>how are you tall and virgin???
Do you guys think that women just see a tall man on the street, approach him and ask him for sex?
Sure, being tall helps, but you actually need a social circle and competent social skills in order to get laid. This idea that being tall is just a cheat code for sex is absolute bullshit.
>t. 6'2 friendless virgin
7 months ago
Anonymous
Have you tried anything besides shitposting on Cinemaphile? Tell us about the times you tried to hit on a girl
7 months ago
Anonymous
>Tell us about the times you tried to hit on a girl
Everyone knows that hitting on girls doesn't work 99% of the time, unless you're VERY attractive
Besides, I'm an autistic weird friendless loser, no girl's gonna wanna date me anyways
7 months ago
Anonymous
You're tall, you are automatically not the worst catch in the room. Go to a bar, meetup, mall, etc and just fricking force yourself to talk to people. It's gonna be bad and you're gonna get rejected 99 times, but you'll get better and eventually you'll click with someone. Everyone sucks at this at the beginning, but most people got the 99 rejections out of the way in middle/high school
7 months ago
Anonymous
People that have sex don't understand that they are attractive enough and act a certain way, and have the social status. They think it just happens and that it's literally impossible to be a nice non deformed person and have no one be attracted to you
People who have way better lives than everyone else don't go around with the perception "wow i'm way fricking better than everyone else I better be really grateful and understanding, I have earned it"
nope lol. they're pigs, and just get mad at you or suck up to you, depending on if you are less or more than them.
Anon don't give up. Start with small changes. They'll add up. You're still very young and have a lot of time left to dig yourself out of the hole you're in. But brother start now.
I didn’t hit my stride until late 20’s early 30’s. Came close but never got laid until about 28. After that had a few relationships.
Takes time but once you gain confidence it’s doable. Ended up meeting my wife at 34. Got married a couple years later. Truly thought I was going to be a 40 year old living by himself with a cat. I’ve got two kids now. Shits awful if you go a long enough time without a woman. Friends or family help. I feel for you poor bastards too.
I'm 31. I think I'm 7/10, slightly autistic, but it wouldn't be a problem if I had girls around me in the first place. Sadly, my profession isn't popular among them.
Anon, your profession hypothesis being around them isn't as big a deal as you think it is. I've had such jobs. Guess what? You're probably too stressed and busy to take advantage of it if you had one. Acting is probably the only realistic exception here.
Code monkey is cake life, just use your fat cash and comparatively massive chunk of free time to actually do shit near hot girls in a stress-free environment.
>actually do shit near hot girls in a stress-free environment
I don't like being around people so there is hardly a stress free environment for me. Which is funny, since I'm a team lead. But I can eventually make a move if I know a girl, that's why for me personally a workspace would be a perfect place. Besides, I don't need hot girls, I need only one, not even obligatory a hot one.
I didn't get one til 30 bud. Keeping her is a whole different story tho. It only lasted 5 months and now I feel worse than before. Pretty sure we've been perma-damaged by our lack of romantic relationships.
Stop the self destructive mentality. The world is surprisingly accepting of you yourself as long as you don't present yourself as an butthole.
However you will absolutely "fall in love" with the first girl to show you affection, you will absolutely come off as an overeager butthole and scary away atleast one girl due to this.
It can't break you, because the alternative is what? Guess I'll be miserable forever?
If you are at a state where you go yup that's what I'll do, fix that shit first.
I thought things were going pretty good and it kinda came out of nowhere. She claims it was religious differences despite both of us laying that out before we even started dating. It's a pretty bullshit excuse but she's so timid and scared of confrontation I doubt I'm ever going to get the full story. Deep down tho I know it was my lack of experience and taking that relationship on an extreme learning curve to where she eventually got bored of me.
Past 30 and I have no idea how to make money. I want to rope every day. Also if you know anyone raised by a single mother, do me a favor and try to influence their lives in the right direction.
Who else is 34, broke as shit and burnt out every novelty?
It's getting dark out there bros. At least I had a few relationships I fricked up royally but still. Oh boy oh boy I hope I die in my sleeo tonight.
I will genuinely go several days a week not sleeping because I'm convinced I will die in my sleep. I think the isolation is driving me insane. I went to go see my doc about what I thought were insane heart palpitations but it was actually just cramps in my pec. And as soon as he told me that they permanently stopped, immediately, never returned. I think my subconscious is making me think I'm dying so that I will seek out even the shallow social interaction of going to the doctor. So I'm refusing to give it the satisfaction. I'm also getting all the symptoms of IBS including pain so bad I pass out from it. But I refuse to let it win. Also I halfway hope I do die in my sleep.
I used to drink a lot hoping to Nic Cage myself to death but I gave that up too. I didn't really have the gall. So I've been sober for two years now. Ironically, I'm in the best shape of my life and finally banged one of my crushes about a year ago but it was barely a fling and I just feel vacuous since. Just never been more depressed. I'm supposed to go back to work after a long layoff but I'm just stressed and demotivated. Just who gives a frick about success anymore. I'd probably frick it up even if I was trying my best anyway. I get it anon, the sand just slips through your fingers no matter how tighr you grip it. I just want to let go and float away.
I just turned 37 and while I have a wife and kids, I think what it would be like if I were alone right now and it's crazy depressing. I wish the best for you guys, good women are just hard to find.
I'm happy you found something, because you aren't wrong. I'm fricking depressed.
I used to think I was sad in my 20s but when I stopped enjoying all my hobbies and found myself going for Forrest Gump-long runs in the trails in the woods just to exhaust myself to try to sleep I really knew my brains had become scrambled with sadness.
Frick it, right?
35, in a marriage, with a house and a stable career.
I still hope I die in my sleep all the time. Being alive is soul crushingly boring. It’s all the same shit and you go through the same motions just to keep an appearance of being functional.
I don’t think there’s escaping this, anon. I’m sorry.
Yeah, you're probably right.
To be honest I don't buy it anyway when people tell me having a family and kids will preoccupy me, it's just more cope.
I was up visiting family awhile back and had to be around my cousin's 7 year old and no matter how hard I tried the kid just got on my nerves. He just wouldn't let me have a minute alone and I felt none of the urge people talk about to mentor. Kids are just so needy for attention and no matter what they just bore the shit out of me with going through the motions of things I've already experienced firsthand.
I mean I don't care if people have kids or get angry about it but there is something inherently strange and narcissistic to me about being so invested in doing things that just have no intellectual appeal to an adult. It just seems stagnating to me to want to re-live the nuts and bolts of life just so you can seem so cool to a human that is too underdeveloped to know the difference. I don't think it would change if it were my own kids either, but I acknowledge I'm just really not cut out to be a parent.
A baby isn’t that bad. You get less sleep and they’re a lot of work. Toddlers they start getting annoying. They require a lot more stimulation, they’re more demanding, they’re hard to understand and they throw fits and make bigger messes. But then when they start going to preschool and school they get a lot easier, or so I’ve been told, I haven’t reached that point
When I was 18 my "life plan" had me having my first kid at 30. I'm now 29 and fricking a 2nd year uni student so what the frick did I know was good or what I'd want at 18.
It's not a good idea to knock up a girl halfway through a degree. That's what I've learnt. Let her get her chem engi job, and then bank that sweet maternity leave.
Over eagerness can cost you alot in your life.
I have seriously tried reading that book about five times over the span of over a decade. I worked my way through Infinite Jest, with the full appendix and notes, by way of comparison. I just can't do it, the first third seems monstrously boring.
Is there some secret I'm missing, or some other story that teaches the same lessons but ... better?
The ideals when you are young need to be rexamined as you age. Dedicating yourself to what you think will make you happy when you are young might lead you to be miserable as your actual wants in life change. But if you are too pighead to notice you yourself have changed you are putting your effort into something essentially meaningless.
A great lesson but yeah it's hidden behind a mediocre story/prose.
Past 30 and I have no idea how to make money. I want to rope every day. Also if you know anyone raised by a single mother, do me a favor and try to influence their lives in the right direction.
>men should be married at 18 and women at 16
thats a myth propagated by people who think the 1940s and the greatest generation were the norm the reality is that census data exists even for places like ancient Rome or Egypt and we know what ages people were getting married. On average with 23 - 25 being average in times of economic success and 28 - 30 being more common during economic down turns and depressions.
Do you have any friends at all? And not people who tolerate you, if something really fricking stupid happens in your life do you have someone beyond Cinemaphile to share it and enjoy it with? Please please please tell me the stereotype of the demo of this site isn't who I've actually been talking with since fricking 2008.
I had friends but not anymore. Ghosted a few, been ghosted myself by a few. As I mentioned I’m a mentalcel with OCD which complicates making and retaining friends, it seemed to get really bad around my mid 20s. I’m under no illusions that the fault is anything other than my own.
same anon. no friends or anyone now besides parents still letting me stay, I pay rent and try my best. am 26 and am completely demoralized at this point.
>get called an incel on Cinemaphile >start getting self conscious about my virginity >know it's not even a troony/roastie calling me it but probably just another virgin shitposter trying to get me angry >get angry anyways
How do I get over this? God fricking damn it. I'm 22 and my dad is putting pressure on me to lose it. He recently caught me watching a vtuber and thought it was a cartoon until he figured out what I was really watching. I don't think he was angry, but he was really disappointed. He also hates it when I watch streamers too but Jerma unironically helped me get through high school since I was bullied constantly. It made me feel like I had a friend at home and the community didn't constantly berate me like the kids at school. Streamers in general really helped with my depression growing up.
I still live at home and depend on my parents and they know I'm not bringing any girls over. He's started calling me "Virgy" in public and around my friends instead of referring to me by my real name. It's getting annoying. I can't even blame him for being a shitty father because my younger brother is going to school on a football scholarship and he was bringing girls home ever since he hit puberty.
He used to play baseball while he finished his degree so I tried to show him how competitive e-sports were while I was watching Smash evo and he just asks "Aren't you a little too old for Nintendo?"
I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I didn’t even have to TRY! If you spent a little bit less time studying and preparing for college, and a little bit more time drinking alcohol and doing degenerate stuff you might’ve equaled my accomplishments
I have no game
I’m usually a little uncomfortable and awkward in one on one conversations with girls
I’m not that good looking
I’m not super tall
I have never once tried hooking up with someone
I never had a girlfriend past middle school
And even I have fricked 5 girls and got down a few bases with another 4 or 5
There’s a cheat code where if you have a couple cool friends and a good friend group and hang out with them and they invite over girls and you drink you’ll just have sex. I got one blow job while sober, every other sexual experience I was drunk
Being a virgin isn't the issue. Just work on getting your shit together. Less time on the internet, more time just doing shit, anything, getting into walking, cleaning up around the house, try out hobbies, play D&D even.
I was in your same position and had family pressuring me to start a family. Turns out my issue wasn't having gf, it was just being a sad loser that was chronically online.
I got into painting miniatures and found a group of people in my area that were also into it. We were all socially awkward losers who had a shared interest and became more social over it, this opened the door to meeting other people and some years later I started dating and eventually got married.
tl;dr, you need to be happy with your life being single, women can smell sad men and its like repellent to them.
>women can smell sad men and its like repellent to them
Not a virgin but I've had this going against me because of my recently unshakeable shitty attitude and it's getting really bad. Truer words were never spoken. Women can just instinctually sense a bad vibe and a lack of confidence, even if you're trying not to project it too bad. It's insane.
I lost my virginity at 17 by fricking my best friends girl. This was during highschool and i haven’t had sex since. She was kinda fat and her pussy kinda smelled but god damn it, she was crazy for me even tho she was dating her bf for 3 years. I guess the thrill of cheating just gets b***hes off. Idc what y’all think of me, y’all monkeys would have done the same even tho I regret it now
haha, i was never one with the ladies in highschool. i chased, but was a bit of a runt until i turned 17 so it was tough for me. never really had confidence either which is the #1 thing you need. parents probably told me no and yelled at me too much when I was growing up.
anyways, i remember when i was 18 or 19, first year of college, and i met some chick on the internet. she talked to me through my xanga and we ended up meeting at a Breaking Benjamin concert. We made out and I was dripping cum out there. A few days later I asked my parents if I could have a "friend" over. I could tell they were so relieved when it was a girl. Nobody wants to deal with a gay.
just leave if your parents are fricking with you. pretend to be lgbt and get a shelter. just don't go back for a long long time and do the best you can on your own. no comfort is worth more than your dignity
>Start a company out of high school >Do good work and build professional network >Made me very “corporate” as a person throughout high school and college >To the point where I can’t imagine ever dating someone because I don’t want to seem improper
In reality though, this is all just cope for me being a fatass that can’t get the self discipline together to improve myself. I feel like if I focused on myself, I could be successful.
I'm 33 and I have only worked for 7 months. I'm depressed and suffer from anxiety. I feel so embarrased of living off my parents. I know they even feel guilty for bringing such a loser to this world.
I've had sex and I even had a girlfriend for one year. But it didn't bring me any happiness or joy. If you're frickEd up in the head, it's over for you.
my dad had me at 35, so im giving myself until then. im currently 30. he lied to my mum about his age when they were dating (she was 25 when she had me). she only found out about his age when she found his drivers license.
so thats my plan, do what my dad did; meet a girl, get her pregnant, then marry her because shes having my kid.
[...]
Who else is 34, broke as shit and burnt out every novelty?
It's getting dark out there bros. At least I had a few relationships I fricked up royally but still. Oh boy oh boy I hope I die in my sleeo tonight.
my dad had me at 35, so im giving myself until then. im currently 30. he lied to my mum about his age when they were dating (she was 25 when she had me). she only found out about his age when she found his drivers license.
so thats my plan, do what my dad did; meet a girl, get her pregnant, then marry her because shes having my kid.
It might not always work for marriage, but most of the time even if you end up as just the baby daddy, you kind of keep a relationship going. Except you might dislike each other and not have a sexual relationship, but you’ll probably put up with the other person for awhile. Until she finds someone that will date a single mom and then eventually many years later she might marry. But you never know it still does lead to marriage sometimes
That’s what my dad did too, except he was like 21. All my uncles on my father’s side, and my grandfather too all did that, and all of them have like 6 or more children. I think it’s a reproductive strategy that must run in my blood. My dad was very cold, though. He killed my pet cat when I was a kid and didn’t confess to it until 10 years later when I was out on the porch with him. I thought it ran away, but it came back, and then ran away again. It turns out he just drove it out into the country the first time, and the second time killed it. He also watched me torture frogs and throw rocks at geese when I was like 7. He told me it was animal abuse after I came back inside when I was torturing the frogs though. He might’ve stopped me but I was with my friend doing it, and he might’ve not wanted to interject
Your father grew up in a different time and a different era and had different opportunities - some worse than you, some better, but all different. It's natural but also not necessarily realistic to try and use him as a barometer for how/where you should be. Just aim on being productive and independent and socializing more.
Pic related comes to mind with attempts at demoralizing with topics like this. It might be there are some freak cases of people being inspired by it, but more often than not it's some sick sadistic homosexual getting thrills at making other people feel worse. It's not healthy, and worst of all it's not liable to make you get up off your ass and try and fix things. It'll just make you mire in the despair worse, or start to commiserate with others about their sad state IE the "It's another truman episode where [describe something shameful in their life]". If you did better and came back to report it to them they'd move the goalposts and shame you further. Even go "Why are you proud of that? You're just doing what's normal you freak. That's how fricked up you are." Demoralizers are not good people. They are people who'd laugh and have joy if they saw you have a nice day. They'd try and tear you down if you did succeed.
If you're the rare person who is inspired by spiting others then go for it, drink deep. But if you're not just don't engage with demoralization, because it's not going to make you improve. It's just cruel people trying to pull you down because it's a thrill for them, like people watching someone in the coliseum get killed. What
Yes, but the average poster on Cinemaphile hates himself and wants others to do the same.
Oh also ignore the part with the image whining about misogyny. There's nothing wrong with finding women to be childish idiots if you don't let it consume you into vitriolic hatred. Just roll your eyes, grumble and not put up with their bullshit same as every man in every age and every culture has. Contempt is fine and normal for a man to have. Hatred isn't.
Otherwise it's apropos. Just don't engage with demoralization. I'm out of here after this post.
I have the money to either adopt a white kid or find surrogacy. I figure if I hit 40 and I'm still alone I'll just do that solo, but I'd like to do it with someone.
Are there actually people who are complete losers in their 30’s on here? I feel genuinely a bit sorry for a few people in this thread if that’s the case. I kind of assumed that most people were either just teenagers or joking about this stuff
Make a 100 day plan. Once you get through the 100 day plan and make some real progress, you will gain confidence and start to see a way out. You can change a lot in 3 months. And then make a 5 year plan next. This part might be bad advice, but you could also motivate yourself by cutting yourself if you fail. Every day you fail your goals, you could cut a little part of your pinkie finger. And if you don’t reach the 100 day goal, you’ll cut it off. But it won’t ever come to that because you’ll finish your goal by then if you know that you’re serious
>This part might be bad advice, but you could also motivate yourself by cutting yourself if you fail. Every day you fail your goals, you could cut a little part of your pinkie finger. And if you don’t reach the 100 day goal, you’ll cut it off. But it won’t ever come to that because you’ll finish your goal by then if you know that you’re serious
This is 100% bad advice
ok. here's my 100 day plan.
day1: I want to die
day2: I don't have it in me to kill myself
day3: I want to die >but why do you want to die anon?? make a 100 day plan to fix that
a billion reasons that I can't do anything about because I already tried and failed >just try-try again!
no
Stop using your intellect against yourself. If you really want to come up with a hundred reasons why you are shit you absolutely will be able to, but it's effort actively working against you.
Come up with one reason why you aren't shit, refocus your brain into something that makes your life better not worse.
Or don't I'm not your real dad.
I work in engineering and usually express the same thought to younger guys as "Stop trying to come up with reasons why she won't frick you" again you will logically find a hundred reasons but that is working against yourself, the world will already do this part for you.
Also don't use the excuse of I'm too smart to ...... because that is just a cope for you probably being an butthole.
7 months ago
Anonymous
I don't think of reasons why she won't frick me. I think of reasons why I shouldn't let her make the mistake of fricking me.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Still working against yourself. Don't worry if you end up hooking up she'll find that reason herself.
Stop working against yourself, it's really that simple.
If it makes you feel better I know who populates this shithole and I would never take any of this schlock to heart
Even if he was trying to be funny he failed miserably at it. Trying way too hard. Just more irony
I don't want a thread I dropped into to just shitpost to become a bigger existential thing.
Do you have any friends at all? And not people who tolerate you, if something really fricking stupid happens in your life do you have someone beyond Cinemaphile to share it and enjoy it with? Please please please tell me the stereotype of the demo of this site isn't who I've actually been talking with since fricking 2008.
Turns out to be truthful and I might try and break myself from this place.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Yeah but the topic of the thread is men in a state of existential crisis so what did you expect?
7 months ago
Anonymous
Half decent humans shitposting because every now and then they royally frick up in their actual lives and that makes them feel isolated and alone.
I don't want to think about the crazy homeless guy on the train with access to the internet and a feed into my home.
7 months ago
Anonymous
It's Cinemaphile dawg you just have to ignore the completely psycho ones.
To be honest other than the one dude telling me to cut my fingers off this has been an atypically wholesome thread
7 months ago
Anonymous
Fair enough but I hate/love that I can't not interact with an actual fricking weirdo like that anon.
Also I'm gonna continue to be the stay positive gay in this thread.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Yeah I'm not really giving up yet either but life has hit a real low the last 6 months. I had a good streak of not coming here for awhile but then I fricking relapsed. Whatever
7 months ago
Anonymous
Booze? Oxy? Blow? The advice ends up being the same but I've dealt with people going through two of those.
Any bridges not burnt, and not in a woe is me way, anyone you actually have?
7 months ago
Anonymous
I was just joking about relapsing on coming to shitpost on Cinemaphile but too clarify I used to be an alcoholic and a huge pothead. Never got into hard drugs.
I haven't drank in over 2 years and still haven't cracked there. Only about two months off weed but I fricked up about a week and a half ago and smoked a joint and felt super shitty about it and pretty much had a panic attack and haven't smoked since that.
I basically have my parents and one friend, but nothing else. Dead end job, no dating prospects. I'm still taking care of myself physically but its getting really hard to give a frick and maintain it lately.
7 months ago
Anonymous
I'm going to tell you stuff you've already heard, and I have little sympathy for potheads having been one and fricking up previous good opportunies. You smoke dope because you are bored and it's an easy excuse to atleast not be bored, instead of fixing the issue of being a boring person.
Keep up your health, aim for a better job well saving money by cutting actually useless shit out of your life. Find none isolotioning things that you actually enjoy and dating prospects will come with it.
If you are scared of being around other people you'll find yourself in a bad cycle that I don't have a fits all approach to breaking, but you do have to break it.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Yeah, I know all of that but I'm not saying it's bad reinforcement either though.
The hard part is being laid off for the first bit of quitting, ie. even less distraction from boredom and the inability to pile up cash I would have been spending on dope. I'm at least going back to work soon though so I hope that will give me momentum.
You're right though, I still can't figure out how to get back into hobbies or how to force myself to socialize. But at least I know I don't have to necessarily be boring because I truly don't believe I've always been this dull. It's just way too much rumination and no action these days.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Ahhhh being layoff is it's own kind of hell. Yeah get back to work asap, the fricking OP quote is directly saying this but men particularly can be very self destructive without direction, see jannies we are on topic.
You are atleast thinking and aware of what you are doing poorly, but don't use that as an excuse to dwell. It's another excuse to elevate boredom or face the harder goal of becoming an actually worth a damn person. Recognizing your own failings is a step, but fixing them is the actually important one.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Well at least I'm not the 230 pound slobbering mess of an alchie I was 2 or so years ago, but yeah, I'm not there yet either. This shit really does take time, which is why so many people give up. But I'm not because if nothing else I can spite the universe.
7 months ago
Anonymous
The hard part isn't being better, it's doing it everyday.
Thanks for a surprisingly wholesome thread anon, genuinely I wish you the best.
Well I did say it could be bad advice. I think pain is a good way to motivate yourself to do anything. And survival is even better. Ideally you would never have to cut yourself because cutting yourself would be worse than working out or doing whatever else you set to do. Maybe applying for a job that day. But if you are for some reason really lazy and depressed one day, and you give yourself a small cut, you’ll not want to do it again. But for some people who might enjoy self harming or get out of control with it, it’s bad. You could go softer with just not sleeping with a blanket or a pillow on the nights you fail but I feel like that easier to cave in and let yourself off the hook
Yeah you are a moron LARPing as if you aren't living in the best possible time to be alive as a human.
Genuine physical pain as a motivator is fricking chimp thought, you are infront of a computer and I'm assuming warm without having to make your own fire.
Whatever back to monke bullshit you are buying into is just manipulating your depression against you.
7 months ago
Anonymous
Well I’m not depressed but I can be lazy. I never cut myself before, but I force myself to do things one way or another. I’m just brainstorming ideas. If you’re cozy in a little nest, you never have to move. When there’s no consequences for spending another day doing nothing, you’ll stay like that forever. Once you’re pushed into the water and start drowning, you naturally begin to swim, because the effort of swimming is less painful than the process of drowning or the prospect of death. It only takes a few months to save up for an apartment. And then if you want to get a mortgage or extra money, you can work a second part time job. You’ll find ways to get what you have to do done when you have no other option and no other choice. You can’t focus your mind to set out and do anything when it’s more comfortable doing nothing and you don’t really see a need to put in the effort
7 months ago
Anonymous
That's great and almost rational just expressed in flowery homosexual way.
The next time you think telling someone to cut themselves every time they fail to meet up to their own standards, don't.
7 months ago
Anonymous
It’s just what I would do if I was in that situation. Maybe it’s a bad recommendation for others. If you have nothing to lose, it seems like you need some reason to get out of bed in the morning. You could always go the opposite route of finding a real passion and a purpose, or if you have a reward you really want you could give it yourself instead of punishing yourself too. But that’s harder to find a purpose, and there’s only so many things that are rewarding enough that you’ll feel the need to go get them at any cost
pain isn't motivating, it's debilitating. that's the whole point of it. it's avoiding future pain that's motivating, but if you're already in so much pain that you don't care about future pain then it does nothing. if you get enough pain, you literally don't care about anything, the only thing that exists is the pain and you just lie there doing nothing because you can't even comprehend the world enough to form a thought like "I should do something to stop this".
depression is something like psychological pain. it destroys your ability to do anything at all. the way out of it is for someone else to help you out of it, which doesn't work if you're isolated. or your brain can spontaneously unfrick itself once it realizes that nobody's coming to help and the performance it's putting on is pointless. dunno how often that happens though.
The whole slicing-my-digits off if I fail at my benchmarks advice would have been a lot more motivating back when I still enjoyed things like playing guitar and jerking off
my cousin is 38 and has no high school education (dropped out at 15), has had probably only 5 jobs his entire life, never held a job longer than 6 months, lived with his mom, has everything paid for by family with SSI and has maybe 8k to his name.
I'd wager to sag 95% of anons in this thread are doing better than this unless you're actually homeless and posting on here from a library or Mcdonalds.
Yeah he got too wienery with his crazy pussy side chick and she blew up his family. Hart was a hypocrite who didn't really appreciate and value his family like he preached, that's the point
That's the point of him saying this line and then living it anon. Also
Yeah he got too wienery with his crazy pussy side chick and she blew up his family. Hart was a hypocrite who didn't really appreciate and value his family like he preached, that's the point
Yeah fair enough I'm moronic and forgot the context as its been years since I watched and I guess he's being self-reflective in this scene but the end result is still the same
You should rewatch it, it's still really good.
I felt like a fricking moron rewatching The Departed a few weeks back and having a friend explain the envelope scene to me.
We all space out or miss the point sometimes.
Though I feel like it's been happening to me more frequently over the last while and I'm kind of disturbed by it, especially since I've been totally sober for awhile. Probably just fried my brain with all my stupid shit in my 20s/early 30s. Fack.
Yeah fair enough I'm moronic and forgot the context as its been years since I watched and I guess he's being self-reflective in this scene but the end result is still the same
I spent 2016-2018 learning everything I could about filmmaking, practicing, writing multiple scripts, pacing around my apartment reciting my notes like an autist, and then I realized that Hollywood is all about indoctrination, CIA propaganda, and to make it you need to be a rich persons kid or a member of the tribe. I had a nervous breakdown and have been trying to piece my life back together ever since. I still have no idea what direction to take and am worried I'll hero since my life is a mess and I'm getting old.
Kek. Try doing the same thing but also being a member of the tribe, but you utterly detest their wretched, evil ways. I think having ethics is the true hell, some days.
>I think having ethics is the true hell, some days.
Oh it is. That's partially why I'm such a headcase because the system is all about taking advantage of people dumber and less powerful than you and I don't like it. I want people to be happy and comfy. Probably because I never have been. I've had good "career" jobs and saw it all the time. Just billing people for bullshit.
>Be 35+ >Be married to b***h of a wife >Have homosexual disappointment Zoomer kids. >Deal with homosexual kids making an issue of you not understanding why they want to be drag queens, bugs, demons, or other insane shit day in and day out. > Deal with wife's b***hiness day in and day out >Have income spent on stupid shit by wife >Have income spent on stupid shit by homosexual kids >See same aged single man with a nice car, more disposable income, and a bad younger b***h.
For me, it's the fact that, no matter how good my mood is, I can't think of a reason not to commit suicide.
It feels just like endlessly putting off a chore.
It's easily possible to go on dates every other week for 10+ years and not have anyone attracted to you. Even if you're mentally and physically well. And nobody will ever believe you.
20
29. Once you reach 30 you better get a move on it
I'm 29 and I've never even had a gf
based
No, it's not "based". It's pathetic
I know you'll think I'm lying to make myself feel better, but I'm 6'3"
>6'3"
>29 years old
>virgin
literally how? You're a complete frick up.
>how are you tall and virgin???
Do you guys think that women just see a tall man on the street, approach him and ask him for sex?
Sure, being tall helps, but you actually need a social circle and competent social skills in order to get laid. This idea that being tall is just a cheat code for sex is absolute bullshit.
>t. 6'2 friendless virgin
Have you tried anything besides shitposting on Cinemaphile? Tell us about the times you tried to hit on a girl
>Tell us about the times you tried to hit on a girl
Everyone knows that hitting on girls doesn't work 99% of the time, unless you're VERY attractive
Besides, I'm an autistic weird friendless loser, no girl's gonna wanna date me anyways
You're tall, you are automatically not the worst catch in the room. Go to a bar, meetup, mall, etc and just fricking force yourself to talk to people. It's gonna be bad and you're gonna get rejected 99 times, but you'll get better and eventually you'll click with someone. Everyone sucks at this at the beginning, but most people got the 99 rejections out of the way in middle/high school
People that have sex don't understand that they are attractive enough and act a certain way, and have the social status. They think it just happens and that it's literally impossible to be a nice non deformed person and have no one be attracted to you
People who have way better lives than everyone else don't go around with the perception "wow i'm way fricking better than everyone else I better be really grateful and understanding, I have earned it"
nope lol. they're pigs, and just get mad at you or suck up to you, depending on if you are less or more than them.
How have you gone 29 years without kissing a girl?
you just gotta find a way to get yourself into a social circle so you actually start meeting people
are you le manlet
same, i think it's autism
26, I'm probably at 450 pounds by now if not more, and I have never had an actual friend let alone a girlfriend, nor have I had a single job.
PLEASE make an autistic Cinemaphile reference when you're on My 600LB Life
Anon don't give up. Start with small changes. They'll add up. You're still very young and have a lot of time left to dig yourself out of the hole you're in. But brother start now.
I got my first gf a few months ago at 29 and lost my virginity to her. It's actually really nice when they aren't acting all moronic.
I didn’t hit my stride until late 20’s early 30’s. Came close but never got laid until about 28. After that had a few relationships.
Takes time but once you gain confidence it’s doable. Ended up meeting my wife at 34. Got married a couple years later. Truly thought I was going to be a 40 year old living by himself with a cat. I’ve got two kids now. Shits awful if you go a long enough time without a woman. Friends or family help. I feel for you poor bastards too.
I'm 31. I think I'm 7/10, slightly autistic, but it wouldn't be a problem if I had girls around me in the first place. Sadly, my profession isn't popular among them.
t. code-monkey
>slightly autistic
>code-monkey
ripe for HRT
online dating. You’ve no excuse
dating apps are becoming increasing inaccessible to most men. even in the past year it's gotten way tougher
how so? I’d have never gotten laid with out them.
I'm scared of unfamiliar women.
Anon, your profession hypothesis being around them isn't as big a deal as you think it is. I've had such jobs. Guess what? You're probably too stressed and busy to take advantage of it if you had one. Acting is probably the only realistic exception here.
Code monkey is cake life, just use your fat cash and comparatively massive chunk of free time to actually do shit near hot girls in a stress-free environment.
>actually do shit near hot girls in a stress-free environment
I don't like being around people so there is hardly a stress free environment for me. Which is funny, since I'm a team lead. But I can eventually make a move if I know a girl, that's why for me personally a workspace would be a perfect place. Besides, I don't need hot girls, I need only one, not even obligatory a hot one.
its over mate
I didn't get one til 30 bud. Keeping her is a whole different story tho. It only lasted 5 months and now I feel worse than before. Pretty sure we've been perma-damaged by our lack of romantic relationships.
Stop the self destructive mentality. The world is surprisingly accepting of you yourself as long as you don't present yourself as an butthole.
However you will absolutely "fall in love" with the first girl to show you affection, you will absolutely come off as an overeager butthole and scary away atleast one girl due to this.
It can't break you, because the alternative is what? Guess I'll be miserable forever?
If you are at a state where you go yup that's what I'll do, fix that shit first.
tell us the story anon. what went wrong? don't be afraid to go into as much detail as possible.
I thought things were going pretty good and it kinda came out of nowhere. She claims it was religious differences despite both of us laying that out before we even started dating. It's a pretty bullshit excuse but she's so timid and scared of confrontation I doubt I'm ever going to get the full story. Deep down tho I know it was my lack of experience and taking that relationship on an extreme learning curve to where she eventually got bored of me.
religious differences, what a stupid c**t
Who else is 34, broke as shit and burnt out every novelty?
It's getting dark out there bros. At least I had a few relationships I fricked up royally but still. Oh boy oh boy I hope I die in my sleeo tonight.
I will genuinely go several days a week not sleeping because I'm convinced I will die in my sleep. I think the isolation is driving me insane. I went to go see my doc about what I thought were insane heart palpitations but it was actually just cramps in my pec. And as soon as he told me that they permanently stopped, immediately, never returned. I think my subconscious is making me think I'm dying so that I will seek out even the shallow social interaction of going to the doctor. So I'm refusing to give it the satisfaction. I'm also getting all the symptoms of IBS including pain so bad I pass out from it. But I refuse to let it win. Also I halfway hope I do die in my sleep.
I used to drink a lot hoping to Nic Cage myself to death but I gave that up too. I didn't really have the gall. So I've been sober for two years now. Ironically, I'm in the best shape of my life and finally banged one of my crushes about a year ago but it was barely a fling and I just feel vacuous since. Just never been more depressed. I'm supposed to go back to work after a long layoff but I'm just stressed and demotivated. Just who gives a frick about success anymore. I'd probably frick it up even if I was trying my best anyway. I get it anon, the sand just slips through your fingers no matter how tighr you grip it. I just want to let go and float away.
I just turned 37 and while I have a wife and kids, I think what it would be like if I were alone right now and it's crazy depressing. I wish the best for you guys, good women are just hard to find.
I'm happy you found something, because you aren't wrong. I'm fricking depressed.
I used to think I was sad in my 20s but when I stopped enjoying all my hobbies and found myself going for Forrest Gump-long runs in the trails in the woods just to exhaust myself to try to sleep I really knew my brains had become scrambled with sadness.
Frick it, right?
35, in a marriage, with a house and a stable career.
I still hope I die in my sleep all the time. Being alive is soul crushingly boring. It’s all the same shit and you go through the same motions just to keep an appearance of being functional.
I don’t think there’s escaping this, anon. I’m sorry.
Yeah, you're probably right.
To be honest I don't buy it anyway when people tell me having a family and kids will preoccupy me, it's just more cope.
I was up visiting family awhile back and had to be around my cousin's 7 year old and no matter how hard I tried the kid just got on my nerves. He just wouldn't let me have a minute alone and I felt none of the urge people talk about to mentor. Kids are just so needy for attention and no matter what they just bore the shit out of me with going through the motions of things I've already experienced firsthand.
I mean I don't care if people have kids or get angry about it but there is something inherently strange and narcissistic to me about being so invested in doing things that just have no intellectual appeal to an adult. It just seems stagnating to me to want to re-live the nuts and bolts of life just so you can seem so cool to a human that is too underdeveloped to know the difference. I don't think it would change if it were my own kids either, but I acknowledge I'm just really not cut out to be a parent.
From my observations, parenthood kind of sucks but being a grandparent is based due to grandchildren assuming your kids are responsible adults.
Yeah but you have to be a parent to get to that stage so frick that shit.
I'll just be the uncle that Billy asks Daddy later why Uncle Anon is so cold
A baby isn’t that bad. You get less sleep and they’re a lot of work. Toddlers they start getting annoying. They require a lot more stimulation, they’re more demanding, they’re hard to understand and they throw fits and make bigger messes. But then when they start going to preschool and school they get a lot easier, or so I’ve been told, I haven’t reached that point
When I was 18 my "life plan" had me having my first kid at 30. I'm now 29 and fricking a 2nd year uni student so what the frick did I know was good or what I'd want at 18.
Anon, it sounds like your 18 year old self was pretty on the mark unless I'm missing something here.
It's not a good idea to knock up a girl halfway through a degree. That's what I've learnt. Let her get her chem engi job, and then bank that sweet maternity leave.
Over eagerness can cost you alot in your life.
Or read and understand Great Gatsby, a shockingly good moral that is lost on the young.
I have seriously tried reading that book about five times over the span of over a decade. I worked my way through Infinite Jest, with the full appendix and notes, by way of comparison. I just can't do it, the first third seems monstrously boring.
Is there some secret I'm missing, or some other story that teaches the same lessons but ... better?
The ideals when you are young need to be rexamined as you age. Dedicating yourself to what you think will make you happy when you are young might lead you to be miserable as your actual wants in life change. But if you are too pighead to notice you yourself have changed you are putting your effort into something essentially meaningless.
A great lesson but yeah it's hidden behind a mediocre story/prose.
Demoralization thread, as usual
How is it a demoralization thread? Woody just said it’s a bad thing not that it’s hopeless or something
Past 30 and I have no idea how to make money. I want to rope every day. Also if you know anyone raised by a single mother, do me a favor and try to influence their lives in the right direction.
>Your age +1
30, anything past that is usually cope tier
Back then? 30. Now? I'm never surprised to see any age without a family because everything has gone to shit.
25
The average age of marriage is 29 for men. 25 is a little bit early
the average age is 29 and society is falling to shit. men should be married at 18 and women at 16
>men should be married at 18 and women at 16
thats a myth propagated by people who think the 1940s and the greatest generation were the norm the reality is that census data exists even for places like ancient Rome or Egypt and we know what ages people were getting married. On average with 23 - 25 being average in times of economic success and 28 - 30 being more common during economic down turns and depressions.
current marriage ages imply we're in a catastrophic economic recession, incidentally
ITT: people in college that have never been on a date
31 KHHV with OCD here. Anyone want to challenge me for the title of biggest loser on the board?
Here? Maybe but Just head on over to /LULZ/ and you'll be average.
KHHV, Kissless Hand Holdingless? Virigin
Did I get it right?
kissless, handholdless, hugless virgin. That’s right, not so much as a hug
Do you have any friends at all? And not people who tolerate you, if something really fricking stupid happens in your life do you have someone beyond Cinemaphile to share it and enjoy it with? Please please please tell me the stereotype of the demo of this site isn't who I've actually been talking with since fricking 2008.
I had friends but not anymore. Ghosted a few, been ghosted myself by a few. As I mentioned I’m a mentalcel with OCD which complicates making and retaining friends, it seemed to get really bad around my mid 20s. I’m under no illusions that the fault is anything other than my own.
same anon. no friends or anyone now besides parents still letting me stay, I pay rent and try my best. am 26 and am completely demoralized at this point.
That's the spice.
Makes you feel barely human.
>get called an incel on Cinemaphile
>start getting self conscious about my virginity
>know it's not even a troony/roastie calling me it but probably just another virgin shitposter trying to get me angry
>get angry anyways
How do I get over this? God fricking damn it. I'm 22 and my dad is putting pressure on me to lose it. He recently caught me watching a vtuber and thought it was a cartoon until he figured out what I was really watching. I don't think he was angry, but he was really disappointed. He also hates it when I watch streamers too but Jerma unironically helped me get through high school since I was bullied constantly. It made me feel like I had a friend at home and the community didn't constantly berate me like the kids at school. Streamers in general really helped with my depression growing up.
I still live at home and depend on my parents and they know I'm not bringing any girls over. He's started calling me "Virgy" in public and around my friends instead of referring to me by my real name. It's getting annoying. I can't even blame him for being a shitty father because my younger brother is going to school on a football scholarship and he was bringing girls home ever since he hit puberty.
He used to play baseball while he finished his degree so I tried to show him how competitive e-sports were while I was watching Smash evo and he just asks "Aren't you a little too old for Nintendo?"
I stopped reading this post pretty quickly, but I think the answer is to just be yourself.
I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I didn’t even have to TRY! If you spent a little bit less time studying and preparing for college, and a little bit more time drinking alcohol and doing degenerate stuff you might’ve equaled my accomplishments
Browse Cinemaphile instead
tl;dr, stop being a homosexual. You wasted time making a blog post on a foreigner infested, mogolian basket weaving web page.
dude I literally met a chick at spirit halloween, talked to her about candy for 10 minutes, went on 2 dates and she fricked me. It's not difficult.
I have no game
I’m usually a little uncomfortable and awkward in one on one conversations with girls
I’m not that good looking
I’m not super tall
I have never once tried hooking up with someone
I never had a girlfriend past middle school
And even I have fricked 5 girls and got down a few bases with another 4 or 5
There’s a cheat code where if you have a couple cool friends and a good friend group and hang out with them and they invite over girls and you drink you’ll just have sex. I got one blow job while sober, every other sexual experience I was drunk
Being a virgin isn't the issue. Just work on getting your shit together. Less time on the internet, more time just doing shit, anything, getting into walking, cleaning up around the house, try out hobbies, play D&D even.
I was in your same position and had family pressuring me to start a family. Turns out my issue wasn't having gf, it was just being a sad loser that was chronically online.
I got into painting miniatures and found a group of people in my area that were also into it. We were all socially awkward losers who had a shared interest and became more social over it, this opened the door to meeting other people and some years later I started dating and eventually got married.
tl;dr, you need to be happy with your life being single, women can smell sad men and its like repellent to them.
>women can smell sad men and its like repellent to them
Not a virgin but I've had this going against me because of my recently unshakeable shitty attitude and it's getting really bad. Truer words were never spoken. Women can just instinctually sense a bad vibe and a lack of confidence, even if you're trying not to project it too bad. It's insane.
old pasta fricking morons
I lost my virginity at 17 by fricking my best friends girl. This was during highschool and i haven’t had sex since. She was kinda fat and her pussy kinda smelled but god damn it, she was crazy for me even tho she was dating her bf for 3 years. I guess the thrill of cheating just gets b***hes off. Idc what y’all think of me, y’all monkeys would have done the same even tho I regret it now
haha, i was never one with the ladies in highschool. i chased, but was a bit of a runt until i turned 17 so it was tough for me. never really had confidence either which is the #1 thing you need. parents probably told me no and yelled at me too much when I was growing up.
anyways, i remember when i was 18 or 19, first year of college, and i met some chick on the internet. she talked to me through my xanga and we ended up meeting at a Breaking Benjamin concert. We made out and I was dripping cum out there. A few days later I asked my parents if I could have a "friend" over. I could tell they were so relieved when it was a girl. Nobody wants to deal with a gay.
just leave if your parents are fricking with you. pretend to be lgbt and get a shelter. just don't go back for a long long time and do the best you can on your own. no comfort is worth more than your dignity
Get a job and workout
>all these replies to the virgy pasta
fricking idiot newbies
Why are we taking this guy's word as gospel? Wasn't he a very flawed and hypocritical character?
Yes, but the average poster on Cinemaphile hates himself and wants others to do the same.
I'm 35 and I just hate frick zoomed bawds with daddy issues and get high and shitpost while awaiting the inevitable collapse AMA
Dudes rock
Your mom's age.
At this point most of the virgins in here should just troon out or kill themselves lmao
Never
>Start a company out of high school
>Do good work and build professional network
>Made me very “corporate” as a person throughout high school and college
>To the point where I can’t imagine ever dating someone because I don’t want to seem improper
In reality though, this is all just cope for me being a fatass that can’t get the self discipline together to improve myself. I feel like if I focused on myself, I could be successful.
I'm 33 and I have only worked for 7 months. I'm depressed and suffer from anxiety. I feel so embarrased of living off my parents. I know they even feel guilty for bringing such a loser to this world.
I've had sex and I even had a girlfriend for one year. But it didn't bring me any happiness or joy. If you're frickEd up in the head, it's over for you.
Were going to make keep the faith
my dad had me at 35, so im giving myself until then. im currently 30. he lied to my mum about his age when they were dating (she was 25 when she had me). she only found out about his age when she found his drivers license.
so thats my plan, do what my dad did; meet a girl, get her pregnant, then marry her because shes having my kid.
Too bad it's not the 90s so expecting a girl to stay with you because you impregnated her doesn't work anymore.
It might not always work for marriage, but most of the time even if you end up as just the baby daddy, you kind of keep a relationship going. Except you might dislike each other and not have a sexual relationship, but you’ll probably put up with the other person for awhile. Until she finds someone that will date a single mom and then eventually many years later she might marry. But you never know it still does lead to marriage sometimes
That’s what my dad did too, except he was like 21. All my uncles on my father’s side, and my grandfather too all did that, and all of them have like 6 or more children. I think it’s a reproductive strategy that must run in my blood. My dad was very cold, though. He killed my pet cat when I was a kid and didn’t confess to it until 10 years later when I was out on the porch with him. I thought it ran away, but it came back, and then ran away again. It turns out he just drove it out into the country the first time, and the second time killed it. He also watched me torture frogs and throw rocks at geese when I was like 7. He told me it was animal abuse after I came back inside when I was torturing the frogs though. He might’ve stopped me but I was with my friend doing it, and he might’ve not wanted to interject
Your father grew up in a different time and a different era and had different opportunities - some worse than you, some better, but all different. It's natural but also not necessarily realistic to try and use him as a barometer for how/where you should be. Just aim on being productive and independent and socializing more.
Pic related comes to mind with attempts at demoralizing with topics like this. It might be there are some freak cases of people being inspired by it, but more often than not it's some sick sadistic homosexual getting thrills at making other people feel worse. It's not healthy, and worst of all it's not liable to make you get up off your ass and try and fix things. It'll just make you mire in the despair worse, or start to commiserate with others about their sad state IE the "It's another truman episode where [describe something shameful in their life]". If you did better and came back to report it to them they'd move the goalposts and shame you further. Even go "Why are you proud of that? You're just doing what's normal you freak. That's how fricked up you are." Demoralizers are not good people. They are people who'd laugh and have joy if they saw you have a nice day. They'd try and tear you down if you did succeed.
If you're the rare person who is inspired by spiting others then go for it, drink deep. But if you're not just don't engage with demoralization, because it's not going to make you improve. It's just cruel people trying to pull you down because it's a thrill for them, like people watching someone in the coliseum get killed. What
said.
Oh also ignore the part with the image whining about misogyny. There's nothing wrong with finding women to be childish idiots if you don't let it consume you into vitriolic hatred. Just roll your eyes, grumble and not put up with their bullshit same as every man in every age and every culture has. Contempt is fine and normal for a man to have. Hatred isn't.
Otherwise it's apropos. Just don't engage with demoralization. I'm out of here after this post.
The fertility rate is down
the marriage rate is down
the virginity rate is going up
lol thinking you can have a family in current year
Have fun homosexuals
This. “Be fruitful and multiply” /misc/groids are delusional, they see what’s happening in the world yet they still want to bring kids into it
I'm gay and I don't have a family because finding another homosexual who wants to be monogamous and not an utter prostitute is impossible
Well, wouldn’t it be hard to have a family even if you did find a gay person like that since you only have his anal canal to make kids
I have the money to either adopt a white kid or find surrogacy. I figure if I hit 40 and I'm still alone I'll just do that solo, but I'd like to do it with someone.
Are there actually people who are complete losers in their 30’s on here? I feel genuinely a bit sorry for a few people in this thread if that’s the case. I kind of assumed that most people were either just teenagers or joking about this stuff
Yeah what else is there to do when nothing distracts you from the howling emptiness reverberating around your hollow insides?
Make a 100 day plan. Once you get through the 100 day plan and make some real progress, you will gain confidence and start to see a way out. You can change a lot in 3 months. And then make a 5 year plan next. This part might be bad advice, but you could also motivate yourself by cutting yourself if you fail. Every day you fail your goals, you could cut a little part of your pinkie finger. And if you don’t reach the 100 day goal, you’ll cut it off. But it won’t ever come to that because you’ll finish your goal by then if you know that you’re serious
>This part might be bad advice, but you could also motivate yourself by cutting yourself if you fail. Every day you fail your goals, you could cut a little part of your pinkie finger. And if you don’t reach the 100 day goal, you’ll cut it off. But it won’t ever come to that because you’ll finish your goal by then if you know that you’re serious
This is 100% bad advice
ok. here's my 100 day plan.
day1: I want to die
day2: I don't have it in me to kill myself
day3: I want to die
>but why do you want to die anon?? make a 100 day plan to fix that
a billion reasons that I can't do anything about because I already tried and failed
>just try-try again!
no
nta but start working out and make progress every week
Stop using your intellect against yourself. If you really want to come up with a hundred reasons why you are shit you absolutely will be able to, but it's effort actively working against you.
Come up with one reason why you aren't shit, refocus your brain into something that makes your life better not worse.
Or don't I'm not your real dad.
>Stop using your intellect against yourself.
I work in engineering and usually express the same thought to younger guys as "Stop trying to come up with reasons why she won't frick you" again you will logically find a hundred reasons but that is working against yourself, the world will already do this part for you.
Also don't use the excuse of I'm too smart to ...... because that is just a cope for you probably being an butthole.
I don't think of reasons why she won't frick me. I think of reasons why I shouldn't let her make the mistake of fricking me.
Still working against yourself. Don't worry if you end up hooking up she'll find that reason herself.
Stop working against yourself, it's really that simple.
This kid is a dangerous sociopath who is jerking off to the idea of making an anon slit his wrists.
Are we on /b/?
If it makes you feel better I know who populates this shithole and I would never take any of this schlock to heart
Even if he was trying to be funny he failed miserably at it. Trying way too hard. Just more irony
I don't want a thread I dropped into to just shitpost to become a bigger existential thing.
Turns out to be truthful and I might try and break myself from this place.
Yeah but the topic of the thread is men in a state of existential crisis so what did you expect?
Half decent humans shitposting because every now and then they royally frick up in their actual lives and that makes them feel isolated and alone.
I don't want to think about the crazy homeless guy on the train with access to the internet and a feed into my home.
It's Cinemaphile dawg you just have to ignore the completely psycho ones.
To be honest other than the one dude telling me to cut my fingers off this has been an atypically wholesome thread
Fair enough but I hate/love that I can't not interact with an actual fricking weirdo like that anon.
Also I'm gonna continue to be the stay positive gay in this thread.
Yeah I'm not really giving up yet either but life has hit a real low the last 6 months. I had a good streak of not coming here for awhile but then I fricking relapsed. Whatever
Booze? Oxy? Blow? The advice ends up being the same but I've dealt with people going through two of those.
Any bridges not burnt, and not in a woe is me way, anyone you actually have?
I was just joking about relapsing on coming to shitpost on Cinemaphile but too clarify I used to be an alcoholic and a huge pothead. Never got into hard drugs.
I haven't drank in over 2 years and still haven't cracked there. Only about two months off weed but I fricked up about a week and a half ago and smoked a joint and felt super shitty about it and pretty much had a panic attack and haven't smoked since that.
I basically have my parents and one friend, but nothing else. Dead end job, no dating prospects. I'm still taking care of myself physically but its getting really hard to give a frick and maintain it lately.
I'm going to tell you stuff you've already heard, and I have little sympathy for potheads having been one and fricking up previous good opportunies. You smoke dope because you are bored and it's an easy excuse to atleast not be bored, instead of fixing the issue of being a boring person.
Keep up your health, aim for a better job well saving money by cutting actually useless shit out of your life. Find none isolotioning things that you actually enjoy and dating prospects will come with it.
If you are scared of being around other people you'll find yourself in a bad cycle that I don't have a fits all approach to breaking, but you do have to break it.
Yeah, I know all of that but I'm not saying it's bad reinforcement either though.
The hard part is being laid off for the first bit of quitting, ie. even less distraction from boredom and the inability to pile up cash I would have been spending on dope. I'm at least going back to work soon though so I hope that will give me momentum.
You're right though, I still can't figure out how to get back into hobbies or how to force myself to socialize. But at least I know I don't have to necessarily be boring because I truly don't believe I've always been this dull. It's just way too much rumination and no action these days.
Ahhhh being layoff is it's own kind of hell. Yeah get back to work asap, the fricking OP quote is directly saying this but men particularly can be very self destructive without direction, see jannies we are on topic.
You are atleast thinking and aware of what you are doing poorly, but don't use that as an excuse to dwell. It's another excuse to elevate boredom or face the harder goal of becoming an actually worth a damn person. Recognizing your own failings is a step, but fixing them is the actually important one.
Well at least I'm not the 230 pound slobbering mess of an alchie I was 2 or so years ago, but yeah, I'm not there yet either. This shit really does take time, which is why so many people give up. But I'm not because if nothing else I can spite the universe.
The hard part isn't being better, it's doing it everyday.
Thanks for a surprisingly wholesome thread anon, genuinely I wish you the best.
Well I did say it could be bad advice. I think pain is a good way to motivate yourself to do anything. And survival is even better. Ideally you would never have to cut yourself because cutting yourself would be worse than working out or doing whatever else you set to do. Maybe applying for a job that day. But if you are for some reason really lazy and depressed one day, and you give yourself a small cut, you’ll not want to do it again. But for some people who might enjoy self harming or get out of control with it, it’s bad. You could go softer with just not sleeping with a blanket or a pillow on the nights you fail but I feel like that easier to cave in and let yourself off the hook
Yeah you are a moron LARPing as if you aren't living in the best possible time to be alive as a human.
Genuine physical pain as a motivator is fricking chimp thought, you are infront of a computer and I'm assuming warm without having to make your own fire.
Whatever back to monke bullshit you are buying into is just manipulating your depression against you.
Well I’m not depressed but I can be lazy. I never cut myself before, but I force myself to do things one way or another. I’m just brainstorming ideas. If you’re cozy in a little nest, you never have to move. When there’s no consequences for spending another day doing nothing, you’ll stay like that forever. Once you’re pushed into the water and start drowning, you naturally begin to swim, because the effort of swimming is less painful than the process of drowning or the prospect of death. It only takes a few months to save up for an apartment. And then if you want to get a mortgage or extra money, you can work a second part time job. You’ll find ways to get what you have to do done when you have no other option and no other choice. You can’t focus your mind to set out and do anything when it’s more comfortable doing nothing and you don’t really see a need to put in the effort
That's great and almost rational just expressed in flowery homosexual way.
The next time you think telling someone to cut themselves every time they fail to meet up to their own standards, don't.
It’s just what I would do if I was in that situation. Maybe it’s a bad recommendation for others. If you have nothing to lose, it seems like you need some reason to get out of bed in the morning. You could always go the opposite route of finding a real passion and a purpose, or if you have a reward you really want you could give it yourself instead of punishing yourself too. But that’s harder to find a purpose, and there’s only so many things that are rewarding enough that you’ll feel the need to go get them at any cost
pain isn't motivating, it's debilitating. that's the whole point of it. it's avoiding future pain that's motivating, but if you're already in so much pain that you don't care about future pain then it does nothing. if you get enough pain, you literally don't care about anything, the only thing that exists is the pain and you just lie there doing nothing because you can't even comprehend the world enough to form a thought like "I should do something to stop this".
depression is something like psychological pain. it destroys your ability to do anything at all. the way out of it is for someone else to help you out of it, which doesn't work if you're isolated. or your brain can spontaneously unfrick itself once it realizes that nobody's coming to help and the performance it's putting on is pointless. dunno how often that happens though.
The whole slicing-my-digits off if I fail at my benchmarks advice would have been a lot more motivating back when I still enjoyed things like playing guitar and jerking off
>Make a...plan.
Look at the cityboy, and his fancy "plans."
my cousin is 38 and has no high school education (dropped out at 15), has had probably only 5 jobs his entire life, never held a job longer than 6 months, lived with his mom, has everything paid for by family with SSI and has maybe 8k to his name.
I'd wager to sag 95% of anons in this thread are doing better than this unless you're actually homeless and posting on here from a library or Mcdonalds.
Didn't Hart end up living alone, eating microwaved meals by himself in his living room?
Yeah he got too wienery with his crazy pussy side chick and she blew up his family. Hart was a hypocrite who didn't really appreciate and value his family like he preached, that's the point
That's the point of him saying this line and then living it anon. Also
Did that really go over your head?
Yes
You should rewatch it, it's still really good.
I felt like a fricking moron rewatching The Departed a few weeks back and having a friend explain the envelope scene to me.
We all space out or miss the point sometimes.
Though I feel like it's been happening to me more frequently over the last while and I'm kind of disturbed by it, especially since I've been totally sober for awhile. Probably just fried my brain with all my stupid shit in my 20s/early 30s. Fack.
Yeah fair enough I'm moronic and forgot the context as its been years since I watched and I guess he's being self-reflective in this scene but the end result is still the same
Why is this place so full of self loathing, neurotic homosexuals?
idk go get laid and laugh with friends some more and you'll feel better about it lol
VR porn ruined any aspirations I have for acquiring real life women
I wish I never discovered it tbh
I've never had any real aspirations for it. I honestly am so fricked I remember giving it up when I was like 12 and never really trying again
Why dont you ask the notorious war criminal himself? 😀
I spent 2016-2018 learning everything I could about filmmaking, practicing, writing multiple scripts, pacing around my apartment reciting my notes like an autist, and then I realized that Hollywood is all about indoctrination, CIA propaganda, and to make it you need to be a rich persons kid or a member of the tribe. I had a nervous breakdown and have been trying to piece my life back together ever since. I still have no idea what direction to take and am worried I'll hero since my life is a mess and I'm getting old.
I'm not a virgin so at least there's that.
Kek. Try doing the same thing but also being a member of the tribe, but you utterly detest their wretched, evil ways. I think having ethics is the true hell, some days.
>I think having ethics is the true hell, some days.
Oh it is. That's partially why I'm such a headcase because the system is all about taking advantage of people dumber and less powerful than you and I don't like it. I want people to be happy and comfy. Probably because I never have been. I've had good "career" jobs and saw it all the time. Just billing people for bullshit.
Good on you, anon. I hope you find your success despite the rottenness surrounding us, even if I don't.
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Almost everyone I grew up with is now married.
>Be 35+
>Be married to b***h of a wife
>Have homosexual disappointment Zoomer kids.
>Deal with homosexual kids making an issue of you not understanding why they want to be drag queens, bugs, demons, or other insane shit day in and day out.
> Deal with wife's b***hiness day in and day out
>Have income spent on stupid shit by wife
>Have income spent on stupid shit by homosexual kids
>See same aged single man with a nice car, more disposable income, and a bad younger b***h.
"This man is a bad thing"
For me, it's the fact that, no matter how good my mood is, I can't think of a reason not to commit suicide.
It feels just like endlessly putting off a chore.
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what advice would he give us if he was ITT
It's easily possible to go on dates every other week for 10+ years and not have anyone attracted to you. Even if you're mentally and physically well. And nobody will ever believe you.
Being gererous, 22. At 21 you can go to bars in America and there is really no excuse to not be going steady with someone over a year after that.