>accepted his shitty lot in life so hard that he even convinced himself it improved
i mean good for you 2bh
For most guys happiness is a few financial and social milestones. Some you need to hit at specific times, but others you can make up for, but it just requires more effort.
Fulfillment comes from creating a stable family unit. There really isn't happiness without it. >but I don't want a family
Then you won't have happiness.
Until you realize that having a family didn’t fulfill you, and then you’re trapped in a worse hell. That’s why I’m always going to not get married or have kids. Imagine being stuck on a treadmill and you want to get off but you have to keep on running. You want to stop but you can’t. That’s a wife and a kids. There’s no escape, you made a permanent disastrous mistake
the problem is I got wealth but now am scared of chicks because my older sister went through a shitty divorce where her man stole her apartment
I don't wanna get scammed
9 months ago
Anonymous
Sounds like her man got off lucky, it's usually the man who get done in a divorce.
I understand, anon... You're not in a church or something ? marrying some wholesome girl from that milieu might diminish the likelihood of such a sorry ending
9 months ago
Anonymous
she still got her own apartment, he just stole the other one, it was a loophole cause the were married and had bought it together and had children haha >You're not in a church
nope, I am Catholic but never been religious
9 months ago
Anonymous
Oh right, I get the picture.
Well anon, I'm Catholic and still attend church and all ; I don't know what the scene is like where you are (I'm from France) but church would probably be a good place to look around, honestly
9 months ago
Anonymous
I am Polish stranded in Bulgaria... maybe when I go back.
>, I just am good at pushing this stuff aside
No you are not
That's every lonely man ever when it's young, it's not "your thing"
I second that other anon
When years go by and you realize it'll never happen, it'll get to you
Oh baby boy, you never had a chance. I felt a myriad of emotions my entire life then I became 25 and I feel nothing. I feel no happiness, I feel no joy, I can even feel any anger. All that’s left is a vast emptiness. How do they even fix this? And do I even want it fixed, is there a point anymore?
29. Took me a very hard breakup while simultaneously succeeding in many areas of life yet not even enjoying it.
I am making it and don't even enjoy it. But if I were to lose what I have I would be in tremendous pain.
The threshold for coping varies depending on the psychology of the individual and how shitty their circumstances are i.e. debt, poor health, loveless, childless, etc.
29. Took me a very hard breakup while simultaneously succeeding in many areas of life yet not even enjoying it.
I am making it and don't even enjoy it. But if I were to lose what I have I would be in tremendous pain.
The one good thing I can say about my life being thoroughly shitty so far is that I feel like I can make it through anything at this point.
Never gonna throw in the towel and kill myself out of spite for this world.
On every social media side there's always someone complaining about how hard life is like a total fricking loser. Just want you to know everybody is sick reading about your weakness.
yeah that was me, after graduating college i knew my life was over. now im 31 and havent developed in life at all whatsoever and all i think about is suicide.
This is an extremely toxic mindset to have. I say this as someone with experience, who said the same thing at 22 after I had gone through college with few social experiences and didn't even do well in my studies. I basically knew that my life was over and gave up. Almost 31 now and I have progressed literally zero in life and all I think about is how I completely wasted all my 20s, have no memories , no accomplishments, nothing
When I was in high school I decided I was going to work to improve myself. Little by little, I got better at talking to people, improved my appearance, lost my virginity, started working out, started supporting myself, learned a second language, learned some instruments, learned to code.
I'm 30 now and it's all been for nothing. The game is rigged from the start.
What were you expecting to get out of all of that besides becoming a better person?
Sounds like you won the game anon.
Basing your happiness entirely on someone else is not a good idea because that person can leave you at any moment.
Keep it up.
he clearly doesnt think he won and is still miserable so what was it for? just because you say he's a winner doesnt mean he will feel like it
Being happy is (also) a mindset ; and of course, if you overfocus on one particular thing and deny yourself happiness until you've achieved it, the chances are you'll be unhappy. Without moralgayging, it is therefore necessary to 1. choose that particular goal well (women being a recipe for disaster) 2. learn to be happy with the good things you have achieved, even if it's not up to your highest expectations. Appreciate the journey, even if you've not arrived, and all that.
Basically, gaslight yourself into happiness ; otherwise, just cope through life, it's honestly the most straightforward thing, and how our forefathers did it. Obsession with "am I happy" is very weak-kneed and modern, there's a very telling passage in Henri Vincenot on that subject about an old peasant and his wife in Burgundy, hard life and all, who laugh some urbanite all the way to town when he asks if they were "happy", because what kind of a question is that ?
Relationship with a woman is a very poor motivation to become better, anon ; you've sculpted your own statue, whether or not bawds like you better for it. I am proud of you
Sounds like you won the game anon.
Basing your happiness entirely on someone else is not a good idea because that person can leave you at any moment.
Keep it up.
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he clearly doesnt think he won and is still miserable so what was it for? just because you say he's a winner doesnt mean he will feel like it
The thing is that is up to him to decided if he won.
There's probably someone out there that has done a lot less and is happy.
It's all about the mindset, and there are some things you can't really force.
my life improved in my mid 30s though
Dont lie anon
why would anyone lie on the internet.
You're a neet and rich
>accepted his shitty lot in life so hard that he even convinced himself it improved
i mean good for you 2bh
Everything is relative. If you are happy in your shit life, then it isn’t a shit life.
For most guys happiness is a few financial and social milestones. Some you need to hit at specific times, but others you can make up for, but it just requires more effort.
yeah mine too. getting married and having a kid slapped
It really didn't if you're posting here, sir
I'm 25 and I'm not even a loser yet I've never really felt happy and I don't know how other people do. Are they just pretending?
Fulfillment comes from creating a stable family unit. There really isn't happiness without it.
>but I don't want a family
Then you won't have happiness.
Frick off.
Acceptance isn't quitting..
Until you realize that having a family didn’t fulfill you, and then you’re trapped in a worse hell. That’s why I’m always going to not get married or have kids. Imagine being stuck on a treadmill and you want to get off but you have to keep on running. You want to stop but you can’t. That’s a wife and a kids. There’s no escape, you made a permanent disastrous mistake
bruh, quit it with the ego
this is the root of all your suffering, goes for incels too
also you CAN escape, like my dad did, who ditched us all and ran away, it just matters how big of a piece of shit you are
>I'm afraid to make decisions because it's le permanent and what about my video games
You won't find happiness outside your own head. Thinking you can is just deluded.
>creating a stable family unit
>stable
well shit, then good fricking luck, that shit it's almost lottery.
I say fulfillment come from within, but it's just my bullshit.
Correct. Yet you must still pursue the goal.
Other people do things they like, try things they might like and have things to look forward to.
You're just wallowing in self pity and you should man up and pull yourself up by your bootstraps
Some people just stay on the path that was laid out for them.
I am 26, but am happy
only thing missing is love and a gf but whatever, doesn't actually bother me, I just am
It'll get to you eventually. It got to me.
probably will
maybe when I get my first heart break, I dunno, I just am good at pushing this stuff aside and not dwell to much on it
Can't get hearbroken if no gf, look on the bright side.
t. 30 year old kissless virgin here, and happy enough tbh
the problem is I got wealth but now am scared of chicks because my older sister went through a shitty divorce where her man stole her apartment
I don't wanna get scammed
Sounds like her man got off lucky, it's usually the man who get done in a divorce.
I understand, anon... You're not in a church or something ? marrying some wholesome girl from that milieu might diminish the likelihood of such a sorry ending
she still got her own apartment, he just stole the other one, it was a loophole cause the were married and had bought it together and had children haha
>You're not in a church
nope, I am Catholic but never been religious
Oh right, I get the picture.
Well anon, I'm Catholic and still attend church and all ; I don't know what the scene is like where you are (I'm from France) but church would probably be a good place to look around, honestly
I am Polish stranded in Bulgaria... maybe when I go back.
I can only recommend, anon ! I shall pray for you
>, I just am good at pushing this stuff aside
No you are not
That's every lonely man ever when it's young, it's not "your thing"
I second that other anon
When years go by and you realize it'll never happen, it'll get to you
You go about in pity for yourself
im 26 and i started dating 2 months ago
these hoes sure make me feel like a loser
Oh baby boy, you never had a chance. I felt a myriad of emotions my entire life then I became 25 and I feel nothing. I feel no happiness, I feel no joy, I can even feel any anger. All that’s left is a vast emptiness. How do they even fix this? And do I even want it fixed, is there a point anymore?
>How do they even fix this?
They don't. Either you don't ever face that situation or you are fricked.
how old now?
What are you doing in life?
29. Took me a very hard breakup while simultaneously succeeding in many areas of life yet not even enjoying it.
I am making it and don't even enjoy it. But if I were to lose what I have I would be in tremendous pain.
>I would be in tremendous pain.
You're a big guy
The whole reason Craig is a loser is because he gave up.
Malcolm in the middle is for psychopaths. Its the most reddit show out there.
I loved that show growing up because it was relatable... looking back, guess you are right
Quitter attitude.
wrong you can cope until 25
once you're out of the 18-25 age bracket that's when reality sets in
26
still coping
let's see when I hit 30
The threshold for coping varies depending on the psychology of the individual and how shitty their circumstances are i.e. debt, poor health, loveless, childless, etc.
For me, it was 16 when I accepted it. Looking back, I knew in 5th grade.
29. Took me a very hard breakup while simultaneously succeeding in many areas of life yet not even enjoying it.
I am making it and don't even enjoy it. But if I were to lose what I have I would be in tremendous pain.
Malcolm is a piece of shit
Life gets better
Malcolm sees milk bombs
The one good thing I can say about my life being thoroughly shitty so far is that I feel like I can make it through anything at this point.
Never gonna throw in the towel and kill myself out of spite for this world.
that's not malcolm you moron
are you from the third world
On every social media side there's always someone complaining about how hard life is like a total fricking loser. Just want you to know everybody is sick reading about your weakness.
yeah that was me, after graduating college i knew my life was over. now im 31 and havent developed in life at all whatsoever and all i think about is suicide.
This is an extremely toxic mindset to have. I say this as someone with experience, who said the same thing at 22 after I had gone through college with few social experiences and didn't even do well in my studies. I basically knew that my life was over and gave up. Almost 31 now and I have progressed literally zero in life and all I think about is how I completely wasted all my 20s, have no memories , no accomplishments, nothing
I hope others don't fall into the trap
When I was in high school I decided I was going to work to improve myself. Little by little, I got better at talking to people, improved my appearance, lost my virginity, started working out, started supporting myself, learned a second language, learned some instruments, learned to code.
I'm 30 now and it's all been for nothing. The game is rigged from the start.
doest sound like it was all for nothing
he clearly doesnt think he won and is still miserable so what was it for? just because you say he's a winner doesnt mean he will feel like it
Being happy is (also) a mindset ; and of course, if you overfocus on one particular thing and deny yourself happiness until you've achieved it, the chances are you'll be unhappy. Without moralgayging, it is therefore necessary to 1. choose that particular goal well (women being a recipe for disaster) 2. learn to be happy with the good things you have achieved, even if it's not up to your highest expectations. Appreciate the journey, even if you've not arrived, and all that.
Basically, gaslight yourself into happiness ; otherwise, just cope through life, it's honestly the most straightforward thing, and how our forefathers did it. Obsession with "am I happy" is very weak-kneed and modern, there's a very telling passage in Henri Vincenot on that subject about an old peasant and his wife in Burgundy, hard life and all, who laugh some urbanite all the way to town when he asks if they were "happy", because what kind of a question is that ?
What were you expecting to get out of all of that besides becoming a better person?
A successful relationship with a woman.
Relationship with a woman is a very poor motivation to become better, anon ; you've sculpted your own statue, whether or not bawds like you better for it. I am proud of you
Thanks, anon.
Sounds like you won the game anon.
Basing your happiness entirely on someone else is not a good idea because that person can leave you at any moment.
Keep it up.
The thing is that is up to him to decided if he won.
There's probably someone out there that has done a lot less and is happy.
It's all about the mindset, and there are some things you can't really force.
My life improved through my 30s, but then I lost my job and my life became noticeably shitter. It has not recovered.
most of you just unironically need trt
all that 'le nothing is le good who cares' goes away when you fix your low testosterone