>My son respects me!
Was he in the right? Is it better to be respected than loved?
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>My son respects me!
>My son respects me!
Was he in the right? Is it better to be respected than loved?
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Balance, you shouldn't be your son's friend nor your son's Boss.
You should treat him to love and to respect people
This. The whole point of the movie is that Goofy's initial method (Focused on love, being a doormat while also ignoring Max's needs) is bad and doesn't work. But Pete's method is meant to be a total antithesis of it, that's equally bad, if not worse. The movie ends with Goofy striking a bit of a balance, both being respected by Max and loved by him, and vice-versa.
I don't think that's the "main" takeaway as much as its a symptom of the main issue. Being that Goofy and Max don't communicate. Goofy refuses to acknowledge that max is growing up and has different interests now while max refuses to meet his dad halfway. They don't start to connect until goofy gives max more control over the map (showing he thinks of max as responsible enough to dictate their plans. While max starts planning stops that appeal to goofy and maybe realize there's worse things in the world than growing up to be like his dad.
This is the correct answer. You are your child's role model and protector. Sure, you can have fun with them and be supportive, but you also have to lay down the law and have final say on their decisions until they can prove that they can make reasonable ones for themselves.
The way I've heard it phrased is "giving you enough rope to have a nice day," which was said by my dad who was both role model and good friend. That said I was a boring kid and never particularly rebellious, being raised with the standard 'be a good person and treat others as you'd wish to be treated' idea, so that sort of more lax parenting worked well in my case but not at all with kids who end up so hands-off that they also never get the idea of decency and just end up buttholes.
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seems pretty cut and dry
to bad the world is insane
the world respects money and power
noting more
100%, love without respect is pittyness.
He didn't respect him, he feared him. Not the same.
Respect has a range from admiration to fear
I'm sorry your father beat you
sorry yours didnt beat you enough
>n-no u!!
pathetic response
if your dad beating you worked you wouldn't be here
Im not, because later in life I was allowed to beat him
>Im not, because later in life I was allowed to beat him
??
you can't really love someone you don't respect
His son still loves him. He mellowed out by the time the second movie happened.
I think both Pete and Goofy ended up learning parenting skills from each other.
>Was he in the right? Is it better to be respected than loved?
His son "respected" him, but in the coming years he'll just grow to resent how he was treated as a kid and as an adult will go out of his way to have as little to do with his father as possible. This might even develop into issues with how his son interacts with other authority figures.
At the same time, aiming for 100% love as a parent can turn you into a doormat. Proper role models manage a balance of both.
he would respect his dad even more in the future because thanks to his genes he got a hot babe
They seemed pretty chill with each other in the second movie. Pete didn't even mind overfeeding him.
>His son "respected" him, but in the coming years he'll just grow to resent how he was treated as a kid and as an adult will go out of his way to have as little to do with his father as possible
Strangely all the kids who love and respect their parents seem to have had strict ones. It's almost as if human beings yearn for discipline and social reinforcement that they're existing in some accepted way.
>strict ones
I'm
Funny enough, my dad wasn't strict. My mother provided all structure. My dad was just kind of there.
We all had good relationships with our mother until she died. She was indeed strict.
There's a difference between being strict/providing structure and being whatever my dad was as a parent.
>my dad wasn't strict. My mother provided all structure. My dad was just kind of there
mystery solved
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What mystery?
Sounds like a salaryman situation or something.
>Strangely all the kids who love and respect their parents seem to have had strict ones.
This isn’t true at all, there are tons and tons of people who love and respect their lax parents. And I say this as someone who doesn’t necessarily believe lax parenting is better.
You feeling okay Pete? You don't look so good.
My dad used to say shit like that. None of the six of us talk to him much in adulthood and certainly not at all after our mother died. When the time comes for him to go into a home or get any sort of care, I hope for his sake that he has something set up for himself because none of us will take on that responsibility, no matter how much he's worth.
He's a blight, just as his mother was, and both use wealth as a means of control. He could leave me everything, investments and properties and liquid assets totaling in the tens of millions in exchange for for his care, and I would either find a way to take the money and run or, if that's not possible, simply refuse altogether.
No amount of money is worth having that cancer in my or my kid's life. My son is six years old and had never met the man.
Maybe one of my nieces will take him. My brothers, sister and I absolutely will not.
Poorgay wagie here whose parents are worth nothing, I will happily look after your dad if he leaves me those tens of millions of dollars no matter how bad a person he is.
The chances of that post being real are basically zero. Homosexuals love to write elaborate fanfiction, embellishing how bad their parents were. I'm not sure why. It must be something about not being supported in their decision to sodomize men and kidnapped children.
If you've ever been on /vr/ I'm the guy who didn't know he "grew up rich" until way later, after meeting people who grew up in different circumstances.
It's all true.
Also
>homosexual
>with a kid
None too bright, are ya?
My uncle thought the same shit and took in my grandmother in her old age. It ended with him shooting himself in front of her with his last words being "this is your fault, mom."
There were comments throughout the test of the family that of he was going to kill himself anyway, he should have killed her first. And she was only slightly less horrible than my dad is, owing mostly to the fact that she was a tiny lady.
The rest of her life, my grandmother was angry that he would "do this to her." Not upset at herself for pushing someone to suicide. That her son would try to make her feel bad.
These are the sort of people they are.
His son didn't respect him, he was afraid of him.
You do whatever makes your kid turn out to be a good adult. Knowing which is right would require perfect knowledge of alternate timelines.