilted and reliant on the other person doing the heavy lifting. My mind is just always blank and I can't think of anything to say but basic platitudes. I just can't progress an interaction to the point where I'm actually engaging the other person and they're not just using me as a means to ramble about their day to.
I'm generally pleasant to be around, nobody hates me but there's nothing to love either.
Same I can get by but my brain is too broken to do anything more.
>character decided to spend his youth on an anonymous message board with other severely autistic people and ingratiate himself into this community, learning all the in-jokes and slang, memes, twisting his sense of humor, to the point that he no longer shares common ground with people in real life and can't even mention where he is spending most of his time because he's embarrassed by it and people would surely see him as deranged
He would have been like this whether he came here or not.
if i hadn't discovered Cinemaphile i would probably have ended up on tumblr and trooned out by now
>can't even mention where he is spending most of his time
This. I've been on here since I was 13 (24 now) and whenever people have asked me about what I spend my time doing, I don't have much of an answer because we're not supposed to actually tell anyone about Cinemaphile. My experiences with this have also led me to the conclusion that the freemasons are harmless and that they're just a pre-internet version of us.
join the freemasons. I think you need to earn a certain amount but at least you'll have some others to hang out with.
or, start a new more social hobby. you don't even need to leave here, just go to it once a week for a few hours and stick with it. after six months you'll already feel at home there, have people you chat to and be decent at whatever it is.
martial art, sport, craft, skill etc.
i've been thinking about going to some lame pottery classes because I've walked past it hundreds of times and seen lots of girls etc in it enjoying doing something pointless.
if I went once a week, I'd probably make friends within a week or two and be learning a new skill, however silly it is. instead I'm languishing in isolation and frustration
I "wasted my youth" avoiding people because they're shit.
I don't care anymore but sometimes I must admit that I get sad when I think about my parents. I'm sure when they got me thry had hopes and dreams and I ended up being a shut in. It makes me feel sad because I'm sure their lives would have been better without me
don't think like that, they love you anyway
I gave up this summer and accepted it's never going to happen and the majority of my life's "good years" are already over regardless. I gave in and bought some sex toys to explore new ways to get off and be pathetic and that's passed some of the time.
Kek are you dildoing your ass now
Yea. I got a vibrating prostate toy. It gives pretty good orgasms.
You might be suffering from porn addiction. Try nofap.
I don't need to contemplate whether I have a porn addiction I know I have one. I don't see the issue, not viewing porn isn't going to change my life.
It's all neurotransmitters. Porn addiction causes them to become out of balance, causing anxiety and depression.
I don't have anxiety or depression I just acknowledge I didn't get what I wanted out of life, it's too late now, and I'm just waiting for it to be over.
Why are so many of you fricking hopeless ? I bet most of you are still in your theories and because what? You aren’t some rich handsome sitcom actor you think life is worthless?
Fricking go do something, make something of yourself god damn you literally have nothing to lose
go through childhood hopeless
enter adolescence hopeless
begin young adulthood hopeless
face the end hopeless
ta-da
>post porn in Cinemaphile gamethreads
>delete my own posts 5 minutes later
>people start complaining about the mods
>me from 16 onwards
The funny thing is that I can not leave my room for months and months, feel like a crippled hermit for doing so after a while, finally go out with some old friends having a drink at a bar or something like that and after just like 10-15 minutes of that I already extremely regret that I ever left my room and can't wait to get back home, so much that when I finally go back home and open the front door of my apartment locking it behind me I feel so much relief as if I just shot up heroin. Just me being alone in silence.
So now I am fairly content alone, silence is my home.
That's the way it's supposed to be. If you're always comfortable you'll never feel the high of going from uncomfortable to comfortable
I watched The Truman Show when I was 12 years old and it ruined my life.
Anons, how the hell do you get money? Do you all have working from home jobs? Do you live in one of those countries that give juicy neetbux? I need to find a way to survive without having to deal with people
Overindulgent parents + welfare is probably the answer yeah. The instant any serious social turmoil breaks out in the West these people are finished
I work in a big warehouse, mostly nightshifts. Little to no interactions, just do my shit and go home.
Sounds comf
>how the hell do you get money?
I work 50 hrs a week
>because he thought everyone was out to get him
And he was right. But now I have the ball and the game is mine. Soon this simulation will cease to exist. My final act will be to free everyone from this prison.
People are garbage. They will frick you over for a brief moment of gratification. I used to have a friend group, and they all still hang out together, but they’re all pieces of shit that constantly frick each other over and wouldn’t lift a finger to help one another if they need it. Their parents wipe their asses for them though so they don’t really need anything from each other. Most people see a friend as someone to kill time with or gossip. That’s not what a true friend is.
Why are you guys crying? It doesn't matter. Women just don't put out. I've done the circus normie act and women don't put out. It's a waste of time a colossal waste of time and I'm better off for not having spoken to a woman non professionally since 2015. It's all a biiiig lie
You should only seek out women for a relationship. If you're not interested in that, then don't bother. It's best for everyone.
That's what I tried too. They all have BFs or are married, and if they break up they get back on the saddle really quick and won't even tell you until it's too late. Just jerked me along for her validation fun. Another one larped as single for six months before giddily revealing her long term boyfriend. It's hell
Sucks. I don't have much experience dating, so I can't comment on it. I hope I meet a cool girl I enjoy hanging out with, but I won't cry if it doesn't happen. Not saying you do, just thinking out loud. I think we can still find someone, if initiative isn't enough there's also the luck of meeting someone.
Oh I don't doubt that I'll find a long term solution for settling down some day. I'm just coping with how every exchange I had with girls in my teens and early 20s have been duds. Definitely my fault for not making the cut but women are really wishy washy so it doesn't help.
Glad to know you're keeping your chin up even after many bad experiences. I should try harder too. I always say that but never actually go through with it.
All 4 billion females on the planet "won't put out"?
How can you people be this narcissistic? You honestly don't think the problem might be you and your shitty attitude?
Ah yes, as a person of limitless wealth and influence I have access to 4 billion women and not the small handful I managed to interact with through online communities, hobbyist groups or rare random acquaintances. This 4 billion shit is the biggest exaggeration over, it always discounts logistics and reality. I already experienced it from social networking and branching out through mutual friends, I'm not dumb enough to believe I'll get something out of harassing women by cold approaching or using dating apps. 4 billion lol
>stay inside
>nothing happens
>go outside
>nothing happens but people give you diseases so you have to stay inside again
I've been outside doing stuff on my own and it's always more memorable than being inside all day.
I used to have a group of over 10 friends from the first day of highschool. It lost the magic. I don’t care for people anymore. They talk at me and I try to care but I really can’t.
But everyone literally IS out to get me. Why else would they ever invite me anywhere? I've seen Carrie, it's all a trap. Ever read Macbeth? There are daggers in men's smiles. Not falling for it. They're after me lucky charms.
Being a shut in is weird. I literally have no memories. I've read books, watched movies and learned some skills. But I can't tell anything about these last few years. And then one day I'll just be old and die.
ps. I tried the normie thing. Dates, job interviews, meet ups, etc. It wasn't fun.
>the point of life is to have fun
that's probably why you are suffering
Some of them are actually out to get you, not most but a few and the rest, don't really care either. I used to really run my mouth with people, but I was a total degenerate but at least people thought I was funny. I used to try to be offensive as a shield for being awkward and strange I guess, but truthfully it wasn't really me that had a problem with it but everyone else that would repudiate me completely the moment i let my awkward rather than offensive personality show.
~10 years ago i used to be the offensive one. it was pretty cringe looking back on it but it did get attention and some people found it funny. I eventually just grew out of even wanting to put in the effort and didn't find those antics funny myself anymore either. Without that attention grabbing behavior I didn't get any attention at all and that was that, that's been my life since.
>start watching "holy shit.... im the Chosen One...." cliche story
>complete series of trials/adventures/fights to save the world
>fight off bad guys chasing you the whole way
>turns out that was all protecting the world and the Chosen One was actually destined to destroy it, not save it
>everyone dies
>the boomers are right
go to bed already, peons
>Nearly two meters tall
>Have a social circle I hang out with at weekends
>Have a useful degree
>Working for a large corporate at a job that pays well above country´s average and also has real impact
>Saving up to buy my one apartment in 2024
>Still about to turn into 25 years old virgin in two months
At least you guys have excuses. I have it all but still cant bag anyone. Even tried tinder, still nothing
Keep trying, you're probably very close.
>nearly two meters tall
this might be why, you're approaching lanklet freak territory
Yep, this is what hurts the most
It's one thing if you're an ugly fat NEET who has absolutely no chance of getting a gf, because at least you don't have hope
But what's worse is when you're a fairly average or even above average guy, and on paper, you SHOULD be successful with women, but you just aren't
that was/is me.
circumstance and events throughout young life made me into a hermit when I should have been at the top of things.
i did turn things around for a while, and did become pack leader with girls surrounding me, but that seems to have ended and now on the steep decline.
have to find a way out of it
>Wish on monkey paw to get a GF and get married
>Trapped in a marriage with a casually abusive woman
>Can't leave because she makes way more money than me and the economy is fricking horrific
HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO ME
I ATE A BIG STEAK
This is basically my biggest fear, these types of women are attracted like honey to me. Always tell them to frick off before it becomes anything serious but I want to start attracting more normal women instead.
>women give me attention and sometimes i don't like it i'm GOIN COMPLETELY MEN'AL INNIT??????? AJJJJJJ
You don't want to be with these types of women, have read and been told so many horror stories about them.
Always make sure you have your own, independent source of income
Well I try not to channel too much /LULZ/ when I say that may be but try to understand from the perspective of a 32 year old who has never received a single piece of positive attention from a female in his entire life, when you say you don't like certain kinds of women who hit you up.
Unironically how do people make friends?
I'm about to graduate university after four years (to be fair, two of which don't count because of covid), and I still don't have any friends. I see so many friend groups whenever I walk around campus and I feel so much envy, I never got invited to any parties, did anything fun or cool.....just four years of my life completely fricking wasted. I'm also genuinely moronic so it's not like my grades were fantastic either
I'm not anti-social but any means, I like interacting with people but I just feel like no one ever wants to get to know me and I have to initiate everything....making friends should feel natural, not something you have to force
It's over for autists, dude. Even at young ages, the other kids can still sense somethings off or wrong with you. Worst part is they tell the other kids not to play with you, either.
Well actually, when I was in elementary school I had a lot of friends, then less in high school, and now where I basically have none
Is it possible to develop autism?
Something like that, yeah.
In elementary school, you don't have the clique-ishness and expectations that come later in middle and high school, thus the environment is a bit more accepting, usually
Lol we're not talking about elementary school. You begin to become a quiet kid around the ages of 8-10 and by 11-12 your friends can already notice you're weird.
>Worst part is they tell the other kids not to play with you, either.
This happened to me when I moved to a new school in the middle of 4th grade. The whole class was really nice the first day and I made 20 new friends, and it was all gone by the end of recess the day after because I dared to be nice to the one kid they had already shunned and isolated. Just like that they wanted nothing to do with me. Normalgays are pure scum.
some of the teachers told one of my friends not to hang out with me.
a group of the teachers in my secondary school were all degenerate pals, all PE teachers plus a second subject they were useless at, some kind of nepotism.
there were 4-5 that had some kind of grudge against me.
friend came up to me one day and said two of the freaks had been telling him not to hang out with me and another guy.
note we were fairly normal, did generally well in studies and didn't caușe bother, weren't into drugs etc.
it struck me as weird at the time.
we were both decently athletic too. for some reason they'd just marked us as "outsiders".
there were nerds, trouble makers and morons that were never once bothered, but I was singled out.
my 2 best friends in high school who were in physics class (i chose to do biology) told me once their physics teacher (she was your typical school science teacher with short hair, glasses and bad temperament) told them not hang out with with me anymore because i was a bad influence. Who the frick do these people think they are? Trying to separate teenagers from each other. Do they think it actually works? Do they think best friends would just stop hanging around for the rest of their time in high-school because some c**t told them to?
It’s pretty tough outside of shared community which is why most people stop making new friends past school
What sucks is most of the population moves or goes to school someplace they don’t end up living so those communities are shattered and if you don’t have people in your neighborhood or work that you get along with it can be hard to make fitness in the deracinated urban world
Unironically if you can find maybe a group like a sports club for watching team sports or any kind of activity that gets you interacting with others and see if you can make friends that way
I was lucky I still live in my hometown and made lists of friends right after college when we all lived in the same neighborhood
second anon's reply was good. it is something you have to force in that you have to put effort in, you have to approach sometimes and you have to take control of and be responsible for your own life. that means jumping into a conversation sometimes, or being a bit bold, or offering your help, volunteering, moving into a conversation and then joining in after a while.
it is all weird at first, but you need to push your way in somehow if luck has passed you by.
you will see others doing it and not thinking twice about it, and it works for them. you're just overhinking it and missing out.
not easy, but once you've tried it a few times it will become easier, and sooner or later become natural.
my dad is a failed normie himself, but I feel bad for worrying my mom all the time.
To think, literally EVERY problem you got could have been solved if you had a different pair of chromosomes.
Being a woman is not better why do idiots tell themselves this?
At least as a man you have the realistic option of proving yourself and gaining wealth and influence. Women’s re literally just on a ride hoping that the ride gives them a good life
90% of women are attractive enough that their looks are enough. I don't know what it is but women are just more attractive than men
Yes, you CAN improve yourself as a man, but it costs years of life and lots and lots of money
I'm so far gone that that's what my life is now; having a rich elaborate fantasy life in my head. I basically have a tulpa series about all my exploits from elementary on.
>fit in enough to hang out with coworkers
>feel like a complete outsider whenever I do
None of them ever talk about relationship stuff with me. Sometimes I’ll get asked about my lack of a girlfriend, but other than that no. I was out drinking with some on friday, had to take a piss and when I came back one was talking about a pregnancy scare he had. It just makes me like some burden, like I’m moronic something.
have say yes to everything until you end up in different circles and subcircles of people until you find a girl you like and who likes you.
it is a matter of meeting enough people and spending enough time with the ones you like.
it is hard after school since you aren't forced together in the same situation, so you have to move yourself to find them
You’re right but that just brings up another problem. There were two women at work who liked me but I didn’t like them that way. I’ve been told by both men and women there that I should hook up with people. It makes me uncomfortable, like the universe wants me to just have shitty casual sex with women I don’t even like.
you don't have to have casual sex with women, but you definitely should try dating them.
by being around women, you become better at talking to them, understand more what you do and don't like.
from the outside, it is just looks that make them attractive, but then once you know one a bit it could be that she makes you laugh, or she likes your jokes, or that she actually cares about you even if you don't understand why.
waking up next to her and she turns to you and smiles can be better than just another 1 point higher on the physical side. then again, sometimes you can find all in one bundle.
what going out with these women who are attracted to you does is gives you experience and confidence to do it again in future. not to use them, because they aren't expecting you to marry them half an hour later either, but to join in with courtship rituals and try things out so you know better what you really want.
you can go on a few dates with them, even have a relationship if things seem to be going well and she understands you, or maybe it will be just having dinner and then not going anywhere.
have to try man, otherwise you might be back here 5-10 years from now saying there were some girls interested but you ignored them and wished you'd at least tried.
don't think of everything as permanent or final, chat with whichever one you like more or seems a good choice, if she seems worse after chatting, talk to the other one. see where the wind is blowing. make your move and say yes.
it doesn't need to be perfect first time, have to try things out - and I'm not talking about sex
>muh heckin youth
Who gives a shit
it’s the only time to be alive
have a nice day then
make me you low iq brown skinned pussy
it is my strong belief that everyone who finds themselves to be too dysfunctional for irl friends needs an online friend group of racists that they can get along with
>virgin loser until 20
>had a complete turn around now chadmaxxing
>still feel like a virgin loser inside although girls want to frick me and everyone wants to be my friend
Can anyone relate? Feels like I have to force a fake altered personality people expect me to have/
persist with it for a few years and you might find it becomes natural, and that this is just an adjustment period.
i wouldn't overthink it too much.
if you still feel weird afterwards, you can seek out some people you're more comfortable with.