nah but i was a loner, we just drank and skateboarded on the roof during prom til the coach saw us and told us to gtfo didnt get in trouble tho
based coach hatch
why would you go to prom and skate on the roof. could of skated anywhere else. guess you really wanted to go but thought you and your npc friends thought you were too cool for it
Literally everyone goes to prom as the last event before moving on. That's why there's so many manchilds here. They missed out and the PTSD stuck with them
I remember not going to prom and I heard my mom in the bedroom crying because she raised such a loser. I thought about sparing everyone the embarrassment and killing myself but I promised I would turn my life around and make her proud.
I remember I asked my crush out for prom and she said she wasn't going. I didn't feel too bad. Literally that night I saw facebook pictures she posted of some guy who bullied me. I spent the whole night tossing and turning thinking about how he was fricking her and I'm literally on the verge of tears.
I was like and complemented suicide but eventually I stopped throwing a pity party and got over it.
ironically I missed out on my chance to frick my major highschool crush because I went to prom instead of hanging out with the girl who invited me to chill with her down at the beach
Damn bro that's pretty sad and pathetic but it's not too late to turn things around.i remember my worst memory was in 8th grade everyone in my class hated me and my mom called up all their parents and basically bribed them into coming to a surprise party for me. I found out about 15 minutes in and my mom admitted it later, through tears. Just like yours did. I was a frick up for a long time, too. Crawling out of the hole you've dug for yourself is the tough part. I'm "functional" now with a good job and even had sex with a woman I met on tinder so hey things ain't so bad pal
I worked up the courage to ask my high school crush to go to prom and she ended up having sex with my best friend after I passed out drunk at the afterparty. She didn't even kiss me that night.
Women are weird like that. They don't see or care for most men and inadvertently end up creating incels. At the same time they have this weird love of their sons that goes beyond their love for anything else. Yet they can't seem to get that how they view other men is how most women see their own male offspring.
Never went to prom or dated. Basically I didn't even really think about sex until I was like 26 and then panicked that I was a giant loser. I tried tinder and got even more depressed because no one dated me. I eventually met a girl who did like me and lost my virginity to her at 27. Eventually she broke up with me because she wanted to frick other guys. Haven't dated since but I'm also back to not caring.
Women turn their sons into pushover "nice guys" then turn around and wonder why the girls in his class won't go for him before pulling out a romantic novel about a rapist pirate and dildoing their c**t to sleep
Nah. I've seen it too many times. Moms straight up lie to their sons about how girls work. The son then gets to see the girls in his class frick every aggressive butthole boy that is behaving the exact way he was told to avoid. Then they wonder why that homie goes loco
I don’t get why they do this. Does it happen when the father is a wimp or isn’t present that much? Being an butthole is so much better in every way. Every time I’m an butthole I win something good for myself with no downsides. When I’m a meek nice guy I get nothing
Women infantilize their sons and want them to be little gentlemen, never really growing up.
probably due to 2 reasons, in my khv opinion
1. the difference between self reported desires and actual desires as classically seen in >personality matters more than looks of course >what do you mean perceived personality correlates almost perfectly with looks on my assessments?
2. most men encountered who are aggressive are in fact unpleasant, and it would be preferable if they weren't aggressive since it just makes them annoying. (further, non aggressive men are not in my personal sample since they by their nature select themselves out, so thus they are never unpleasant) (we will ignore that the biggest winners are both attractive and aggressive) . Ergo its best for most men if they aren't aggressive, thus you should not be aggressive
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I will be aggressive every time there is something to win though. I really don’t care if I’m unpleasant in the periods where I’m competing for a woman or a promotion or some neighbour is being a dickhead. I really couldn’t care less about being liked by some normie frick. So I was unpleasant? That’s what a winner looks like
50 Shades of Gray sold like 100 million copies. From high school and every job I worked its obvious the obnoxious and loud guys who are basically flirting with every girl (even when they guy has a GF) are the ones who get the most sex. It doesn't matter if they annoy half the girls in class, the other half find them endearing. The silent passive guys just get ignored. Girls don't approach unless the guy is super hot and most guys aren't.
reminder Edward "I like watching you sleep, it’s uh, kind of fascinating to me" Cullen is peak female romance
unsurprisingly, like men, women like aggressive partners *so long as they are attractive*
>Get fit >Get job >Get laid >Get gf >still miserable
There's no escaping it friend, life sucks. Even if you're got enough to get with a woman, women liking you is an entire category of bullshit unto itself.
I didn't go to prom either, but it could be way, way worse. There was this guy I've known since kindergarten who nobody liked and was bullied relentlessly as long as I can remember. One of those guys you feel bad for until he opens his mouth, then all of the bullying made a lot of sense. Literally stalked girls and thought he was hot shit and smarter than everyone kind of thing, despite being a delusional moron.
He went to prom by himself. According to friends who where there, he took prom pics by himself(which ended up in the yearbook), sat in a corner staring at a girl he would stalk all the time and was one of the last people to leave because his mom was late picking him up. As bad as you think you had it, at least you're not that guy.
I was wondering if this was about me till the end because I drove myself.
I'm 31. My lack of success/neetdom is slowly eroding my parents' will to live. I hope I can figure it out before it's too late. I've come so far since highschool. I'm almost normal.
I am realizing now this is basically me and the only reason I ever had friends in middle school and high school was because they were very small schools so seeing the same small handful of people over and over sort of forces you to become friends with your classmates. Once I got into a huge college I made 0 friends and by the 4th year I had grown so far apart with my old friends.
how did you not make any friends your first year? the college forces you together in a dorm for that reason. Athletes have their social group predetermined but you didn't try and smoke weed and play vidya with the dorm bros?
not that anon, but >this homie thinks hes introverted
real introverts do not act, but are acted upon
they will not leave their dorm room unless otherwise semi dragged out
they will not talk to others, but be spoken to or will not speak at all
t. thought I was extroverted in my small HS, discovered I was deeply autistic in college
Not sure what happened to my reply, but long story short I made the horrible horrible choice to commute instead of dorming. Biggest regret of my life, followed by not studying abroad.
How does this immature looking dweeb get the idea he should even talk to a Stacy like that? Another classic example of "mommy's handsome little man" not knowing his place. We need to start proactively teaching boys that they are sexually worthless and shouldn't talk to girls.
unironically on point, lads need to understand from a young age you either hit the gym hard or make good cash if you want a half decent lass, everyone is filling their heads with bullshit like "just be a nice guy" when it's completely false
People always say this, and it makes sense, but I've honestly done pretty well just being nice to girls.
I don’t think this is a case of Chad saying “just be yourself, it works for me!” Unless I’ve got a really warped perception of myself and I’m way better looking than I think.
I think most girls I’ve ever fricked mostly did it because they thought I was a decent guy.
That doesn't even make sense. >There's a party. >You decide not to attend. >Your mom isn't involved. >She doesn't have to fear any repercussion for your non-attendence. >The host is literally just your school
How are you a loser? Where's the actual problem?
Listen, prom can't possibly be that huge coming-of-age event that people make it out to be because there is no ritual in place for asking a girl out in the first place. You can't expect someone to act out of his own initiative on behalf of a challenge which only ever has been implicitly stated.
If your mom cried about your grades or you not getting into a good college I'd understand that.
When you think about it with what her parental duties are in mind her reaction becomes downright inane. I don't think you're expected to marry your prom date, right? So its not about continuing the blood line. There are no financial or socioecinomic implications for your family. Your mom is a childish hag mentally stuck in her teen years. She's the real embarassment.
My mom was somewhat of a Stacy whose glory days was prom. So for me missing out on that was a huge deal to her. She kept telling me everyone in her class went to prom except for the real dregs. It hit her I wasn't just a struggling person who needs to make some small changes but a real loser.
Prom is as big a deal as you make it. The idea that everyone loses their virginity on prom night is way blown out of proportion. Most people getting laid on prom night are people who have had a year+ of consistent sex by that point.
my prom date cancelled on me bc i fricked some other chick like 2 days before. then we all went to my friends brothers house afterwards to drink and he had just worked a show sponsored by rockstar so we were mixing that with all of our liquor and i remember just being absolutely obliterated on their front porch, drink in hand, smoking cigarettes, and quoting ATHF to myself until the sun came up. good times.
No. Just go with one or two friends.
If you don’t even have one or two friends, ask a few people you know that don’t hate you.
It’s a common strategy. I went with a few girls and had a really fun time.
I actually went to three different proms my senior year. There were several big schools in my area. I got invited to them.
As long as you have chill or laidback vibes about it, people will ask you if you want to go.
Don’t make a big deal about it. If you don’t get asked, tag along with people you know.
Didn't go to prom. Went to all the after parties. Got shit faced and had fun.
All the prom losers had to dance like fricking jesters and dress up like clowns while I just showed up in basketball shorts. Prom was for fricking nerds.
my friend's tiny tomboy friend asked me if i wanted to go if I couldn't find anyone else. I said yeah i dunno whatever then forgot about it. then I went to an afterparty with them and it was all couples and her by herself seething at me
It's literally the only thing that matters for girls. I got dragged into 2 of them, at least I got to frick my girlfriend after the first one when we all sneaked into a hotel. I don't remember much about the second one but it was weird not being from my second girlfriend's school.
didn't go
probably why I'm still here at 28 (turning 29 soon)
I don't even remember what I did instead
probably play post on Cinemaphile
I'm married now, though, so it wasn't all bad
I asked a girl to my country's version of the prom and she said she wasn't going because her Grandad was sick and she had to go see him. I go to the event and lo and behold there she is. I decide to ask her if she'd like to have a dance anyway and she says no. >Yes I was a complete loser in my youth, how could you tell?
Girls make a big deal of it guys dont care. I was with my girl for like 6 months at the time so it was just like going to a wedding of someone you dont really care about or something. The much older guy that was dating a girl in my grade who i knew through the music community (we were both in bands) gave me and a couple of my buddies a bunch of shrooms and i spend the second half of prom completely schwacked wandering around the parking lot and laying in this big garden thing the venue had.
These kind of things are both not a big deal in the larger picture of life, but something that, for most people, is significant in some formative sense and sticks with you in a way, like a lot of these other things around your teen years. Like, none of them are anywhere near the big deal you and everyone around you is making them out to be at that time in a very practical sense; you have an inflated sense of the significance of your stupid high school life and feel more important than you are because you don't have any real world perspective. BUT, a lot of these events, things like prom or if you got laid in high school or if you had friends or were considered a loser, or whatever, I think definitely stick with you in another way. Like I both don't give a shit at all about what happened in high school now in my 30's, but also know that a lot of what happened in those years definitely developed me into who I am and what my particular ticks, insecurities, aversions, and things I am or am not confident in about myself are. I am a much different person than I was then, too, but those years definitely played a big part in molding us, even while at the same time all that stuff wasn't as important as we thought it was at the time, if that makes sense.
I thought you were going in a different direction, and saying that they don't seem like that big a deal but then you end up remembering them forever. Most of life is just monotony and repetition so these ceremonies even if they don't seem important at the time stand out and are remembered.
>he didn't skip prom to conserve his energy to get crunk at the way more fun school-sponsored afterparty
lmao I just had fun with my friends, no girl bullshit got in our way
Actually I got laid on prom night and had a great time with my friends. You saying you hung out with your homies without any "girl shit" implies that you don't see women as being friends, which is pretty fricking incel IMO
do you think seeing two people of the same sex hanging out and assuming they are gay for each other is the reason you have no friends because you don't want to appear gay even though people can just be friends?
Maybe it varies by school/region, neither I nor anyone in my social circle went or gave a shit about it, and I heard afterward that it sucked because the AC at the venue was broken and it was so unbearably hot everyone left early.
I went to my senior prom with the most popular girl in my school. I wasn't initially planning on going. She broke up with her boyfriend like 2 weeks before prom, and I jokingly said I'd go with her, and she took me seriously. So we did the whole corsage and limo deal.
Once we got there, she immediately left me to go hang out with her friends. I said hi to my friends, then stepped outside for a cigarette. The gym teacher was on door duty and he wouldn't let me back in, so I just went home. 2/10 experience.
gonna need a bigger story anon
shoulda just clenched your butthole harder
always thought that, even if some massive guy somehow managed to get me in such a position, and then threatened to kill me, I'd just take the L and die
or maybe kill them later
Yes, it was pretty big and a lot of people who say otherwise here are coping. I took a Chinese transfer student I'd never spoken to as a dare. She was a wiener fiend.
Based. I turned out a big tittied, fit, but pan faced Asian girl for some white trash b***h. The white girl was still skinny at the time and a good frick but I regret it. Asian fever ensued a few years later
only girls care about prom. >high school is four years >there's a homecoming dance every September/October >there's a spring dance every March/April >by the time you get to prom every girl at school has already been to eight school dances that are all exactly like prom
This is the correct answer.
I forgot about that.
This must be why I totally didn’t think it was a big deal. I had already gone to quite a few dances. Even the ones that are restricted to only Juniors and Seniors are pretty easy to get into when you’re younger if you ask around in a chill way.
I asked the girl with the biggest breasts i knew and ended up too drunk to stand, let alone frick her. Still had a summer fling with her before heading to college.
Prom was miserable, I had a better time at homecoming as a rule. Sadie hawkins was a nightmare though, I got pressured into going with a girl I really didn't like by our mutual friends and was counting the seconds the whole time
im pretty sure most people dont care about that crap
care - turbo-typicals (stacies)
indifferent - everyone ranging from normalgay to outcast
hate - incels
well this is a stupid question because there's movies that run the gamut of opinions on prom, you've got the slacker movies where prom is a joke and then you've got the middle of the road comedies and then you've got the sappy chick flicks
bawds are a bad bet, they have higher standards they just frick a lot and easily for those higher standard guys
(bawds are 4s who throw their pussies at chads)
There were like 3-4 couples in my senior year at high school. Dating wasn't really a thing. I didn't go to prom. Not sure if my high school was just weird or if what is portrayed as the typical high school experience in media isn't real.
I imagine the isolation that has plagued the rest of society is amplified significantly among high schools today. All of this stems from the social changes brought upon by social media.
The israelites who ran my HS wanted 70 bucks a ticket and we had to go to Baltimore for it, I went to work and then went home and played vidya instead, frick prom
Probably not as big a deal as it used to be but back in the 90’s/00’s it was a bigger deal. Like even losers could find somebody to go with because there were girls that got desperate at the end. Like I was a kid less virgin until I was like 22 and I had 2 prom dates.
Has it ever struck anyone as kind of weird that high school administrators put all this energy toward an event the primary purpose of which is for teenagers to have (often unprotected) sex?
The purpose of prom is not sex. At least from the school’s perspective. Schools have tons of dances and event nights. It’s just the biggest one of the year. I swear you regards get 0 pussy because you all associate everything with sex.
Maybe not from the schools' perspective, but sex is absolutely the #1 purpose of prom from students' perspective. I went to junior and senior prom, they were both in a hotel and kids were sneaking up to rooms to frick
No.
Prom is more of a pre-graduation party. It’s supposed to be the final formal gathering of a majority of the students.
But they kind of ruin the exclusivity by having Homecoming, allowing sophomores to go to homecoming, having junior prom, and having other spring formals throughout high school.
By the time senior year prom rolls around, I remember quite a few people being over it. In fact, a majority of my friends had already shelled out a bunch of money their junior year to go to prom so by senior year rolled around, they didn’t go.
If your school was small enough, they had a combined prom that allowed juniors to go so it was just one big prom for both years. You could potentially get to experience prom twice.
School literally dictates anything. When a student gets up, what he eats, which job he's gonna work someday, how much money he earns, who his friends are etc.
So considering that, no, I don't think its weird at all, its weird they don't organize dating and marriage as well
nothing is as big as it seems in movies. that's what's been fricking up the past few generations. we treat our lives like our best and most poignant moments will be edited down and cut with great music but ultimately every moment fades, even the cringe
Canadian anon here. Idk about America but here it's certainly a thing people care about but no more then, like, a nice outing. You go, eat, dance for a bit, then head home. No biggie.
Any excuse to celebrate mediocrity.
Look at the last decade, there's no winners and losers, everyone only gets a participation medal and an equal pat on the back. NWO is grooming us into the mindset "no matter what you, you won't win". Wins forces the winners to keep winnning so they can get endorphin flow, loses forces loosers to get better and work hard and we can't have that kind of mindset now, can we ?
>didn't go to my prom >years later, work as a hs teacher >went to prom, got drunk and made an ass out of myself >all the kids smoking their gay little vape pens made me return to smoking cigarettes after 2 years clean
WHAT A LIFE
godspeed, hope you are the fun teacher everyone likes
also, since you are probably male, remember not to ever be alone in a closed room with a singular female student
My older friends just partied at my place and we had a huge party instead of prom.
My experience relating to prom >everyone is taking about prom >I'm just chilling in class >hehe hehe anon are you going to prom >room gets quiet >no my girlfriend is 21 so there's no point since she can't get in >teacher literally stops writing on the board >teacher: who knew anon was a stud? >goes back to writing on the board >day of prom, throw a big bonfire party with all my friends
I'm not sure why everyone assumed I was some virgin loser, I lost it at 14 and the deans constantly kicked my girlfriends off the grounds for smoking while they were waiting for me to get out of school
My class reunion is going to be weird because I transitioned.
I hate how we in Yurop (DACH to be precise) are importing this Amerishart tradition. Before the 00s promotion wasn't really celebrated at all, in the 00s and 10s (due to Ami influence) it started becoming a party, but now it apparently in many places is full on a ball and shit. I hate this because girls in the 10s wore cuter dresses that are only like knee-length and less baroque.
>Raised by dominant parents to never make a fuss, never demand attention, treat women nicely. >End up with negative rizz, invisible to all chicks until mid-twenties.
No one taught me shit about women, not dad/brother/friends. I had to learn it from scratch at like 20 from fricking forums and Cinemaphile and shit.
In terms of social development with women I was 10 years-old until 22.
If I ever have a son I'll write him a 2 page pamphlet about social skills/charisma/chicks with zero bullshit and hand it to him when he's 12 years-old. No one should have to go through this shit.
Prom was great I know this place is full of antisocial zoomer shut ins but I went to prom in 2008.
My date was hot af, my school one a sweepstakes and we got low 250k for pit prom we had firebreathers and shit tickets were cheap
We had an after part at her house which was even more fun then our entire group went to another girls house in the morning and her parents made us all breakfast
I explained prom Kek. Why are you so sex obsessed ?
I did get laid but not with my date, hooked up with another girl in the group late at night but it wasn’t particularly memorable the party, big budget prom and amazing breakfast when hungover the next day were all more memorable lmao
>need emergency surgery several days before prom >my fat dumb c**t gf gets pissy that I “won’t go with her” when I can’t even drag myself to the bathroom
I happened to see someone post a screencap of her Twitter years later talking about gamergate and “man babies.”
Shitty fathers raise shitty sons who go on to raise even shittier sons. We've had about three generations of this now.
People like to blame boomers but their parents weren't much better.
nah but i was a loner, we just drank and skateboarded on the roof during prom til the coach saw us and told us to gtfo didnt get in trouble tho
based coach hatch
why would you go to prom and skate on the roof. could of skated anywhere else. guess you really wanted to go but thought you and your npc friends thought you were too cool for it
>i was a loner, we
Literally everyone goes to prom as the last event before moving on. That's why there's so many manchilds here. They missed out and the PTSD stuck with them
I went to prom, danced with my crush, and am still a loser manchild 13 years later.
What is a freshman? Is it a man that is fresh? Or a sophmore? A soft prostitute? Whats with these weird names? What is even a Prom? Promiscuous?
The (prom)otional dance for kids graduating
As for the freshman, sophomore, jr, sr. Thing idk where it comes from but I think it’s British
To girls it is.
If you have sex. Yes.
I remember not going to prom and I heard my mom in the bedroom crying because she raised such a loser. I thought about sparing everyone the embarrassment and killing myself but I promised I would turn my life around and make her proud.
10 years later and I'm an even bigger loser.
I remember I asked my crush out for prom and she said she wasn't going. I didn't feel too bad. Literally that night I saw facebook pictures she posted of some guy who bullied me. I spent the whole night tossing and turning thinking about how he was fricking her and I'm literally on the verge of tears.
I was like and complemented suicide but eventually I stopped throwing a pity party and got over it.
ironically I missed out on my chance to frick my major highschool crush because I went to prom instead of hanging out with the girl who invited me to chill with her down at the beach
Damn bro that's pretty sad and pathetic but it's not too late to turn things around.i remember my worst memory was in 8th grade everyone in my class hated me and my mom called up all their parents and basically bribed them into coming to a surprise party for me. I found out about 15 minutes in and my mom admitted it later, through tears. Just like yours did. I was a frick up for a long time, too. Crawling out of the hole you've dug for yourself is the tough part. I'm "functional" now with a good job and even had sex with a woman I met on tinder so hey things ain't so bad pal
I worked up the courage to ask my high school crush to go to prom and she ended up having sex with my best friend after I passed out drunk at the afterparty. She didn't even kiss me that night.
Women are weird like that. They don't see or care for most men and inadvertently end up creating incels. At the same time they have this weird love of their sons that goes beyond their love for anything else. Yet they can't seem to get that how they view other men is how most women see their own male offspring.
Insightful and brutal. I sincerely pity any man raised by a single mother.
Never went to prom or dated. Basically I didn't even really think about sex until I was like 26 and then panicked that I was a giant loser. I tried tinder and got even more depressed because no one dated me. I eventually met a girl who did like me and lost my virginity to her at 27. Eventually she broke up with me because she wanted to frick other guys. Haven't dated since but I'm also back to not caring.
welcome friend
Women turn their sons into pushover "nice guys" then turn around and wonder why the girls in his class won't go for him before pulling out a romantic novel about a rapist pirate and dildoing their c**t to sleep
Therapy and meds now
Nah. I've seen it too many times. Moms straight up lie to their sons about how girls work. The son then gets to see the girls in his class frick every aggressive butthole boy that is behaving the exact way he was told to avoid. Then they wonder why that homie goes loco
I don’t get why they do this. Does it happen when the father is a wimp or isn’t present that much? Being an butthole is so much better in every way. Every time I’m an butthole I win something good for myself with no downsides. When I’m a meek nice guy I get nothing
Women infantilize their sons and want them to be little gentlemen, never really growing up.
probably due to 2 reasons, in my khv opinion
1. the difference between self reported desires and actual desires as classically seen in
>personality matters more than looks of course
>what do you mean perceived personality correlates almost perfectly with looks on my assessments?
2. most men encountered who are aggressive are in fact unpleasant, and it would be preferable if they weren't aggressive since it just makes them annoying. (further, non aggressive men are not in my personal sample since they by their nature select themselves out, so thus they are never unpleasant) (we will ignore that the biggest winners are both attractive and aggressive) . Ergo its best for most men if they aren't aggressive, thus you should not be aggressive
I will be aggressive every time there is something to win though. I really don’t care if I’m unpleasant in the periods where I’m competing for a woman or a promotion or some neighbour is being a dickhead. I really couldn’t care less about being liked by some normie frick. So I was unpleasant? That’s what a winner looks like
50 Shades of Gray sold like 100 million copies. From high school and every job I worked its obvious the obnoxious and loud guys who are basically flirting with every girl (even when they guy has a GF) are the ones who get the most sex. It doesn't matter if they annoy half the girls in class, the other half find them endearing. The silent passive guys just get ignored. Girls don't approach unless the guy is super hot and most guys aren't.
reminder Edward "I like watching you sleep, it’s uh, kind of fascinating to me" Cullen is peak female romance
unsurprisingly, like men, women like aggressive partners *so long as they are attractive*
Your mom is sweet
I resent my mom for always telling me how handsome and cute I was. High school woke me up to what an unappealing schmuck I really am.
>Get fit
>Get job
>Get laid
>Get gf
>still miserable
There's no escaping it friend, life sucks. Even if you're got enough to get with a woman, women liking you is an entire category of bullshit unto itself.
I didn't go to prom either, but it could be way, way worse. There was this guy I've known since kindergarten who nobody liked and was bullied relentlessly as long as I can remember. One of those guys you feel bad for until he opens his mouth, then all of the bullying made a lot of sense. Literally stalked girls and thought he was hot shit and smarter than everyone kind of thing, despite being a delusional moron.
He went to prom by himself. According to friends who where there, he took prom pics by himself(which ended up in the yearbook), sat in a corner staring at a girl he would stalk all the time and was one of the last people to leave because his mom was late picking him up. As bad as you think you had it, at least you're not that guy.
>at least you're not that guy
heheh, yeah
at least i'm not him
haha
I was wondering if this was about me till the end because I drove myself.
I'm 31. My lack of success/neetdom is slowly eroding my parents' will to live. I hope I can figure it out before it's too late. I've come so far since highschool. I'm almost normal.
adderrall and google certificate with portfolio
I can not stress the adderrall enough
t. both got me a job (it was data analysis)
i’m terrified of looking like him and i let that fear paralyze me from living my life
I am realizing now this is basically me and the only reason I ever had friends in middle school and high school was because they were very small schools so seeing the same small handful of people over and over sort of forces you to become friends with your classmates. Once I got into a huge college I made 0 friends and by the 4th year I had grown so far apart with my old friends.
how did you not make any friends your first year? the college forces you together in a dorm for that reason. Athletes have their social group predetermined but you didn't try and smoke weed and play vidya with the dorm bros?
not that anon, but
>this homie thinks hes introverted
real introverts do not act, but are acted upon
they will not leave their dorm room unless otherwise semi dragged out
they will not talk to others, but be spoken to or will not speak at all
t. thought I was extroverted in my small HS, discovered I was deeply autistic in college
Not sure what happened to my reply, but long story short I made the horrible horrible choice to commute instead of dorming. Biggest regret of my life, followed by not studying abroad.
ITT
How does this immature looking dweeb get the idea he should even talk to a Stacy like that? Another classic example of "mommy's handsome little man" not knowing his place. We need to start proactively teaching boys that they are sexually worthless and shouldn't talk to girls.
Her friends were egging him on knowing she'd say no.
its part of the chudcel origin story, a canon event
She’s a Becky not a Stacey, Staceys have developed bodies and big booba,
Beckys are more petite and have no ass or breasts
unironically on point, lads need to understand from a young age you either hit the gym hard or make good cash if you want a half decent lass, everyone is filling their heads with bullshit like "just be a nice guy" when it's completely false
People always say this, and it makes sense, but I've honestly done pretty well just being nice to girls.
I don’t think this is a case of Chad saying “just be yourself, it works for me!” Unless I’ve got a really warped perception of myself and I’m way better looking than I think.
I think most girls I’ve ever fricked mostly did it because they thought I was a decent guy.
You're probably good looking and their maybe some background factors helping you out like a decent ratio male/female.
Why did she care so much?
That doesn't even make sense.
>There's a party.
>You decide not to attend.
>Your mom isn't involved.
>She doesn't have to fear any repercussion for your non-attendence.
>The host is literally just your school
How are you a loser? Where's the actual problem?
Listen, prom can't possibly be that huge coming-of-age event that people make it out to be because there is no ritual in place for asking a girl out in the first place. You can't expect someone to act out of his own initiative on behalf of a challenge which only ever has been implicitly stated.
If your mom cried about your grades or you not getting into a good college I'd understand that.
When you think about it with what her parental duties are in mind her reaction becomes downright inane. I don't think you're expected to marry your prom date, right? So its not about continuing the blood line. There are no financial or socioecinomic implications for your family. Your mom is a childish hag mentally stuck in her teen years. She's the real embarassment.
My mom was somewhat of a Stacy whose glory days was prom. So for me missing out on that was a huge deal to her. She kept telling me everyone in her class went to prom except for the real dregs. It hit her I wasn't just a struggling person who needs to make some small changes but a real loser.
Except he's on this website and presumably a friendless virgin in his late 20s so his mom was right to cry about the signs that her son is a loser.
Prom is as big a deal as you make it. The idea that everyone loses their virginity on prom night is way blown out of proportion. Most people getting laid on prom night are people who have had a year+ of consistent sex by that point.
my prom date cancelled on me bc i fricked some other chick like 2 days before. then we all went to my friends brothers house afterwards to drink and he had just worked a show sponsored by rockstar so we were mixing that with all of our liquor and i remember just being absolutely obliterated on their front porch, drink in hand, smoking cigarettes, and quoting ATHF to myself until the sun came up. good times.
yes because it was popularized in hollywood movies as something sacred to american life.
its essential purpose today is a way to single out the losers
No. Just go with one or two friends.
If you don’t even have one or two friends, ask a few people you know that don’t hate you.
It’s a common strategy. I went with a few girls and had a really fun time.
I actually went to three different proms my senior year. There were several big schools in my area. I got invited to them.
As long as you have chill or laidback vibes about it, people will ask you if you want to go.
Don’t make a big deal about it. If you don’t get asked, tag along with people you know.
Didn't go to prom. Went to all the after parties. Got shit faced and had fun.
All the prom losers had to dance like fricking jesters and dress up like clowns while I just showed up in basketball shorts. Prom was for fricking nerds.
Its a lot like a marriage ceremony where the girls take it way more serious than the guys.
my friend's tiny tomboy friend asked me if i wanted to go if I couldn't find anyone else. I said yeah i dunno whatever then forgot about it. then I went to an afterparty with them and it was all couples and her by herself seething at me
It's literally the only thing that matters for girls. I got dragged into 2 of them, at least I got to frick my girlfriend after the first one when we all sneaked into a hotel. I don't remember much about the second one but it was weird not being from my second girlfriend's school.
didn't go
probably why I'm still here at 28 (turning 29 soon)
I don't even remember what I did instead
probably play post on Cinemaphile
I'm married now, though, so it wasn't all bad
you're literally m- oh wait you're married. nevermind.
frick you normalBlack person
sorry, I finally got laid in college (with a girl who was still in highschool)
I asked a girl to my country's version of the prom and she said she wasn't going because her Grandad was sick and she had to go see him. I go to the event and lo and behold there she is. I decide to ask her if she'd like to have a dance anyway and she says no.
>Yes I was a complete loser in my youth, how could you tell?
Kek esl loser
I'm not esl but if you could point out my grammar/spelling mistakes it would be appreciated 😉
I will never be handsome
I will never be talented
I will never be not poor
How is this fair? At least give me something to work on ffs
Yes and it's some of the wettest, slipperiest sex you'll ever have
Girls make a big deal of it guys dont care. I was with my girl for like 6 months at the time so it was just like going to a wedding of someone you dont really care about or something. The much older guy that was dating a girl in my grade who i knew through the music community (we were both in bands) gave me and a couple of my buddies a bunch of shrooms and i spend the second half of prom completely schwacked wandering around the parking lot and laying in this big garden thing the venue had.
These kind of things are both not a big deal in the larger picture of life, but something that, for most people, is significant in some formative sense and sticks with you in a way, like a lot of these other things around your teen years. Like, none of them are anywhere near the big deal you and everyone around you is making them out to be at that time in a very practical sense; you have an inflated sense of the significance of your stupid high school life and feel more important than you are because you don't have any real world perspective. BUT, a lot of these events, things like prom or if you got laid in high school or if you had friends or were considered a loser, or whatever, I think definitely stick with you in another way. Like I both don't give a shit at all about what happened in high school now in my 30's, but also know that a lot of what happened in those years definitely developed me into who I am and what my particular ticks, insecurities, aversions, and things I am or am not confident in about myself are. I am a much different person than I was then, too, but those years definitely played a big part in molding us, even while at the same time all that stuff wasn't as important as we thought it was at the time, if that makes sense.
I thought you were going in a different direction, and saying that they don't seem like that big a deal but then you end up remembering them forever. Most of life is just monotony and repetition so these ceremonies even if they don't seem important at the time stand out and are remembered.
your entire post can be summed up by
>its a formative experience
>he didn't skip prom to conserve his energy to get crunk at the way more fun school-sponsored afterparty
lmao I just had fun with my friends, no girl bullshit got in our way
Sounds pretty gay bro
No it doesn't
Are you a gay who sees everything as gay or a jealous incel who didn't have friends?
Actually I got laid on prom night and had a great time with my friends. You saying you hung out with your homies without any "girl shit" implies that you don't see women as being friends, which is pretty fricking incel IMO
do you think seeing two people of the same sex hanging out and assuming they are gay for each other is the reason you have no friends because you don't want to appear gay even though people can just be friends?
Maybe it varies by school/region, neither I nor anyone in my social circle went or gave a shit about it, and I heard afterward that it sucked because the AC at the venue was broken and it was so unbearably hot everyone left early.
Do you have to pay to attend prom? How much is it? Also, does the prom go on for like 3 or 4 hours?
>t. esl with no high school education
No, prom is free. Yes, it typically lasts a few hours.
>prom is free.
No it isn't
You paid for school dances? Like cash to get in?
not for me, it was like $50 or something, but it was at an actual venue, not a school gym
Mine was in a hotel ballroom.
The one for my school was like $80, and it was at a museum 30 miles away. I remember some parents being really pissed off about that.
Man I don't get you kids who paid for prom. For us it was just a school dance on the gymnasium, decorated by the prom committee.
>$100 for tickets
>$200 for a tux
Not to mention gas money etc etc. I didn’t bother
I went to my senior prom with the most popular girl in my school. I wasn't initially planning on going. She broke up with her boyfriend like 2 weeks before prom, and I jokingly said I'd go with her, and she took me seriously. So we did the whole corsage and limo deal.
Once we got there, she immediately left me to go hang out with her friends. I said hi to my friends, then stepped outside for a cigarette. The gym teacher was on door duty and he wouldn't let me back in, so I just went home. 2/10 experience.
lol i have a similar story but actually a lot worse
So let’s hear it anon we’re all waiting
it was the same but the bouncer raped me
kwab
gonna need a bigger story anon
shoulda just clenched your butthole harder
always thought that, even if some massive guy somehow managed to get me in such a position, and then threatened to kill me, I'd just take the L and die
or maybe kill them later
nah ill just go with what the other guy said
Yes, it was pretty big and a lot of people who say otherwise here are coping. I took a Chinese transfer student I'd never spoken to as a dare. She was a wiener fiend.
Based. I turned out a big tittied, fit, but pan faced Asian girl for some white trash b***h. The white girl was still skinny at the time and a good frick but I regret it. Asian fever ensued a few years later
I went to prom and I'm still a kissless virgin at 30. Simply showing up to thiings is not enough.
did you go with a date
lolno
There isn't much reason to go if you don't have a date or entourage.
i didn’t even get to have a prom because of covid
Kek loser
it was out of my control. not my fault the school shut down and destroyed my senior year over the flu.
not those other anons, but that legit sucks
senior year is your best year, unfortunate you had to miss it
Yikes
Who would actually admit to this
problem? the school literally didn’t have one.
LoL zoomer homosexual, the israelites really did buck broke an entire generation of you kids
only girls care about prom.
>high school is four years
>there's a homecoming dance every September/October
>there's a spring dance every March/April
>by the time you get to prom every girl at school has already been to eight school dances that are all exactly like prom
This is the correct answer.
I forgot about that.
This must be why I totally didn’t think it was a big deal. I had already gone to quite a few dances. Even the ones that are restricted to only Juniors and Seniors are pretty easy to get into when you’re younger if you ask around in a chill way.
I asked the girl with the biggest breasts i knew and ended up too drunk to stand, let alone frick her. Still had a summer fling with her before heading to college.
Prom was miserable, I had a better time at homecoming as a rule. Sadie hawkins was a nightmare though, I got pressured into going with a girl I really didn't like by our mutual friends and was counting the seconds the whole time
im pretty sure most people dont care about that crap
care - turbo-typicals (stacies)
indifferent - everyone ranging from normalgay to outcast
hate - incels
well this is a stupid question because there's movies that run the gamut of opinions on prom, you've got the slacker movies where prom is a joke and then you've got the middle of the road comedies and then you've got the sappy chick flicks
It's a pretty big deal. Rent a suit, go somewhere fancy, go to an after party, maybe get drunk, maybe lose your virginity.
I went to prom with the biggest bawd in my school thinking she would be a sure thing.
She was (but not with me).
Oh frick, that's awful
bawds are a bad bet, they have higher standards they just frick a lot and easily for those higher standard guys
(bawds are 4s who throw their pussies at chads)
There were like 3-4 couples in my senior year at high school. Dating wasn't really a thing. I didn't go to prom. Not sure if my high school was just weird or if what is portrayed as the typical high school experience in media isn't real.
High school dating has declined a lot in America. From what I understand getting summer jobs and driving licenses has as well.
WE LOVE FORTNITE WE LOVE FORTNITE
Is it all just college prep and extracurriculars now?
I graduated 10 years ago but it was already kind of like that.
I imagine the isolation that has plagued the rest of society is amplified significantly among high schools today. All of this stems from the social changes brought upon by social media.
Rough if true.
>no source
https://srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/cdev.12930
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The israelites who ran my HS wanted 70 bucks a ticket and we had to go to Baltimore for it, I went to work and then went home and played vidya instead, frick prom
Probably not as big a deal as it used to be but back in the 90’s/00’s it was a bigger deal. Like even losers could find somebody to go with because there were girls that got desperate at the end. Like I was a kid less virgin until I was like 22 and I had 2 prom dates.
Any loser here who didn't go to prom should off themselves anywho, you losers should go watch Prom Night with Leslie Nelson to see what you missed....
Has it ever struck anyone as kind of weird that high school administrators put all this energy toward an event the primary purpose of which is for teenagers to have (often unprotected) sex?
The purpose of prom is not sex. At least from the school’s perspective. Schools have tons of dances and event nights. It’s just the biggest one of the year. I swear you regards get 0 pussy because you all associate everything with sex.
Maybe not from the schools' perspective, but sex is absolutely the #1 purpose of prom from students' perspective. I went to junior and senior prom, they were both in a hotel and kids were sneaking up to rooms to frick
Wasn’t that your whole premise? It’s weird that the school puts so much emphasis on a sex dance?
No.
Prom is more of a pre-graduation party. It’s supposed to be the final formal gathering of a majority of the students.
But they kind of ruin the exclusivity by having Homecoming, allowing sophomores to go to homecoming, having junior prom, and having other spring formals throughout high school.
By the time senior year prom rolls around, I remember quite a few people being over it. In fact, a majority of my friends had already shelled out a bunch of money their junior year to go to prom so by senior year rolled around, they didn’t go.
If your school was small enough, they had a combined prom that allowed juniors to go so it was just one big prom for both years. You could potentially get to experience prom twice.
School literally dictates anything. When a student gets up, what he eats, which job he's gonna work someday, how much money he earns, who his friends are etc.
So considering that, no, I don't think its weird at all, its weird they don't organize dating and marriage as well
>its weird they don't organize dating and marriage as well
How would they organize it?
Like a speed dating show? Marriage could be handled by the familes as well
nothing is as big as it seems in movies. that's what's been fricking up the past few generations. we treat our lives like our best and most poignant moments will be edited down and cut with great music but ultimately every moment fades, even the cringe
I went to my junior prom and it was kinda boring then I went home with my buddy and played Halo 3 all night and that was fun
Canadian anon here. Idk about America but here it's certainly a thing people care about but no more then, like, a nice outing. You go, eat, dance for a bit, then head home. No biggie.
honestly it seems like zoomies just do it as a 'going through the motions' social checklist and dont really think much of it afterwards.
I don't know. I became homeless on my 17th birthday so I got my GED and skipped senior year.
Any excuse to celebrate mediocrity.
Look at the last decade, there's no winners and losers, everyone only gets a participation medal and an equal pat on the back. NWO is grooming us into the mindset "no matter what you, you won't win". Wins forces the winners to keep winnning so they can get endorphin flow, loses forces loosers to get better and work hard and we can't have that kind of mindset now, can we ?
>didn't go to my prom
>years later, work as a hs teacher
>went to prom, got drunk and made an ass out of myself
>all the kids smoking their gay little vape pens made me return to smoking cigarettes after 2 years clean
WHAT A LIFE
why would you become a teacher
I wanted shorter workdays and the summer off. Job safety also.
I'm a bit of an autist, but I'm doing alright.
godspeed, hope you are the fun teacher everyone likes
also, since you are probably male, remember not to ever be alone in a closed room with a singular female student
My older friends just partied at my place and we had a huge party instead of prom.
My experience relating to prom
>everyone is taking about prom
>I'm just chilling in class
>hehe hehe anon are you going to prom
>room gets quiet
>no my girlfriend is 21 so there's no point since she can't get in
>teacher literally stops writing on the board
>teacher: who knew anon was a stud?
>goes back to writing on the board
>day of prom, throw a big bonfire party with all my friends
I'm not sure why everyone assumed I was some virgin loser, I lost it at 14 and the deans constantly kicked my girlfriends off the grounds for smoking while they were waiting for me to get out of school
My class reunion is going to be weird because I transitioned.
I hate how we in Yurop (DACH to be precise) are importing this Amerishart tradition. Before the 00s promotion wasn't really celebrated at all, in the 00s and 10s (due to Ami influence) it started becoming a party, but now it apparently in many places is full on a ball and shit. I hate this because girls in the 10s wore cuter dresses that are only like knee-length and less baroque.
>Raised by dominant parents to never make a fuss, never demand attention, treat women nicely.
>End up with negative rizz, invisible to all chicks until mid-twenties.
No one taught me shit about women, not dad/brother/friends. I had to learn it from scratch at like 20 from fricking forums and Cinemaphile and shit.
In terms of social development with women I was 10 years-old until 22.
If I ever have a son I'll write him a 2 page pamphlet about social skills/charisma/chicks with zero bullshit and hand it to him when he's 12 years-old. No one should have to go through this shit.
Now you know how Black folk without dads feel
How do you define “big deal”? Because it’s a big deal for kids in high school but that’s about it
Prom was great I know this place is full of antisocial zoomer shut ins but I went to prom in 2008.
My date was hot af, my school one a sweepstakes and we got low 250k for pit prom we had firebreathers and shit tickets were cheap
We had an after part at her house which was even more fun then our entire group went to another girls house in the morning and her parents made us all breakfast
Shit was cash
>back in 2008
>shit was cash
>doesn't get his dick wet
kek, millenials are beyond cucked
What makes you think I didn’t get me dick wet?
because you talk about the parents making breakfast and winning some gay sweepstakes. You 100% didn't get laid millenicuck
I explained prom Kek. Why are you so sex obsessed ?
I did get laid but not with my date, hooked up with another girl in the group late at night but it wasn’t particularly memorable the party, big budget prom and amazing breakfast when hungover the next day were all more memorable lmao
prom was a good time. If you didn't go to every dance with a hot girl in high school you are 100% a loser.
Prom is basically a litmus test of how even fat ugly low inhib guys win while good looking introverts get no action at all
Not that I would have went anyway, but my prom was cancelled due to covid
you ain’t lived until you lie to your parents about going to the prom afterparty so they don’t think you’re a total loser
>need emergency surgery several days before prom
>my fat dumb c**t gf gets pissy that I “won’t go with her” when I can’t even drag myself to the bathroom
I happened to see someone post a screencap of her Twitter years later talking about gamergate and “man babies.”
How the frick are so many young men such fricking losers these days? Even guys in their 30s here all have shitty lives and no friends.
Coddled by single/remarried moms who push their sons into not being like the man they divorced.
Shitty fathers raise shitty sons who go on to raise even shittier sons. We've had about three generations of this now.
People like to blame boomers but their parents weren't much better.
Most of them don't have fathers. See
Is it normal to have sex after prom?
I spent prom at home playing monster hunter. I had no friends by that point so I didn't see the point in going
No
Bros