my gf cheated on me before our daughter was conceived and im scared to ask for a DNA test in case it comes back negative. it'd end my life. my baby is my life. i think i'll just accept the fact she might not be mine and just ignore it forever
Getting a negative would be my suicide. Getting a positive changes nothing. I have nothing to gain from it and everything to lose. The love we share for eachother is enough. But you're right, it nags me
>Getting a positive changes nothing.
You'd get some damn closure.
I hate to break it to you, but shit like this doesn't stay bottled down forever. As time goes on it's gonna be poking your brain the entire time, and soon it'll all come out in the worst possible way. Trust me, it's better to do away with this now before it becomes an even bigger problem.
mind boggling delusion
just test your kid you cuck homosexual
How does that help my daughter? Ruining her life and relationship with her mother just so I can get closure? Frick that, frick my closure. I'd rather live with the nagging feeling that my daughter isnt mine rather than ruin her actual life.
So you're going to wait until she's an adult and takes a 23andme test to find out?
8 months ago
Anonymous
Shes 18 already
8 months ago
Anonymous
Then does it matter you love her for her
Even if her moms a c**t this kid was still your protégé for 2 decades
8 months ago
Anonymous
She's 18 and you said gf so that means you haven't gotten married in 18+ years of being with the mother. This is a larp. And since it's a larp, you should frick your daughter.
Do you think it will hurt her to find out her father isn't actually her father in a very real sense, or that her mother is unfaithful and a liar? The truth will definitely come out: imagine in 8th grade biology she learns about eye color heredity and plots a Punnett square of her ostensible parentage?
You're not getting it, anon.
This shit it gonna come out eventually. Family secrets never, EVER stay hidden forever. If you don't address it, she'll sure as shit find out about the cheating on her own, and that's even worse.
8 months ago
Anonymous
"Address it"? You're talking about potentially ruining the lives of myself and my daughter. This isn't Jerry Springer. We can't just change the channel and watch Spongebob after. This is life-changing. I don't think you appreciate how devastating this would be to a lot of people. "Addressing it" ain't an accurate description of how the events would unfold senpai
8 months ago
Anonymous
It won't be as devastating as you're thinking, the mother will just lose any shred of respect, your relationship with your daughter won't change just because the truth is out
8 months ago
Anonymous
LOL!!!! That's what we're all saying. You either take the bull by the horns or get stabbed in the ass when you're not looking. This is about as serious as it gets, moron. A mental breakdown when youre way older is much harsher than crying about as a little kid. Believe me.
>How does that help my daughter? >my daughter
Anon, i would love to say anything postive, but you're clearly not getting the point. She might isn't your daughter. You're a lost case if you think it's better to be above the mud than climbing out of it. You can still be a father figure if you're that desperate for a family, but staying in this lane will cause more trouble for you. >the guy with a halfsister and a sister >the guy which halfsister has a two daughters from different dads and married now >the guy which sister has two sons and is now divorced and getting into a new relationship >the guy who was loved by a girl with a kid from a shizophrenic father until i noped out
I know what i'm talking about. Do the test, i saw that shitshow in many different angles.
It will ruin her life and relationship with her mother more to think you're her real father and then find out when she's old enough to undestand that her mother is a lying prostitute.
>How does that help my daughter?
Because your resentment towards your wife will surface in your relationship to your daughter in ways you cannot predict, and your daughter will grow up wondering why things don’t feel right between you and her and she will assume it’s her fault. And it will strain your relationship with your wife and make both of you miserable, which is also bad for your daughter. The cheating happened for a reason and you both need to address it or it won’t be the only time it happened. The best thing you can give your daughter is a mentally healthy father.
If you are willing to raise another man’s child then that is something you should actually face in practice rather than in theory.
Plus, you know, you could probably do with the financial support the state would extract from the biological father.
8 months ago
Anonymous
Anon makes great points and it's not even /adv. It will def weigh on your mind; make a decision based on reality as opposed to fantasy. You want to raise your daughter know what's reality.
Bro, do the test. You can always have another kid. You don't want her coming home with the results of a DNA test when she's 20 and it's too late for you to have another kid.
Your problems are like lil goblins, easy to kill if you get a them straight away. Let them fester and it'll eventually become a dragon that could eat you whole. You say 'but I don't want to ruin my daughter's life' it'll have it's way, she might inquire about your family's relationship. She might find out your wife cheated and start having doubts of her own.
In other words the problems WILL come regardless of your intervention or not; however you NEED to establish a full disclosure relationship with your family. The problem with modern families is that every time there's a problem people would rather status quo that shit to infinity, you think your daughter's not gonna pick up on that shit? You think she's not gonna notice the slight ways your doubt on whether she's yours or not will manifest?
Don't treat your kids like they're stupid, she'll find out eventually with or without you and if it's without you your relationship could crumble later down the line. If you get this out of the way it might suck short term but long term she'll be thankful she had a father who valued the truth over what's comfortable.
That's also a lesson you should teach her, because ultimately you're already off to a bad start if your first lesson to your kids is 'how to lie, and hide from the big issues to maintain status quo' You want to raise them to be BETTER than you.
I'm a moron on Cinemaphile so take this with a grain of salt but you should get any doubts cleared up before anybody involved gets too attached, especially with reasonable suspicion like you've got
Frankly I'd think it's less devastating for the kid to grow up with the weirdness of a split household than live a normal life until 12 or 13 and get hit with the whole bawd mother, dad's probably not your dad thing when it all comes out (it will eventually come out)
>Frankly I'd think it's less devastating for the kid to grow up with the weirdness of a split household than live a normal life until 12 or 13 and get hit with the whole bawd mother, dad's probably not your dad thing when it all comes out (it will eventually come out)
I second this
anything you think you can bottle up is eventually going to come back to bite you, sooner or later. might be ten years from now, might be twenty, but it will absolutely boil over
Probably, but I'd rather hurt myself than hurt my child. I brought her into this world, changed nappies, nursed her bruises, taught her to swim, taken her around the world. She's a daddys girl. She loves me more than any person on the planet ever has or ever will. How the frick can I ruin that. It'd destroy both of us if it came out I wasnt her dad.
Which is what I've done. She's mine regardless of DNA and always will be. The "what if" will just nag me every now and again. Rather that than burn it all to the ground just to get the "truth".
>cut a swab of your daughters cheek >take it to a private lab >have them do the dna test
You can wait decades until the truth comes out and it destroys your entire family or you can deal with it now and move on
>my gf cheated on me before our daughter was conceived
I dont get men who stay with cheating women. Theyre just going to do it again. They have no real love or respect for you they just see you as a cuckold and some stooge to look after them at that point. If I were you id do the test. If its not my kid I would leave. Theres no reason to pay for other peoples recklessness and live your life in humiliation looking after another mans kid. This anon makes a valid point too
>Getting a positive changes nothing.
You'd get some damn closure.
I hate to break it to you, but shit like this doesn't stay bottled down forever. As time goes on it's gonna be poking your brain the entire time, and soon it'll all come out in the worst possible way. Trust me, it's better to do away with this now before it becomes an even bigger problem.
You should definitely use that as a weapon. If your wife ever cheats on you again or becomes crazy like many do, get your girl's DNA tested and use it to file for divorce with that as an evidence of her whorish ways. That way you probably won't lose much, I hope.
Oh you poor bastard.
You think the courts care about who the father is anymore?
A woman could film all her cheating acts and already have the dna to prove he's not the father and still get alimony child support.
Get the test moron, you don't want to be taking care of another man's kid it will always eat at you. Especially if you put all that time into raising a kid and you and your gf separate which sounds inevitable.
Get the test on television so we can all laugh at you.
I never understand this blind love for a crying and shitting baby. You don’t even know her that well. Would make more sense if you raised her for ten years
This, I didnt really love my child for the first year because he wasn't even as interesting as like a cat or pet hamster. Just stared, shat, screamed.
Once he got personality it was all over. I would rape and eat every other child on earth if it meant he got a happy life
First 3 months I can understand, they’re basically noisy shitting potatoes. But you really felt nothing when they started smiling at you when you enter the room? When they started laughing? That shit happens at like 6 months.
Just remember that in rare cases, a baby can come out black even if both parents were white. It has to do with genes skipping a generation. Just don't let it drive you to jump to any conclusions if it happens.
No lie. I've got a couple Army buddies who both found out their girlfriends had black great great grandparents and that's why their kids came out black.
Getting a negative would be my suicide. Getting a positive changes nothing. I have nothing to gain from it and everything to lose. The love we share for eachother is enough. But you're right, it nags me
ITT: Spineless pussy homosexual makes another selfish decision to prioritize his own happiness over the daughter he claims to love so much. Happens all the time when no-life losers have kids. So fricking lame. She won't respect you for "protecting" her. You're moronic if you think you're denying her true parentage for anybody but yourself. Buck up, homosexual. Don't pass it to her.
I knocked my ex up and she ran off after telling me she was getting an abortion. One year later she goes to jail and someone let me know she had a baby that might be mine that was being put up for adoption. I saw the pic and realized right away it was mine. So I got involved and basically had to fight with the family court to let me take a paternity test, they repeatedly tried to dissuade me from taking it. Anyway now I'm a single father of an adorable baby boy and I couldn't be happier to have him.
The adoption agencies were doing you a favor. When she gets out of prison expect her to sue you for custody and expect her to win and expect to pay her child support as well with zero visitation rights.
My wife was sexually assaulted around the time we conceived our first son. But that's my fricking boy. He's my fricking son. I don't want the DNA tests. I want us all to just move on. Even if she doesn't want me around anymore. That is my son.
>be me >newly wed living with wife >banging every day trying for kid >finally one day she wakes me up >honey we did it! I'm pregnant!! isn't this exciting?? >first thing out of my stupid half awake groggy mouth
"Pregnant?...b***h have you been cheating on me?"
LMAO she was pissed.
daddy wasn't there, to take me to the fair
my gf cheated on me before our daughter was conceived and im scared to ask for a DNA test in case it comes back negative. it'd end my life. my baby is my life. i think i'll just accept the fact she might not be mine and just ignore it forever
Big yikes
>would rather let the doubt slowly eat at you than rip the band-aid off as soon as possible
Getting a negative would be my suicide. Getting a positive changes nothing. I have nothing to gain from it and everything to lose. The love we share for eachother is enough. But you're right, it nags me
>Getting a positive changes nothing.
You'd get some damn closure.
I hate to break it to you, but shit like this doesn't stay bottled down forever. As time goes on it's gonna be poking your brain the entire time, and soon it'll all come out in the worst possible way. Trust me, it's better to do away with this now before it becomes an even bigger problem.
How does that help my daughter? Ruining her life and relationship with her mother just so I can get closure? Frick that, frick my closure. I'd rather live with the nagging feeling that my daughter isnt mine rather than ruin her actual life.
So you're going to wait until she's an adult and takes a 23andme test to find out?
Shes 18 already
Then does it matter you love her for her
Even if her moms a c**t this kid was still your protégé for 2 decades
She's 18 and you said gf so that means you haven't gotten married in 18+ years of being with the mother. This is a larp. And since it's a larp, you should frick your daughter.
Do you think it will hurt her to find out her father isn't actually her father in a very real sense, or that her mother is unfaithful and a liar? The truth will definitely come out: imagine in 8th grade biology she learns about eye color heredity and plots a Punnett square of her ostensible parentage?
You're not getting it, anon.
This shit it gonna come out eventually. Family secrets never, EVER stay hidden forever. If you don't address it, she'll sure as shit find out about the cheating on her own, and that's even worse.
"Address it"? You're talking about potentially ruining the lives of myself and my daughter. This isn't Jerry Springer. We can't just change the channel and watch Spongebob after. This is life-changing. I don't think you appreciate how devastating this would be to a lot of people. "Addressing it" ain't an accurate description of how the events would unfold senpai
It won't be as devastating as you're thinking, the mother will just lose any shred of respect, your relationship with your daughter won't change just because the truth is out
LOL!!!! That's what we're all saying. You either take the bull by the horns or get stabbed in the ass when you're not looking. This is about as serious as it gets, moron. A mental breakdown when youre way older is much harsher than crying about as a little kid. Believe me.
damn you are just like ryan gosling in that movie fr fr
>How does that help my daughter?
>my daughter
Anon, i would love to say anything postive, but you're clearly not getting the point. She might isn't your daughter. You're a lost case if you think it's better to be above the mud than climbing out of it. You can still be a father figure if you're that desperate for a family, but staying in this lane will cause more trouble for you.
>the guy with a halfsister and a sister
>the guy which halfsister has a two daughters from different dads and married now
>the guy which sister has two sons and is now divorced and getting into a new relationship
>the guy who was loved by a girl with a kid from a shizophrenic father until i noped out
I know what i'm talking about. Do the test, i saw that shitshow in many different angles.
It will ruin her life and relationship with her mother more to think you're her real father and then find out when she's old enough to undestand that her mother is a lying prostitute.
>How does that help my daughter?
Because your resentment towards your wife will surface in your relationship to your daughter in ways you cannot predict, and your daughter will grow up wondering why things don’t feel right between you and her and she will assume it’s her fault. And it will strain your relationship with your wife and make both of you miserable, which is also bad for your daughter. The cheating happened for a reason and you both need to address it or it won’t be the only time it happened. The best thing you can give your daughter is a mentally healthy father.
If you are willing to raise another man’s child then that is something you should actually face in practice rather than in theory.
Plus, you know, you could probably do with the financial support the state would extract from the biological father.
Anon makes great points and it's not even /adv. It will def weigh on your mind; make a decision based on reality as opposed to fantasy. You want to raise your daughter know what's reality.
>I hate to break it to you
No one that says this even means it.
Bro, do the test. You can always have another kid. You don't want her coming home with the results of a DNA test when she's 20 and it's too late for you to have another kid.
You love her
If she isn’t yours she is still her and you are probably better than what ever PoS would be her father if you became an hero
People adopt all the time.
How is some random dude who more than likely tricked into thinking the prostitute was single a POS and not the bawd woman?
Your problems are like lil goblins, easy to kill if you get a them straight away. Let them fester and it'll eventually become a dragon that could eat you whole. You say 'but I don't want to ruin my daughter's life' it'll have it's way, she might inquire about your family's relationship. She might find out your wife cheated and start having doubts of her own.
In other words the problems WILL come regardless of your intervention or not; however you NEED to establish a full disclosure relationship with your family. The problem with modern families is that every time there's a problem people would rather status quo that shit to infinity, you think your daughter's not gonna pick up on that shit? You think she's not gonna notice the slight ways your doubt on whether she's yours or not will manifest?
Don't treat your kids like they're stupid, she'll find out eventually with or without you and if it's without you your relationship could crumble later down the line. If you get this out of the way it might suck short term but long term she'll be thankful she had a father who valued the truth over what's comfortable.
That's also a lesson you should teach her, because ultimately you're already off to a bad start if your first lesson to your kids is 'how to lie, and hide from the big issues to maintain status quo' You want to raise them to be BETTER than you.
I'm a moron on Cinemaphile so take this with a grain of salt but you should get any doubts cleared up before anybody involved gets too attached, especially with reasonable suspicion like you've got
Frankly I'd think it's less devastating for the kid to grow up with the weirdness of a split household than live a normal life until 12 or 13 and get hit with the whole bawd mother, dad's probably not your dad thing when it all comes out (it will eventually come out)
>Frankly I'd think it's less devastating for the kid to grow up with the weirdness of a split household than live a normal life until 12 or 13 and get hit with the whole bawd mother, dad's probably not your dad thing when it all comes out (it will eventually come out)
I second this
Hahaha Simp
mind boggling delusion
just test your kid you cuck homosexual
If it is a cucked child that fact will come out decades later and that will kill you a lot harder then
anything you think you can bottle up is eventually going to come back to bite you, sooner or later. might be ten years from now, might be twenty, but it will absolutely boil over
Probably, but I'd rather hurt myself than hurt my child. I brought her into this world, changed nappies, nursed her bruises, taught her to swim, taken her around the world. She's a daddys girl. She loves me more than any person on the planet ever has or ever will. How the frick can I ruin that. It'd destroy both of us if it came out I wasnt her dad.
cuck
Not really, didnt find out until years later after we'd split that she cheated. I always had a suspicion tho, b***hes be like that
it doesn't matter if you have knowledge or not. Once it happens you are a cuckold for eternity in the eyes of God
Things like that rarely stay buried. If she isn't yours, do you want "your" daughter randomly discovering her life was a lie 20 years from now?
American moment
You can be her dad without the dna
Without treating her prostitute mom with respect
Which is what I've done. She's mine regardless of DNA and always will be. The "what if" will just nag me every now and again. Rather that than burn it all to the ground just to get the "truth".
>cut a swab of your daughters cheek
>take it to a private lab
>have them do the dna test
You can wait decades until the truth comes out and it destroys your entire family or you can deal with it now and move on
One day you or your daughter gonna need a kidney or something then bam, organ rejection
see if it was me i found out my kid wasn't mine i'd go full chris benoit on em
>my gf cheated on me before our daughter was conceived
I dont get men who stay with cheating women. Theyre just going to do it again. They have no real love or respect for you they just see you as a cuckold and some stooge to look after them at that point. If I were you id do the test. If its not my kid I would leave. Theres no reason to pay for other peoples recklessness and live your life in humiliation looking after another mans kid. This anon makes a valid point too
You need closure
You should definitely use that as a weapon. If your wife ever cheats on you again or becomes crazy like many do, get your girl's DNA tested and use it to file for divorce with that as an evidence of her whorish ways. That way you probably won't lose much, I hope.
Oh you poor bastard.
You think the courts care about who the father is anymore?
A woman could film all her cheating acts and already have the dna to prove he's not the father and still get alimony child support.
That just means you can frick her without feeling bad. The mom can go be a bawd I'll take the fresh one
Get the test moron, you don't want to be taking care of another man's kid it will always eat at you. Especially if you put all that time into raising a kid and you and your gf separate which sounds inevitable.
Get the test on television so we can all laugh at you.
Just adopt her if it's not your kid. Then she'll be yours anyways
Thought one anon.
>my gf cheated on me before our daughter
I’m going to need two pipes for this one
Put me in the screencap
I never understand this blind love for a crying and shitting baby. You don’t even know her that well. Would make more sense if you raised her for ten years
This, I didnt really love my child for the first year because he wasn't even as interesting as like a cat or pet hamster. Just stared, shat, screamed.
Once he got personality it was all over. I would rape and eat every other child on earth if it meant he got a happy life
you are NOT the father
First 3 months I can understand, they’re basically noisy shitting potatoes. But you really felt nothing when they started smiling at you when you enter the room? When they started laughing? That shit happens at like 6 months.
You ever notice that
>black men celebrate when they're not the father
>white men are saddened knowing they aren't
nice bait, homosexual
Just remember that in rare cases, a baby can come out black even if both parents were white. It has to do with genes skipping a generation. Just don't let it drive you to jump to any conclusions if it happens.
Bullshit.
No lie. I've got a couple Army buddies who both found out their girlfriends had black great great grandparents and that's why their kids came out black.
You're sure their gf's weren't just barrack bunnies?
Fresh of the press
she's right. therapy won't help. posting your problems on reddit will
>reddit
have a nice day unironically
the eternal cuck
ITT: Spineless pussy homosexual makes another selfish decision to prioritize his own happiness over the daughter he claims to love so much. Happens all the time when no-life losers have kids. So fricking lame. She won't respect you for "protecting" her. You're moronic if you think you're denying her true parentage for anybody but yourself. Buck up, homosexual. Don't pass it to her.
I knocked my ex up and she ran off after telling me she was getting an abortion. One year later she goes to jail and someone let me know she had a baby that might be mine that was being put up for adoption. I saw the pic and realized right away it was mine. So I got involved and basically had to fight with the family court to let me take a paternity test, they repeatedly tried to dissuade me from taking it. Anyway now I'm a single father of an adorable baby boy and I couldn't be happier to have him.
LOL you got cucked hard
>you got cucked
>by, uh, yourself, getting your girlfriend pregnant
Words mean things, anon
The adoption agencies were doing you a favor. When she gets out of prison expect her to sue you for custody and expect her to win and expect to pay her child support as well with zero visitation rights.
you wanna know how I know youre not a Black person?
Based as frick
Good luck to you anon. I hope your kid turns out great
My wife was sexually assaulted around the time we conceived our first son. But that's my fricking boy. He's my fricking son. I don't want the DNA tests. I want us all to just move on. Even if she doesn't want me around anymore. That is my son.
You have some balls telling this story on Cinemaphile, you’re gonna get some very not-fun replies.
tfw not the father
normies pey the price
i've blown my rancid seed in at least 6 women in my life...it's highly possible i am the father of one or more children
mfw i don't care
>be me
>newly wed living with wife
>banging every day trying for kid
>finally one day she wakes me up
>honey we did it! I'm pregnant!! isn't this exciting??
>first thing out of my stupid half awake groggy mouth
"Pregnant?...b***h have you been cheating on me?"
LMAO she was pissed.
>no one posted it
I have never felt the touch of a woman.
Was expecting a bunch of kino clips from old talk shows and instead got a thread full of b***h ass anons arguing.