Do you think all the friends who ditched you over the course of your life ever think about you?
Do you think all the friends who ditched you over the course of your life ever think about you?
Do you think all the friends who ditched you over the course of your life ever think about you?
just got a text from one asking to link up again. Never responded
Same
Same but instead of just it's been 5 years ago and I stiĺl torture myself for never responding. I will die alone.
same
same
I just dont trust them. Ive seen their character long enough. Social Opportunist
probably a little, I'm sure at least somebody thought at least once
"I miss that guy, it's a shame he turned out to be so weird and I just can't have that kinda vibe in my life coz you gotta keep a tight group you know?"
Or something else normies think
normies do not exist. they just seem that way cause they're masking to the most common denominator, like the way you act around strangers probably.
You'd be surprised at how many people never had a source of stimulus that wasn't within the boundaries of normalcy, they lack the cognitive resources to go beyond it
>Thread about not being close to people
>Normies don't exist
Like pottery. If you had more random friends you were really close to, you'd know that most people are even normier than they appear
If they want to and are capable of appearing normie then they are normie
Nah, probably not bro.
Other things and people are on their mind which's why you aren't. Especially if you didn't bond for long, or deeply, and they moved on, becoming involved with other groups and activities, those new relationships would overshadow and bury and dim memory of your face.
I was the one who ghosted all my friends
quitting before you're fired
Im a minimalist, dont need other peoples bs in my life, you literally only need one friend
this, I'm currently 1 away from perfect harmony
I have a nice job, a wife I love and now a child, and no friends or social life. I have never been happier. I have a best friend and that's enough. People at work get weirded out when they realize I'm not joking about having no social life.
my dad has no friends because he left his home country and has an extremely thick accent, so the locals were always suspicious of him
I don't really get it, how can someone have no friends?
>I was the one who ghosted all my friends
me too bro. me too
Same but only because I had too many friends.
Felt the worst about ghosting my cousin but our interests just diverged too much over the decades.
I only did this to one of my friends and I still feel bad about it sometimes. He was just depressing to be around and also i lived an hour and a half away and he never once offered to drive to mine or meet half way. Felt like a dead end friendship
same
got 1 but thinking about cutting him off too
its just... idk
why would i even keep it going
im content on my own
Same. I just got back in touch with my closest ones earlier this year and they were all so nice and understanding about it. I feel like a dick.
i started to take my faith seriously and they were all too worldly in an aggressive way, not the best people either, but mostly my faith became an obstacle lol
Same and I don't know why they were good to me.
Idk if I ever had friends or just people I used to hang out with at school. Every time I moved schools I simply had no contact with my previous “friends”. Some invited me to go out and I always refused until they stopped inviting me.
In high school I had no friends. And to this day I have no friends.
Bro wtf?? You are literally me.
Are you a in a military family or a pastor/teacher's kid?
>Are you a in a military family or a pastor/teacher's kid?
No, just something inherently wrong with me I guess lol
>low tier in friend group
>get too confident
>be cringe
>panic and disappear in shame
i doubt anyone cared
>low tier
STOP GIVING OTHER PEOPLE THIS POWER OVER YOU, homosexual
same
This. As soon as I left the state for college. I am that one butthole in the friend group.
Same. Frick em.
I got barred from playing poker with friends for a while. I always won and quit while I was ahead.
All the money was in my pocket.
>What are you doing Anon?
>What do you mean, what am I doing? I've got all the money, I'm leaving.
>We thought this was a nice afternoon among friends?
>No, sorry, I'm leaving.
So I got barred from the poker games. Took them about a year to allow me back in again. And I stayed for the duration for the game and lost money. So I was good again with the group.
That's how I see it.
It just happens over time. Everyone gets older, moves apart, starts having kids (the real nail in the coffin). Past a certain age, society discourages male friendship. Still if you ever happen to meet up it's surprising how you can just pick up where you left off after not seeing each other for years.
same but I reconnected with some of them because they got more religious
The answer is clear. Consider the friends you ditched over the course of your life. Do you think about them? We’re all the same. Of course they do from time to time. Just not enough to go to the trouble of reaching out to you. Then nothing for a few years. Facebook got everyone who ever knew anyone to reconnect for a moment. Then we all remembered why we quit being close and got on with our lives.
>Facebook got everyone who ever knew anyone to reconnect for a moment. Then we all remembered why we quit being close and got on with our lives.
It's amazing how Facebook really was the answer to finding out about your past friends and what they're up to and then eventually people got tired of that and realized it was a lot better to just move on with their lives instead of dwelling on the past.
i got flowers with no note delivered to my house. called the florist and the sender was a woman artist id talked to a lot for a few years but purposefully stopped speaking to her. didn't contact her lmao.
Her image of you has probably little resemblance to the real person
knew her irl. she was 10 years older and married. things started getting weird and i purposefully let things fade out
That’s a remarkably traditional move from a "woman artist"
I was always the third wheel kinda friend. The guy that orbited a group of seemingly much closer friends but was never really grouped in with them. I probably don't feature in anyones thoughts or reminisces. My existence is like the background character that fills out the periphery of a shot. I'm not even the sad sack frick up Jerry from Parks & Rec/Chilli giy from the Office. I was so fricking disliked in my school that when we had a contest to design the senior t-shirt I won but when they found out I designed it some popular kids went & designed their own & everyone forgot about mine.
As soon as I left high school I lost any kind of social engagement & will have been forgotten in an instant.
I like being at the margins of friend groups because if they stop liking you you're just quietly discarded, when you're at the center it takes more energy to push you out and it always becomes oddly hostile. I still remember the complete 180s my friend groups did during my teens, obviously preceded by months of trashing me among themselves, but completely blindsiding me.
Being discarded easily fricking hurts.
>I was so fricking disliked in my school that when we had a contest to design the senior t-shirt I won but when they found out I designed it some popular kids went & designed their own & everyone forgot about mine.
LOL
>I was so fricking disliked in my school that when we had a contest to design the senior t-shirt I won but when they found out I designed it some popular kids went & designed their own & everyone forgot about mine.
Brutal.
Damn... Literally me... I even helped a "loner" (that i felt bad for) into one of those groups and he ended up becoming friends with them and i was still cucked. Everyone fricking hated me at that school. Frick.
I was the opposite, I tied everyone together, but since I went quiet during university, none of them talked to each other again
I had one pretty close friend from when I was 8 to around 18, then he moved to Japan and pretty much cut contact. I wonder why he did it, he cut contact with everyone in my friend group except one (and he barely talks to him)
Yellow fever sex tourists are weird like that.
He's too busy living the dream.
I have like 2 friends I kept after high school and even then we only text
I have no problem with this arrangement
I never had any real friends. Just people I occasionally talked to at school.
Same, I never went out with my "friends" or talked outside of School.
Same. I didn't even mind it. But now that I'm in my late 20s and it's much harder to make friends I kind of regret not putting more effort making deeper friendships. I get along with people at work but I'm obviously limited in the things I can talk about or the things I can do with them.
Don't worry - the people who put the effort into making friends have lost them all by now anyway
I had a friend who also posted on Cinemaphile like me and it makes me kind of mad that he introduced me to a bunch of shit like Baneposting, John Wick, Filthy Frank (extremely gay but he was just emerging at the time), etc. etc. I probably had like 10x the amount of hours here and I don't ever remember introducing him to anything.
No, but I think about that one guy that always tried to talk to me and I hardly reciprocated because I just have nothing to talk about.
I stopped caring about having friends when I got the feeling that people have very strict standards for me and I have a low threshold for fricking up but everyone else gets to be fricked up and selfish and I have to keep forgiving them, But If I'm not perfect for a second I'm out.
annoying double standard that people have.
Did I post this while asleep? Word for word my fricking thoughts
Bros this chick who I had been speaking to with texts for a few weeks after meeting on tinder, we stopped talking to each other months ago, but I just saw she sent a friend request on Facebook. What do I do? My natural inclination is to ignore and move on
>but I just saw she sent a friend request on Facebook.
Are you 53?
One of them tried to message me after a decade so i guess yeah
I know they haven't. Because I never had friends.
What about reconnecting to a friend that was a kind of a dick to you but still got along somehow, but he still acts like it's High School.
Are you me?
Im just being nice to the guy but not trying to keep the conversation going at all.
I've experienced this too. Ghosting did the job.
I wasn't a dick to you. I was charming and fun, and trying to break through that whole school shooter persona that you used to insist on.
You were the one hitting me with sticks and stabbing me in the leg with a pencil and shit. I was just being silly. I don't know what your problem was.
most people barely remember what they had for breakfast. I don't expect anyone that isn't directly involved in my life to remember me.
I don't remember what I had for breakfast but I remember every single friend I've dropped
I don't think I ever had friends close enough that I'd give a shit if they ditched me, or I them.
What is wrong about having a quiet life in a small island where everyone knows each other and you don't have to work that hard? It looks cool as frick. Be with your goats and end up the day having a beer at the local pub. No transport needed, no hordes of people, no public transport...
>But your dreams...
I had a gay and a gayhag basically turn my friend who was like a brother to me against me. He was a selfish bastard but I did love hanging out with him. Sometimes I still miss him but now I just hang out with 50-66 year old boomers and the occasional chum from back in the day
cheers
>>190
No. They moved onto other friends, thus their brain space and current thoughts/problems are occupied with what's relevant in their lives, and you aren't relevant anymore. They're only relevant to you because they cut you out, you'd still be their friend if they didn't
Short redhead I hadn't seen since highschool saw me in public and gave me a big hug, girl was infatuated with me. Had other prospects at the time and never got her number. I don't dwell on it, but your thread reminded me. Hope she's well.
I've always been the bad friend and when I tried to be the good friend I learned that you can't be good.
Sometimes I don't even understand how people can be friends with each other for a life time. I've learn this as well. If you're the good guy who goes out of your way to do nice things you'll get taken advantage of, if you put a bit of a shield up and refuse to be used people won't see value in being your friend. I guess it's just about finding those friends you click with, and unfortunately I haven't found that
That's just not true. I have a couple of true friends who I consider brothers. We grew up together and understand each other better than anyone else. I recommend it. I would give my life for them.
>If you're the good guy
>if you put a bit of a shield up
That's a false dichotomy and represents two bad ways to try to make friends.
You should always be a good guy, and you should always have your shields up, "expect the best, prepare for the the worst", as an adult you should be able to be good to people while still keeping bullshit at bay.
Friends have nothing to do with that though, a friend is just a guy you can be your worst around and he will just be his worst too and you'll laugh at it while calling each other's mom's names.
this, so much this, but while keeping in mind that "being yourself" doesn't mean being an insuferable egotistical prick on purpose, like
points.
I lost access to my facebook account which I made in the 6th grade and used to have like 60 classmates as friends
10 years later I finally managed to log in, saw I only had 5 friends, one of my better friends unfriended me and one guy who used to copy off my homework was begging me for money
Yeah they definitely think about me. Was the group's
>dad
and counselor (unofficially). Ultimately most of them ended up being drinking buddies and not real friends.
i hope not. i was such an angry butthole.
All the "friends" I have already don't think about me, let alone the ones that ditched me
that one hits close to home. sorry anon.
Attachment is for the weak
I hope that I am a beacon of light and laughter to those I have met.
>I hope that I am a beacon of light and laughter to those I have met.
The is sounds so corny, but I like it.
Thank you. I left, and hopefully my absence has let us all grow into better people. I shall eventually see them again, though perhaps only in passing.
>love alone time
>rarely reach out first
>only feel like talking to someone when i want to
Talking to someone for an hour or so is enough to refill my social batteries for a week. I used to think I was an introvert, but the image of an introvert is someone who is usually shy. I am not shy and people tend to like me, but due to some bizarre form of self-hatred, I get annoyed when people want to be my friend and then I just want to be left alone. I seem to be my own greatest enemy. I wonder how I can stop hating myself and causing so much self-sabotage. It seems like I actively want myself to fail or not even try anything. Being aware of this but not knowing the solution is torture.
You sound like me. I've made great progress getting through the self hate in... counseling. Yeah it sounds gay but if you find an intelligent provider you'll be having good conversations while trudging through the bullshit. After 2 years doing it I can't tell you how much happier I am with literally everything. good luck with whatever you choose to do. Change nothing yourself and nothing will change.
What kind of person are you seeing? Just a counselor or a therapist/psychiatrist? My only option covered under my insurance is PsychologyToday, a site in which you can find mostly counselors since therapists want $$$. A lot of these people come off as grifters who claim to specialize in a massive list of disorders, and I just don't buy it. It's hard to want to trust someone who apparently knows everything yet has very few credentials to back it up.
I'm seeing a counselor who actually gives a shit. Took a few tries to find the right person. I don't know how to qualify it for you though.
Counseling is a israeli scam to steal money, feed you bullshit and eventually get you hooked on brain drugs. No thanks.
Well, no. There's quacks everywhere I agree about that. You're simply incredibly biased. Used to think the exact same.
>counselors put you on drugs
Nope.
you got it right about the shy part, there is no such thing as introvert and extrovert, you dont get "energy" from settings, your personality is essentially formed from both conscious or subconscious fears and desires you have, there are quiet people who are afraid to be alone but not shy, so they like crowds, loud people who hate or fear crowds, regardless, personality is bullshit, you just choose what you need in any given scenario, more habitual people stay in pattern, makes sense to be that way, adapting can be strenuous if not done correctly
You’re putting on a fake persona with other people and that’s why you can’t tolerate intimacy. You make your persona a decent dude but being real with people means shedding the mask. Keeping it on for extended durations is exhausting so you cut bonding short
>ghosted all my friends because anyi social and never know how to talk to someone
I ghost my friends when they start asking me to do stuff too often and I feel guilty coming up with bullshit excuses
I do but then I remember how uneventful and humdrum of a person I am.
Nice guys don’t finish last. Boring ones do.
if u r friendless and want friends plz try the following:
1. force yourself in several in person classes/hobbies/sports/etc
2. say the absolute first thing to come to mind without hesitation during your social events. that could be "i dont think i want to be here." or "gas the israelites race war now." whatever it is, stop hiding and being such a little b***h. leave the safety of your parasocial edgy online hugbox and go fricking exist.
3. maybe everyone hates you, thats okay theyll forget about you in a week. do this enough and youll eventually meet that 1 in 1000 freak that can tolerate your autistic ass and maybe even enjoy your company. repeat.
caveat: most peoples deepest and most meaningful friends are the result of decades of friendship or a sustained shared traumatic experience like war or an absolutely shit job. you can try doing that too
what alot of people dont understand is that social intaeraction works in two ways, either you mold yourself according to every scenario of people and have no problem with it, or be totally yourself at all times (not an butthole of course) and just wait till you find people who like you, its not that hard lol te world doesnt owe you shit, be patient or stop whining lol
>say the absolute first thing to come to mind without hesitation during your social events. that could be "i dont think i want to be here." or "gas the israelites race war now."
I wish I had something on my mind. It's nearly always blank.
> Friends growing up and back in school were friends out of convenience.
> I was known as the friend that would 'disappear' in the summer because I wouldn't reach out to anyone, but nobody reached out to me either.
> Friends in college were really just drinking and weed smoking buddies so now I have little in common with them.
> Maybe 3 real, authentic friends, one of them I had a falling out with several years ago, one of them got married to a woman that didn't like him having single male firends, and the other one tries to talk to me but I don't put out equal effort.
> I don't make real friendships at work, just work acquaintances.
> Live 3 states away from where I grew up and went to college.
I haven't hung out with an actual friend in 5 years. Just the occasional girlfriend and 'mutual friends' (ie. their friends who I never see again after we break up.)
I ditched. Well, I moved out of state for college. Made an effort on meeting up when going back home then faded out since having kids. Kind of a shame I let that happen because I would drive a couple of hours on weekends to hang out when i had moved in high school, then I started to fall off after going to college until just nothing.
Tried reconnecting with the only dude I really missed out of it when I got to go back home recently and it didn't happen and he didn't seem too interested in talking. I actively cut out a mutual friend of ours a few years back because he is dogshit so maybe that has something to do with it. Oh well, that's life.
I'm good at surface level getting to know someone, but I'm afraid to go deeper because I didn't go to high school and I missed out on all of that experience. I didn't even drop out. I just didn't go in the first place. Had to bypass a few legal proceedings about that. Despite all that, I somehow became good with dating, but I have formed absolutely no friendships with dudes. I'm 31 now. I'm an old frick with a gf but no friends. Would people even give a shit about my past history at my age? I know it'll come up eventually and the moment that happens, I'll be looked at differently.
This is just your insecurity.
I didn't go to high school either. Literally no one has ever cared
My friends all dropped one guy because he supported Trump. I mean they already didn't like him much but they tolerated him. Then he said he likes Trump and a few months later they made a separate group text to discuss it then they said they'd never hang out with him again. I'm the only one who talks to them now. Its scary because they like me and they depend on me for certain social activities but if they knew my beliefs (which are insane and extreme even by /misc/ standards) I don't even know how they'd react. Probably drop me too, and then 9 years of friendship would be down the drain in an instant. Just like that. It's just hard to believe. And having friends I don't need to hide that from just makes it feel even worse. Like my gf would probably also dump me if she knew I was a racist sexist incel bigot.
yeah its crazy how triggered my friends got when i told them i was preparing for a civil war of ethnic cleansing and might have to kill them if they were dating non-whites when the war kicked off. they basically all ghosted me
>yeah its crazy how triggered my friends got when i told them i was preparing for a civil war of ethnic cleansing and might have to kill them if they were dating non-whites when the war kicked off. they basically all ghosted me
A lefty white friend of mine told me they were worried there might be a race war in the near future because of tensions as a criticism of Trump. I pointed out that you don't get to pick sides in a race war no matter how it starts. Surprisingly their politics moderated after that.
I lost a few life-long friends just for simply saying that Trump wasn't nearly as bad as he was made out to be. I think I was ultimately better off for it. They were very negative people who really went crazy when Trump was elected.
>Insane and extreme even by /misc/ standards
Well you can’t really blame them. No matter how long you spend on here what’s normal here is never gonna be normal in real life.
>which are insane and extreme even by /misc/ standards
Post them
>incel
>gf
Wut?
>>gf
>Wut?
when people use incel as an insult they usually just mean misogynist
What I meant is, getting a gf does NOT cure the incel mindset.
No
I know for a fact I pay no rent for headspace in the minds of the 2 only friends who ever ditched me.
One was a hypocritical Deus Vultard, would spend his money on prostitutes and go around complaining about the decline of the west, unironically got pissed AF if I called jebus a joo on a stick, yet lived less accordingly to the bible than I, in my non-religiousness, did. He quit all common social circles, I literally cost him friendships for not subscribing to his handed-down version of objective morals, mutual friends talk to me about him.
The other one was a "current year" activist, spouting all the drivel about whatever social issue of the week is the fault of evil billionaires, except when it was a billionaire that had whatever flag he vouched for in the profile pic. Dude got so pissed at me for saying one dose of the vaccine wouldn't be enough he blacklisted me from his life. I still hear about him from mutual friend though, apparently he has murderous thoughts too (not that he has the competence, coldness and upper-body strength to pose a threat, and I say this as a fairly average dude).
I've also had friends cut me off and later reinstate me, all without me knowing I was ever cut off (mostly due to wanting distance from their self-destrutive thendencies).
I was also cut off by a guy once for not liking whatever geekslop franchise he liked, but I didn't really consider him anything mroe than an acquaintance.
>not liking whatever gerkslop franchise he liked
Lol when did people start to treat consumable media like religious zealots treat their sacred texts?
I believe it was a long-drawn process, and also kinda always there (sports teams for instandce), but 2007 is as good as any year if you want to pinpoint a starting date for widespread geek culture zealotism specifically.
In that year, with the iPhone, people previously too dumb to use computers were suddenly granted access to the internet.
With TBBT, they suddenly remembered about cool spandex men fighting crime (and how their childhood was better than the 2009 crash and bail) and started flocking to fanbases.
Twitter and Facebook got filled with normal people that wanted to get an edge in this exciting new form of public discourse, so that only served to cement fandom religiousness even further.
Also, if you care enough to know, dude got pissed at me for not liking how drawn-out LotR's prose was, and for pointing out The Hobbit looked like soulless shit (it was airing at the time).
Even with sports, and I say this as a devoted fan of a few teams, all the fanaticism is for fun and done with a wink and a nod. I’m not someone who’s going to not interact with someone I get along with because they li,e a team I don’t. I think the vast, vast majority of sports fans are the same way.
The media fanaticism just seems like a different breed.
IDK, being from a country where people die in widespread fights between sports fans I can't see your example as any different from the geek fandom people that aren't in the extreme I mentioned. Thatcher didn't have to lift a finger on the account of keeping DCucks away from Marvelgays throats.
I'm assuming you're American? Soccer fans in other countries are something else. And it's not like we haven't had our fair share of riots break out from team losses over the years.
Maybe, since I think about them, but I never had very many and the majority of the blame for us growing apart was on me. It takes work, or at least time, to keep any relationship up and when you are out of school and working somewhere you’re probably just exhausted at the end of the day and want to be alone. The main reason I distanced myself is because I was embarrassed about being a loser.
When I thought I was getting married a few years ago, I was genuinely worried about how few people I knew well enough to invite. At least that fell apart lol
prompt?
Dunno. Saved it from some random thread. I like to imagine the prompt was ‘holding in a dump while simultaneously urinating’
me when I get a Teams msg after 4pm
>just kept bailing on plans we made until nobody made plans with me anymore
Eh kinda sucks but I like to feel I made people laugh for a bit before I faded out into obscurity. Juggling friend groups until there was no one left.
All of my friends are gone.
friend died of a heart attack a few years ago, friend I lived next door to and hung out with for decades left the state and became one of those "out of sight, out of mind" people.
I had a fairly small group of super close friends. We did everything together, spent every waking non-school/non-working hours together and now none of the ones left ever bother.
I don't have israelitebook anymore (a year now) but unless I reached out, no one bothered to message me.
But I'm married now (again) with a five month old daughter so at least I have two who care about me!
I'm sorry you lost your friend to a heart attack anon. I hope you have good memories to savor.
Thanks
It sucks. We were both big into and in the music scene and now I can't even listen to music because everything is just a reminder. Yeah, we had great times, but that's all gone now. I've always had a bad time with depression, but my friend's death makes it hit hard.
I can understand the pain. Don't give up.
I know they think about me, because I live in a small town. They stayed the same because their parents wiped their asses, and I became a man.
Rarely. I feel I got unlucky since I'm a closed autist who never contacts anyone unless I have to, and our circle went from hanging out relatively often to basically spending all their time playing online competitive games I didn't enjoy. It eventually became impossible to communicate with them, because I was excluded from their in jokes and language at that point.
This was years ago and the circle appears to be effectively dead now.
I am envious of my sibling's friend circle since they are so much more social and often engage with each other more.
I used to play board games with friends from high school pretty frequently, But I realised it was always up to me to organise sessions and they would flake constantly for trivial reasons. The second I stopped organising sessions they stopped talking to me. Shit hurts man, and now whenever people at work ask me if I want to hang out I turn them down because it just isn't worth effort anymore.
I would just like to say that I appreciate your efforts. I would rarely organize anything because I could never think of something everyone would enjoy but on the rare occasion I had a friend who would organize events I would always go or at least tell them ahead of time that I couldn’t go.
I can relate to it all too well. For me, its either I make the first move and do the heavy lifting, or become completely invisible to others and never get approached. It feels like being born in a lowest caste, social interaction wise.
Friendships are matters of convenience, I'm sorry anon.
Maybe. I saw three girls I went to high school with 11 years ago when I went to a punk rock concert recently. There was recognition on their face and it was evident on mine I'm sure, but I didn't care enough about them to stop listening to the band and having fun. They probably mentioned seeing me to others from those days.
>Befriend the nerd and autists because you’re not confident in being part of the cool kids
>Secretly feel superior to the nerds and autists
>Sabotage myself anytime I tried to insert myself into becoming one of the cool kids
>Secretly feel superior to the cool kids as well
>Move schools and never talk to any of the nerds again
I have no idea why I just didn’t try to be friends with the cool and popular kids. I had nothing in common with the losers, just befriended them to not be an outcast.
When I got to high school I just didn’t give a frick anymore and became a full blown outcast. I don’t think a single teacher even remembers me.
I just don’t feel like doing shit. My house got wiped out in hurricane Ian last year and I’m drowning in debt because insurance still hasn’t came through and I’m living in my old childhood bedroom. I have no reason to even get up off the couch, in fact it causes so much mental strain my body hurts. Haven’t heard from any of my “friends” in years despite all this.
>and I’m drowning in debt because insurance still hasn’t came through
You should probably get on that.
Yeah I’m chasing shifts at a restraunt. Hurricane Ian destroyed Fort Myers and I had to move back to New England and still haven’t found anywhere to work. I pay off little bits of what I can but my credit and everything is ruined and I’m 33 and single. It’s fricking over.
No I mean getting the insurance payout.
Yeah that would be fricking nice. I pretty much have to hire a lawyer and sue them because they’ve obviously breached the contract, but it’s because millions and millions of people are all filing huge claims at the same time and it’s taking literal years to handle it all. Meanwhile that pedophile Joe Biden is printing trillions of dollars to glass Russian and Palestinian kids but literally LITERALLY $0.00 in hurricane relief. Even that 9/11 mother fricker George Bush was helping hurricane Katrina. Some Natguard trannies were handing out free water bottles in a destroyed walmart parking lot surrounded by literal yachts that had been thrown from the sea into the middle of town and everything else. I left like 6 months after the hurricane but it was still a ruin when I left. The water was literally 30 feet high and sharks were swimming the streets looking for bodies like a shipwreck.
That's horrifying.
Climate change isn’t real bro this didn’t happen
o, you sweet boy. These companies will do anything to not pay you out. They will make up new terms like 'impasse' or 'opened and closed once' that tell you've been denied but not 'closed'. They make it sound like you've been totally denied, but all theyre doing is putting you in limbo hoping you'll just give up. After literal years of cat and mouse maybe you'll get something.
American's live in a literal dystopia but enough people are getting by that theyre apathetic to it all.
Moving would do you mind a lot of good. Fresh air too. Diet and nutrition play a large role as well, if you're eating poorly.
I basically ditched everyone the instant I graduated, well I never actually went to the last day of high school, and I didn't go to the graduation ceremony either, so before that actually. I cyberstalk them occasionally, people are so careless with their online presence.
I played xbox 360 online with one guy occasionally for a few years. Eventually I stopped playing xbox, and I don't know what happened to him because he had zero online social media like me.
one dude has gotten married three times
another dude apparently pissed off everyone like a year or two into college, and they all cut ties with him. He became an actual nazi for awhile I think.
One dude trooned out, and killed himself earlier this year. I feel kind of bad, I thought about trying to get in contract with him when I saw that he trooned out when I was cyberstalking people last year, but considering I hadn't talked to him in 15 years I figured it would be really weird.
One dude became a game developer, and got real fat.
One girl who was an actual really good artist works on shitty animated offbrand animated movies, and seemed miserable from their social media.
Another girl got pregnant in college, dropped out, and has worked menial jobs ever since.
One dude who was was real good at track & field got some athletic sponsorships in college, but got addicted to drugs and has been an off and on addict ever since.
Another guy joined the military, went to Afghanistan, and got real fricked up mentally.
There was one guy who was always shouting Black person in high school, and I would always tell him to chill with that. He got married, lost a bunch of weight, and has a seemingly normal family and job in IT. Probably the most well adjusted person, pretty funny considering how unhinged and racist he was in high school.
Nope. I ditched them. I started doing better and didn't need to waste time with them any more.
I rarely look back, but when I do, I remind myself to stay away from volatile persons and situations.
Also, off-topic. Why don't they move good off-topic threads to /trash/ or /bant/ like they used to?
The truth is that people only care to show up, keep in contact, text first, etc if they feel like its a plus to have you as a friend. If they feel like you can be an important piece for networking, if its good for their status to have you as a friend, if you have an apartment in dubai and invite them to a party. If you can impress their other friends by saying you’re an important director to some important company, or a neurosurgeon, or a high profile artist, or an engineer.
Nobody keeps in touch with you because they “like how you make them feel” or that you’re just such an unique person with super unique and interesting ideas and humor and whatnot.
There was a time when people became friends because they went through a hardship together, but there’s no world wars anymore, no continents to explore and colonize, nothing bigger than themselves for men to bond over.
Maybe its better to be alone than among these fake ones.
>There was a time when people became friends because they went through a hardship together, but there’s no world wars anymore, no continents to explore and colonize, nothing bigger than themselves for men to bond over.
Dude you're romanticizing this too much. It was always because of convenience. Look up how many veterans kept in touch with their mates more than once a year; very, very few, especially as they had families or moved away to other places.
No shit, sherlock. You missed the point by a mile.
Yeah your point was that nowadays people only make friends because it's transactional as opposed to da good ol days!! You're a moron and I was pointing out that friendships have always been convenience.
Yeah bro people bonding through hardships is totally the same as boding because of status nowadays lol!! You’re so smart!!
You shot straight past me man and you're still being a moron romanticizing struggle. Feel free to not reply, I'll just keep calling you a moron for thinking friendships have ever been anything other than convenience for the entirety of human history.
>friendships have ever been anything other than convenience for the entirety of human history
moron
Then why do I have at least 13 people that I would consider friends when I’m a fat loser in his 30s? I just went on a camping trip with 6 friends. Going to Iceland with them next year.
There are always exceptions to the rule. You really think its normal for a +30yo fat loser on Cinemaphile to have 13 friends, let alone leave his house?
You forgot: Some people are weird and annoying. I met a guy at a gas station who wanted to jam some metal with me. I said sure, I invited him to a show and he was pretty okay. Then after the show I said I had work the next day and he kept going
>Nah man let's just chill and hang out
Over and over. Dropped that fricker hard, I don't need that weird clingy loneliness from a male.
>an engineer
yeah, not this one LOLOL
Are people not impressed with your engineerness, engineer-kun?
The ability to use a graphing calculator is easily surpassed by any neurosurgeon or e-celeb
Oh that's what you meant, yes that's true 100%
>engineer
frickin bongs
God I hope not. I've hurt a lot of people.
Honestly, I'm so schizophrenic, I just assume they do.
How are you doing, by the way, Gary?
I'm good. Doing well Steven?
no
What's up man
Got schizophrenia.
Do they have you on meds and stuff? What's the deal? Crazy visuals, sounds? If you don't mind me asking. How are you coping with it?
Cope?
Well, yeah?
I doubt it.
I hope you're doing good, Johnny. Same to you, Jake.
what's wrong with all of you?
I've reached out to old friends
did a lot of you really never have friends or feel like you had to run away from life? are you really sitting with yourself thinking about how you don't need anyone and feel disdain for others or some sort of peace from being alone? you have no desire for connecting with others? why are you even here?
Lonely people deserve conversations as well, anon.
Lol wut's with the assumptions. I don't feel disdain for them I just got bored and can entertain myself just fine with my gf and family.
>why are you even here?
Being totally isolated will give you brain damage. Humans are social animals..
Lost contact with everyone I knew years ago. No contact info, they're just gone.
Maybe. I don't wish them ill. I don't think about the friends I've ditched much more than there rare "Oh yeah, them. Hope they're okay".
Life is too short.
after high school I basically didn't have any friends anymore
So, what's stopping you guys from casual conversations with others in public, leading to friendships? I love talking to strangers and getting a little insight into their lives, thoughts, or feelings. I love giving people a good, happy moment in their day. I think most people want acceptance and kindness and it's sorely lacking out there, so why not start adding more of it to the pot?
I literally don't understand how to do any of that.
>just have a casual conversation with a stranger!
But they're going somewhere, and they don't want me bothering them. I fundamentally don't understand.
What confuses you specifically?
Sounds like bad luck. There's very good people out there.
Very cool.
Hasn't happened yet!
I really do want all of you guys to be able to succeed in anyway you can. I believe in you.
>what confuses you specifically?
All of it. There are obviously appropriate moments to approach a stranger, and try to start an interaction, but I don't understand when those moments are. No one ever taught me any of this, and everyone else just seems to know, like there's some blinking light above their head saying "here's your opening". Whatever that thing is that all of you are picking up on, I'm not picking up on it.
It is difficult to put into words, but I'm not done thinking.
I already do that I just don't keep in contact because every single time they just want a sounding board instead of a friend.
>I love giving people a good, happy moment in their day.
Thanks for that. I got a call from a debt collector the other day, and after the transaction, she said that I had a smooth, deep voice fit for radio. Just a simple nice comment like that made my day. But anyway, I'm too shy to strike up a conversation with a random person.
>dude just talk to strangers lmao
until one of them is a violent schizo and he decides to stab you to death
I wear bulletproof armor whenever I go outside and I'm a suburbanite.
>not pipe bomb proof
rookie
useless against knives
It's okay, I've read a book about brazillian knife fighting tactics.
Imagine being 30-40 and trying to “make friends.”
It's stigmatic comments like this that make it harder you moron.
I'm the guy who posted the corny talk to strangers thing and am 31. People legitimately gravitate towards me and I'm neither full of money nor a large planetary mass.
Yeah but they won’t be the people you shared your life and grew up with. They’ll always have nostalgic memories of their friends and never have loyalty to you. I’m being blackpilled, but I’d be best friends and loyal to the end to anyone who was loyal to the end for me. Which is no one.
>Which is no one.
Because why should they be?
With that attitude no one will get the benefit of being friends with me.
Who says anybody needs your loyalty?
Alright good point, I’ll just sit back and watch it burn then.
Are you implying lack of people like you is what'll make the world burn? The fricking arrogance on you. This is why you don't have friends. Finally got to a conclusion.
Unironically, if everyone was like me, we'd have utopia. It's actually that simple.
Every negative personality trait I have is rooted in other people not being nice to me. That wasn't my fault.
Narcissistic too, jesus you just further drove it home. Again, this is why you don't have friends. Maybe ingest some of that proverbial humble pie if you give enough a frick.
>Every negative personality trait I have is rooted in other people not being nice to me. That wasn't my fault.
Didn't ask and don't care.
Everyone's a narcissist. People just don't like it when someone else is acting like one.
>You would go insane if everyone was exactly the same
You haven't. You can't get enough of being around people who are exactly as tedious as you are.
dude you sound like a psycho
>You can't get enough of being around people who are exactly as tedious as you are.
holy shit arrogance was right
I mean, I'm a friendly guy, I'm open to anyone as long as they're open to me, I check myself if I think I'm being cruel, I'm very concerned with progress, and making things work better, and that's honestly all I really want to do.
How would the world not be better if everyone was like me?
Most people just frick things up, and attack the vulnerable, and behave in ways that are needlessly wasteful, and they call you a gay if you don't like being as destructive as they are.
I don't see you helping the poor, the homeless, the starving. You are just like any other person.
I would legitimately do it if they were nicer people who were equally concerned with bettering the rest of the world, rather than getting their piece of the pie, and letting everything else burn.
Like, I'm not stupid. I'm not going to extend my hand to someone who's just as likely to stab me.
I met a guy last week at a newspaper store. I was there for some beers. In the morning. This guy nudges me and says: those beers are lukewarm, ask her for some cold ones and she will give it to you. I did. We went drinking to my house. He's an immigrant. Anyways, fast forward to some days later, He calls me up in the middle of the night. I don't pick up. A few hours later he sends me messages.
>I lost my key
>I lost my jacket
>It's cold outside
I'm like:FRICK! I went to pick him up before I had to go to work. Put him in my house and showed him where he could sleep and where he could take a hot shower.
Not the smartest thing. But he seemed like a nice person. He fricked with my morning routine. I drink a coffee, smoke two cigarettes, prepare my lunchbox and go for a shit.
Because of this guy I had to cut my morning shit short.
But I went to pick him up and put him in my house.
>You saved my life
It felt nice to do something good for someone else. It made my day. I'm just glad he didn't burn my house down or rob the place while I was at work. I took a chance and it worked out.
And in a world where I could trust people to be exactly like me, I'd do that every day. Because why not? I'm honest, I'm not going to steal from someone. I can't trust anyone else to be that way, and reality has taught me they usually aren't. You give someone the benefit of the doubt and they steal from you, and then you catch them bragging about how they got one over on that doormat. I'm not sticking my neck out in that environment.
I just remembered the last time I was in a foreign country and got mugged. homosexuals even took my shoes. There I was: halfway across the world, beaten and bruised. No money. No passport. You don't speak the language. I was left to my own devices. When he texted me
>It's cold
I was fighting with my conscience. I know some of the hardships that life brings. So you want to spare other people from those hardships. I'd only seen the guy once. You bett your ass he will never forget when I went to pick him up and provided him with a roof, a bed and a hot shower.
You sound like a righteous homosexual
Righteous as in 80's surfer dude cool or righteous as in genuine?
dude whoa i didnt ask if you were a friendly guy or how open you are to people or anything else. that other guy pegged you exactly right. just an arrogant narcissist.
I am actually better than you though.
But if everyone was a narcissist, then nobody would be a narcissist. Think about it. Your posts are basically just
>me, me, me, me, me
You think you aren't the only person who does this? You are.
No, absolutely everyone is self absorbed.
And they should be. It's healthy to care about yourself and your own needs. The opposite is emotional slavery.
You’re not talking to the same guy some other guy swooped in and started having the conversation like a schitzo lol
You sound like a gay and your shit's all moronic.
You would go insane if everyone was exactly the same, you brainlet.
Single people in their 30s and 40s move to new towns, cities and countries all the time for work and then proceed to build themselves a new social network in that spot with people who share their hobbies and interests. Nothing weird about it
Lol do you just butt into random people’s conversations in public?
No lol
Then what do you do exactly?
I had a conversation with a stocker at a grocery store that started because I said
>hey man, good day?
and learned about the family he supports and the daughter he loves. I shook his hand and went about my day. His mood changed exponentially for the better by the end. I'll admit it's hard to put it into words or give you better examples so I apologize for that. It's a feeling I get when I know I can have a real conversation with a person.
Are these people like Italian or something?
I'm not being weird, but I live around a bunch of emotionally cold Angloids, who don't just give random outpourings of emotion to strangers. It doesn't happen. You can pass by someone for years, and the most you know about them is they have a dog.
I've been told I have a warm uhhhhh aura? No idea, but that specific guy was definitely anglo. I find it works for any race.
I get told I'm "stubborn and arrogant". I don't know what I did. I try to say something I think is funny, people think I'm trying to start a fight, for some reason.
It may be an issue simply reading social queues I'd guess. Are you making off-color, inappropriate jokes or poorly timed? The tone you're speaking in may also be the issue. Are you coming off as pompous because of the way you say something?
I'll tell you an exact interaction.
People were doing the whole "why do the Hulk's pants never fall off?" bit, and I thought it would be funny to be super obtuse and stonewall the bit so I said "because you'd see his dick".
In my mind, that's a funny elevation of the initial idea, but to them that was apparently me being mean and not wanting to have fun.
They completely misread my intentions, and then they made a judgement of me based on that, and once people decide that's who you are, you can't say "no you don't understand, I'm actually really fun. I was doing a funny thing, see". They just don't like you.
That has happened to me over and over again throughout my life.
Does laughing it off and saying no no my bad this is what I mean, not ever work? I see the angle you were going for, but I also kinda see how it fell flat. Sucks that people assume you're trying to rain on their parade.
>Hey man, good day?
>Yup *goes back to whatever hes doing*
My only friend is someone who had (maybe still has) feelings for me and I'm pretty sure thats the only reason shes still around. Once it wears off the rose tinted glasses she has on with be removed and the one person who truly knows me will be gone
no. i was never a good friend to anyone.
Don't be so hard on yourself. It's a vicious cycle. Seriously.
My gf from high school and a little after still calls me once a year on my birthday
Also, you're not better than me, and if you weren't a manchild too, you wouldn't be here. Ableism isn't nice. It's no nicer than me making fun of you for having bodily deformities, and a prostitute for a mother.
I don't appreciate this whole act of putting me down, as if you're trying to impress "the cool kids". Which cool kids? You're a grown man. All of those kids are fat, or dead, or parents by this point. Only we're still here, because we're both defective, so accept that I am your friend, and I am your equal, and stop being a nob head about it, idk.
I've had a few over the years try and reconnect after i ghosted them or they me but i never respond. Its for the best.
Maybe this is overly cynical but I've found that others will only give the time of day if they believe they can get something out of you.
I can only speak for myself, but I care far more that the person I interact with is having a good time over myself having the good time.
I convince myself semi-regularly I'm a common topic of conversation and they regularly hold parties where they mock me a la Friar's club roast, without the roastee present. Then I realise I'm probably insane and go to sleep.
Do you use thc at all?
Used to very regularly. It would feed these ideas, hence why I haven't in the last two months.
Reduce your caffeine intake too. It feeds into anxious thoughts very heavily. General nutrition is very important for your mind as well.
Yeah, I've been doing that too. Hasn't been so bad lately.
Every negative interaction I’ve ever had in my life, friends, exgfs, teachers, whatever, torments me endlessly and I can’t sleep.
all of my friends would gradually start saging me until they dropped the contact altogether
shit sux
No. They moved on. I always thought a friendship was like a marriage: 'Through the good times and through the bad times. It's like that Eric Clapton song: 'Nobody wants you when you're down and out'.
I'm on my way up again. But it's a lesson learned. If they ever come knocking on my door, I don't know what I would do. I'd probably take them in.
HA. If ANYONE in my life was ever desperate enough to come crawling back to me for any reason I’d spit on them and laugh. They wouldn’t, but frick them there’s no way eat shit everyone lol
I don't want to die a callous person. I'm not a doormat, and have self respect. But refusing any friend the door to your house because some stuff happened in the past is being petty.
If they ever should be 'down and out', they will always have a roof over their head with me.
>I always thought a friendship was like a marriage
Why?
>'Nobody wants you when you're down and out'.
Yeah because people have their own problems. That surprises you?
That's the whole point of a friendship isn't it?
Why would you think that? Where did you learn and take that knowledge from? Could it be you assumed something from nothing?
Nta but you’re moronic. If your friends jump ship when you’re going through something then they were never your friends to begin with.
Maybe you just deluded yourself into thinking thats what friends do because it happened to you. Or you don’t care about any of your “friends”
Wat. Where did any of that come from? I asked him where he got the notion that being friends with someone meant friends forever. I didn't make any comment on its authenticity, I just want to know where the thought came from. The other bit questioning him about being surprised nobody really likes somebody who's down still holds up: People have their own problems and can't be expected to care about you.
Dont act clueless now.
>The other bit
That WAS the bit. Which is the main point of me replying to you so I’ll do it AGAIN, maybe you’ll get it this time:
>People have their own problems and can't be expected to care about you.
Random people sure, not friends. That’s literally what me and the other anon are saying.
If you can’t expect FRIENDS to be there when you’re down because “they have their own problems” then they aren’t your FRIENDS, they are ACQUAINTANCES. Big difference.
Oh now your post makes more sense to me. I wasn't acting clueless it didn't occur to me you were responding to the second bit.
>If you can’t expect FRIENDS to be there when you’re down because “they have their own problems” then they aren’t your FRIENDS, they are ACQUAINTANCES. Big difference.
That's a good argument, but they already have a term for that, it's just dated: Fair-weather friends. Friends that are only your friends when you're doing well.
I don't understand the sad social problems you have because I've elected to not be a social misfit all my life.
You can make that choice too, instead of being a self-aggrandizing loser. Up to you (don't bother replying to me with whining complaints about "bootstrapping")
Literally what do you mean? Just copying other people? How do you get over the feelings that your personality is fake, and you aren't a real person?
I have friends and family, but for some reason I always fantasize about leaving everyone behind to frick off to the woods or something. A lot of my dreams consists of me being at a social gathering and I'll just suddenly make the decision to leave the building and fly away with no destination in mind.
no
You guys are my only friends.
Love ya anon.
It's threads like these that remind me why there's a stigma around this place.
How do you reckon?
A bunch of pathetic incels crying about having no friends in-between posting BBC threads on /misc/.
Do you think normal don't have bouts of loneliness? What a rude and strange post.
Die, brony.
Wat
the half of this thread that isn't a social awkwardness support group is gays bragging about what an unlikable freak they are
Yeah that's true but people are like that outside of Cinemaphile in droves. Ever held a job for any extended amount of time?
The kind, helpful anons?
You can't tell me why I'm wrong. All you can do is subtly imply I'm a bad or dysfunctional person, because that's what you do to cope. You just kick people down.
>subtly imply
The difference being that with this place it's like moths to a flame. I suppose it's a self-fulfilling prophecy, but still, with some of the shit one hears it seems as though Eve told that serpent to frick off.
Why am I not allowed to tell the truth about my life experiences without you trying to socially shame me into silence?
You don't have that power here. Go away.
>but still, with some of the shit one hears it seems as though Eve told that serpent to frick off.
That seems very clever but I feel dumb as to have not gotten it. Exblain?
Adam and Eve only learn shame after eating the apple
I understand that much anon but are you saying that anons on Cinemaphile live in filth and don't care what anyone thinks?
He's mistaking Cinemaphile for a real world social space, as opposed to a place where people wear masks and shit all over the floor because it's funny, and no one knows who they are anyway.
If you experience "social shame" posting on Cinemaphile, you have internalised normieisms.
No, rather that they have entirely (and consciously) rejected their persona in favor of their ego, and like an ideologue they stick their fingers in their ears and sing whenever the world assaults (interacts with) them. Just look at
: he mistakes spaghetti-posting for having an edgy and taboo laugh and the NORMIES wouldn't understand!!!!
Had a really close friend in elementary school and middle school. Pretty much my only good friend back then. Got in a fight one winter when he threw a chunk of ice at my head and I beat him up. He was more distant and when high school rolled around he joined football to jump cliques and changed his number without telling me.
I do wonder if he thinks of me, we were inseparable back then before I fricked it up. Though it was some months after the fight that he left, so it could’ve just been social climbing.
It’s been 10 years since that fight and 4 years since I’ve last seen the guy. I’m happy where I am now, but I wonder how different my life would be if I also joined football. Chilling to think about all those little decisions that could’ve changed the entire trajectory of things.
I ghosted my childhood and college friends because of my depression. I haven't seen them in 2 years but they still ask me to hang out every once in a while but I hide behind covid to avoid them.
I think none of them do.
God, I hope not.
Yes, but it's always out of guilt. They want to lift the burden of betrayal from their conscience, not make true amends that benefit you. If you have friends that abandoned or backstabbed you, let them rot mentally.
Every year, I send a happy birthday message to almost every person I've ever been friends with in my life (about 50 people). Most of those people I don't even regularly talk to anymore. Not really sure why I do it. I still remember many good memories that I've had with them, and I guess I just want to wish them well once a year.
Funny enough, not a single person has ever asked me when my birthday is. I don't especially like receiving birthday wishes, but I always thought it was odd that nobody ever asked. I've been doing this for years
nobody cares because youre gay
So spend your positive energy somewhere else.
when's your birthday anon?
>childhood best friend kills himself in our last year in high school, knew him from pre-k to HS
>have other friends over the years but no one quite like him
>finally find someone else who 'gets' me on that deep level and is as weird as me at age 31
dont' give up hope bros. your friendship soul mate is out there.
rip brendan i still miss you a lot man
Sorry for your loss
>*kisses you and hugs you*
Penis.
This is me, but
>cousin is best friend until around 16, when his family moves away
>his mother hooks up with some degenerate who molests all the kids (didn't learn this for years, if he wasn't in prison I would kill him), he kills himself just before we get out of high school
>life shattered, try to recover
>somebody else in my friend group has a shcizo break, ends up killing herself at 18
>another person we know (but nobody likes) trooned out hard and started seetheposting about trump 16 hours a day on facebook (we live in australia btw)
>one has cystic fibrosis and dies at 18
>another one gets pushed under a bus by a boong at 19
>a couple more turn into druggies and are in and out of prison constantly and rob everyone they know
>one of them gets turned into a vegetable when some boongs sucker punched him and stomped his head in (they thought he was somebody else)
I feel like the only person I grew up with who isn't debilitated, but I am also a loser with no job prospects at 25 and I have been completely demoralized.
I miss my friends so much bros. I miss my family. I miss my pets. I miss my friends.
Im an ausgay as well who went through similar but nowhere near as tragic shit, damn. Didn't lose anyone to violence thankfully but a lot of suicides/ODs and had to cut ties with childhood friends cuz of their issues with mental health or personality disorder shit from being molested when they were kids. Schizophrenia was the worst thing I saw that lead to a close friend killing himself. Our whole friends group tried to help him and he was put in mental institutions a few times but could never take his meds and got weirdly into any kind of drugs he could get his hands on after his schizophrenia got really bad. He didn't even have good times on them and even tiny amounts of weed gave him intense breakdowns, but he compulsively took whatever he could get, mainly psychedelics, weed and stimulants. When we spoke to all the dealers he knew and told his mum he was ordering shit off the dark web he just started getting robitussin all the time. The shit he went through was really intense and seemed unbearable, I really wouldn't wish that shit on anybody. Hard to realise how brutal and cruel that shit is til you see someone you care about get it. The hospitals and doctors here were a joke too, refusing to hospitalise him even when he was hallucinating intensely and after suicide attempts. Our last attempt to get him in a mental ward so he would be forced to take his meds til he came back to reality, and hopefully get a court order for the month long anti-psychotic injections, the hospital refused to admit him after assuring they would. His mother waited with him at the hospital all day waiting for him to be admitted and when they told her he would be, she went home around midnight. They ended up putting him out on the streets at 3AM without telling anybody. He was found dead a couple weeks later, dude just didn't feed himself or drink water til he died in a park.
Reminds me of this song albeit tangentially.
>I don't really get it, how can someone have no friends?
ezpz just have hobbies you enjoy.
my dad has no hobbies
Sheeeeeiiiiiiiiiiiiit I dunno then.
>evasive and sneaky
>anxious and lost
stop singing about me mark
feel like i can't be friends with people who are friends with too many people
>one of my childhood friends was shot in a drug deal
>I was kicked out of his funeral
>best friend slept with my girl so I had to cut it off with both of them
>two other friends begin to feud over finances because they were in a band with my deceased buddy
>it's been 5 years and I've been spending every day alone or occasionally visiting a relative
I'm pretty far gone in terms of socializing at all. I might go to the bar and make small talk with the servers or go for a night drive to clear my head. I don't really care about much nowadays. I even quit weed because I was used to smoking with my bros. I doubt they think about me, but if they do they are very much aware of my declining mental and physical health in the years between.
I love you cris. Its still hard to believe you're not out there walking the earth somewhere.
sounds like he was a tosser dude
>shot in a drug deal
cmon
Redditgays really blog like this, imagine thinking a site full of losers will care? lmao
>best friend slept with my girl so I had to cut it off with both of them
Thats hot when you think about it. Do you think they got off to the guilty feeling of doing it behind your back?
>wonder what my old school buddy is doing
>he's deleted facebook
>do a background check through government work
>has debts and still lives with his dad
Don't look back. Just dream that everyone made it.
Its been like 5 years since I dropped out of med school and moved back home, and none of my old friends got in touch with me
Was one of the cruelest things I learned, that people don't want to be around you no matter how much history you share, if you aren't on their level of success
Not true anon. I ran into two old friends of mine at the supermarket in November of 2021. One became a paralegal the other worked in IT, both making waaay more money than me, but both wanted my number because they hadn't seen me in like five years. I still didn't contact them and now I avoid that market.
did you get in touch with them
kinda seemed like they should have reached out to me if they gave a frick considering it would have been obvious i was going through some shit
they never thought about me while we were "friends", so no.
>go to university
>friend from school is going to the same uni
>first day there we hang out
>at the end of the day he says "I think we should probably stop hanging out as much" in aid of making other friends
>over the next three years proceeds to ignore 95% of my text messages
First two years of uni were horrific for me. I had no friends. Didn't hear anything from this friend again after uni until the pandemic when he messaged me because he was lonely during lockdown. I was polite but never took him up on his offer to hang out after the lockdown ended.
Anyone else experiences like these but with women that rejected/ghosted you? I remember two girls I really liked that either didn’t work out because they rejected me or we started drifting apart but over the next years they’d sometimes message you out of nowhere? Obviously it doesn’t mean much but you’d think women of all people would see and meet so many men that they’d forget about most of them.
>Meet up with school friend who has been depressed a decade after graduating for a few drinks
>One of the first things he brings up is how I stole something from another friend back in 5th grade as a put down
Last time I respond to your homosexual cries for help on facebook anymore Owen.
kek, I always go out of my way to uplift people but the only thing I receive are putdowns, frick everyone
do people really dwell on shit they did as children? it may as well have never happened given the difference in mentality and time
>meet a cool dude online
>find out he is a friend collector
>a month in and find out why everyone ghosted him
>in one of our talks he said something along the lines of "I still keep them as a reminder"
Ghosted and blocked on everything
What? idgi
I know they do. Some even tried to reach out to me when they were on their lowest and felt lonely, men and women alike. A brief reminder that I never forget things, especially bad things done to me by someone I considered close to me sends them back running away. And I know they won't be coming back because this time I will be blocking them and burning every bridge possible.
>Then why don't you block them in the first place?
Because I want to see them get humiliated one last time when they realized they were wrong.