Why would a character choose to live like this?
Maybe it's fun in your early-mid twenties, when you can focus on yourself before finding someone else. But to be in your late thirties, maybe forties, and still living like this...what keeps him going?
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This will be the norm once the majority of zoomers go into the workforce.
That was one of the only realistic parts of that entire season.
Zoomers aren't going into the workforce lol
i long for the day when we can have threads without generation bait
Will never happen, it will just get worse once gen alpha start flooding this site. The good times when it was mostly millenials on Cinemaphile are long gone.
Life is very peaceful. You' don't have to worry about others. And you can devote yourself to what you genuinely care about: the pursuit of your autistic hobbies, on your own time, and in your own way. The world is going to hell and I actually like my job and generally do as I please, when I please. It's nice having first world problems.
What about loneliness?
When you're surrounded by people (e.g., at work) then sure it's nice to think you have a quiet, peaceful home to return to. But with working from home and so on, many characters literally spend the vast majority of their time alone. Where's the motivation to improve your own life or the lives of others in such a case? Where is the companionship, the fun, the shared experience, the intimacy?
Will this kind of character really find himself sitting alone on a rainy day at the age of forty-five and think "ahh, what a day!"?
I'm an only child and I've never had a strong interest in being around others. And yes, I actually do look forward to my solitude after the shift. When I was in my early-mid 20s I never experienced the loneliness that so many complain of on this website. I'm a good deal older now and I still don't. If I'm ever feeling blue I just remind myself that I'm a debt free, gainfully employed college educated healthy white guy who isn't stuck in some bad marriage, doesn't have mentally moronic children, and doesn't have an STD. That never fails to brighten my day. Also you become so accustomed to living this way that you realize that having any other person around would chafe on you and you'd push them away anyway.
You’ve got to be the kind of person who doesn’t really care about that sort of thing. I grew up more-or-less as an only child (my sister is considerably older than me) in an abusive household, so I just sort of learned to find peace in solitude. Skip ahead a few decades, and I can only really handle dealing with people in short bursts. Like the other anon mentioned, I’ve found purpose in self-improvement and getting into productive hobbies. I find the very concept of living with another person for the rest of my life mentally exhausting at this point. Not everybody’s wired that way.
Because its comfy. People are annoying and cause problems that I wouldn’t have if I didn’t know them. It’s better to not get involved and just do whatever you feel like whenever you feel like it because you don’t have to talk to anyone about your plans or coordinate anything.
For me personally it’s enough to talk to people at work and then just not see anyone else for the rest of the day/weekend. I will talk to my coworkers about boring normie shit during lunch break and that’s enough socialising for me. Sometimes I talk to my parents and my brother on the phone and that’s about it really
woman detected.
>Where's the motivation to improve your own life
In the mirror
Being married can be far lonelier than being alone. Married men tend to get alienated from the friends and family, hanging out and visits get limited to special occasions like weddings or Christmases, nights out get limited to same...the wives eat away at the husband's connections like caustic soda...then after a few years the marriage degenerates into monotony, emptiness and formula, so the married guy is stuck in his routine but still exists under the unwritten rule that he can't call over to a buddy's house for a movie whenever he's in the mood, or hang out in a bar or whatever
That's why you get married to have children moron not to have a frick buddy.
That's not every marriage, don't marry a woman that will keep you trapped like that. Only children should keep you trapped like that. If you're not trying to have children don't marry a chick who wants to live like people who do.
I’m schizoid so I literally don’t ever feel lonely despite being alone most of the time
Same. I just live in a fantasy world inside my head anyway so my real life does not matter much
These guys are based.
Us schizoid posters are perfectly designed to handle the depressing state of our current reality for we mostly do not live in it.
It's true, isn't it. I always wondered what the evolutionary advantage of being a schizoid is, but it's like your brain coping with a shit life.
I've never had anything, but managed to keep going just by thinking about what it would be like if I had stuff.
I’ve been living inside my head since I was 10 or something and now every time I wake up to reality I want to blow my brains out but luckily I live in a cuck country so I can’t own a gun
>I’ve been living inside my head since I was 10 or something and now every time I wake up to reality I want to blow my brains out but luckily I live in a cuck country so I can’t own a gun
Pfff... why bother. One day you'll go to sleep and not wake up, so there's no reason to have a nice day.
I think I became a schizoid as a teenager, because I went to a school that wasn't good, and I didn't like anyone there. There's only one move left, and that's to think about stuff.
I guess you’re right. I will just keep escaping into my own head and ignore the world until I die.
>I will just keep escaping into my own head and ignore the world until I die.
That's what I did all my life. It doesn't get easier or harder as you age, and things stay the same. That's what being a schizoid is; Everyone else suffers and you stay the same.
The upside to not really feeling any joy whatsoever is that I don’t really feel any negative emotions either. When I was told my grandpa died I felt nothing and when I finished my college degree I felt nothing… its like I'm just a spectator in my own life and nothing matters
>When I was told my grandpa died I felt nothing
I went to a funeral once, for a relative I actually liked, and I didn't feel anything either. I can only assume it's because I'm not afraid of dying, and I legitimately believe those people are somewhere better than they used to be.
That man worked all his life, and then he died. Did he really lose anything? or is his suffering now over? It's the latter. The average person has so little to look forward to, that it should be a relief for them when it's over.
I'm too cynical to believe in an afterlife but it would be nice if I was wrong. Or maybe not, I honestly think that one existence is bad enough.
>I'm too cynical to believe in an afterlife
You just haven't done the same thing for long enough. If you're still here on Cinemaphile in another decade, I think you'll understand. You'll realise that there seems to be no point to life at all, except maybe acquiring knowledge that'll allow you to form your own world, much like writing a story. That's what I truly believe.
Why do people things? Why do they go out, or watch a movie, or play a video game? Is it "le fun" or are these things we do, to discover the kind of world we'd like to live in, before being given that world? I like to stay hopeful.
If I write a story, for example, that story is a culmination of every single thing I've witnessed in my life. Let's say you have a waifu; Where did the waifu come from? It was from something you watched during your life. The afterlife will be a story that you wrote based on your experiences in this life.
i seen that image like three times I must be seeing the same anon over and over again
If you don't want to see him, then use a difference website. I don't use anything but Cinemaphile, and I don't use any other boards. I promise you that I'll be here when you're all gone, and the alternative is we both stay here until the site dies. When that happens, I'll be on another chan.
use a different website*
I should add that I spend my time avoiding most of you, because I don't know who any of you are. That means for someone to meet me, they would have to be avoiding others like them. Good job with that.
i wasn't complaining i go on here almost everday too
Everyone's lonely nowadays whether they're committed in a relationship or not. The 0.1% who score the lottery and find someone they're genuinely attached to and doesn't destroy boundaries shouldn't be slaved for by the 99.9%.
>age of forty-five
Not planning on living that fricking long
You probably will though. I say this as an edgelord who thought he would be dead by thirty. You just keep on living for the most part.
I do intense cardio every single day, so I'm destroying my knees AND my body. So hopefully I'll just burst when I'm 40
>t. accidentally lives longer than any other anon itt
cardio makes you live longer you imbecile
>Where's the motivation to improve your own life or the lives of others in such a case?
Not everyone has a trust fund.
Not having friends and needing money to survive are two different things
The kind of person who chooses such a lifestyle is one who is not affected by loneliness. It's only when people are forced into living such a life that they find themselves depressed about it.
I felt lonely until I read this thread
now I realize the grass is always greener on the other side
>What about loneliness?
I like being alone
Only by yourself can you finally find a peace of mind
I'm not lonely when I'm alone
I have my waifu with me always
>t. covert schizoid
>I have my waifu with me always
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How do real women even compete, lol.
At 36 I am never lonely anymore. I WFH too so I literally spend all my time alone. People are boring, and untrustworthy. Every conversation I have with them is just a repeat of one I've had before. I'm over it. The few times I do decide to go out and interact with them I regret it.
>People are boring, and untrustworthy
That's kind of a dumb statement. You saying people are untrustworthy just makes me think you're untrustworthy.
If someone never lies to you, then how are they untrustworthy? Have you never met someone like that?
I am not trustworthy at times either sure. I'm no exception. It's just human nature.
I'm glad you're able to admit it. What you did in your post is called projecting. You made a statement about all of humanity, which doesn't apply to everyone. Most of my friends in life were white people, and they were very trustworthy.
>You made a statement about all of humanity, which doesn't apply to everyone.
>Most of my friends in life were white people
Next time, try not contradicting yourself in the same post.
The friends I had in my life don't represent all of humanity, so good job. I'm filtering the thread now to avoid speaking to someone ethnic. The rest of the board is filtered too. They likely made more threads to avoid speaking to each other, and they continue to post like you do, with two digit IQs and 0% self-awareness. Please enjoy each others company.
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>Times you acted like Rust
>What about loneliness?
You have to grow a spine, and not depend on someone else to feel whole, or worry that someone might have a thought about you for not having a woman. Grabbing some used up fat ugly b***h prostitute, and putting up with her bullshit just so you don’t feel le lonelies, is a far fricking worse option. “No-no, my fat ugly b***h prostitute is not-“ yes, yes she is a b***h, and she’s fat, and she’s an ugly prostitute, and your friends can’t tell you she is, because you’d side with your fat ugly b***h prostitute. I pity most men that are in a relationship, only a small fraction are in a relationship with an attractive woman (one that looks good without make-up), but a staggeringly small percent of those men, are with a fun, vibrant, funny, loving human being that you’d envy spending time with. That envy could make you waste the rest of your life chasing after that dream woman, that you could find a perfect woman to spend your life with, but it would be a wasted life. It’s like those people that live at the slots in casinos, putting in chip after chip, hitting the lever over and over and over again for the rest of their days, just hoping life will magically change for the better. Find what makes you happy, make yourself laugh, and live a life doing what you want to do. Being some fat ugly b***h prostitute’s bank account anon, it ain’t it.
Based but I stll don't think that most men will be up for it. It's in our cursed fate to suffer a shrew.
This guy spitting some solid incel rhetoric. It's true that it is best to be lonely than to force yourself into a relationship with someone you dont genuinely love and enjoy being around. Learning to be comfortable alone is important in finding a good woman and can even make a man more attractive to women. Desperation and settling just to alleviate loneliness is usually gonna end badly if you go all in.
>find himself sitting alone on a rainy day at the age of forty-five and think "ahh, what a day!"?
Not everyone is suited to solitude. You have to have an entertaining mind.
I truly don't want this. I suffered from such horrible alcoholism in my early 20s and I squandered literally every great thing thrown my way because I was too busy getting drunk and losing myself in my own fricked up, erratic emotions, and getting my life even further fuked up from psychiatric drugs and now I lost everything and I am back living with mom and dad at 30. No friends, no job, fighting off a DUI, and the only thing I have going for me is that I am 9 months sober and I can still try to get into school as a freshman. It will be weird at 30 but luckily the boozing didn't age me and I am blessed to be well above average looking (I used to be a model when I was 20) so there is hope for me yet. Being sober is fricking amazing and even though my life is shit right now I know that my destiny is still my own. It really doesn't matter what age you are, you can simply not give a frick and just pursue whatever you want. Like I survived a suicide attempt by drinking myself to death Leaving Las Vegas style and now I haven't touched alcohol in 9 months. To think that was even POSSIBLE that I would even be that strong is insane. I just wanted to say this to you guys. Been bottling it up for too long.
I'm happy for you anon
>bottling it up
poor choice of words though
If you live long enough you'll realise that the overwhelming majority of people you will meet are either boring, disappointing or at worst willing to actively frick you over for whatever gain they can get. At that point there is no more loneliness since you realise that what you want from other people is not something they can give you.
After about a year of therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy I feel about the same as you. I am coming to the grips with mental and physical abuse in my childhood and frankly I'm glad I became a depressed [profession I will not name] instead of a depressed criminal, like my siblings. It would have been so easy for life to get fricked up from bad decisions that are easy to make, like having children in a depressing, sad marriage. I was lucky, and my mom cared a lot and did the best she could.
I have older siblings, all of whom are alcoholics/addicts and have some form of mental illness. Like you, I wasn't very lonely, I was a popular jock in fact. I have a few friends--owing to my athletic successes--some are successful family men and others are permanent single nomads like myself. I work in a profession where I see the consequences of bad decisions that lead to bad marriages, horrible offspring, etc and I am ecstatic that I'm not like those people, because I was a c**thair away from it. There are so many people in horrible marriages and relationships with the power to walk away, it bemuses me. These thoughts brighten my day as well, even the Stoics recognized that one becomes rich not by accumulating wealth, but by controlling what you want.
I don't understand the time that women seem to get to take from their husbands as a rule when they get married. Obviously there is give and take, but some women just hang around their husband's neck like a lead weight.
>tl;dr
A year of gaslighting convinced me I was to blame and should not take any actions to resolve my depression.
>Uses a term that's loaded to the brim with bullshit and essentially a non-term
>attempts to discredit psychiatry and CBT in one fell swoop
CBT literally resolved my depression for the most part.
Good for you but cbt is very painful for most men.
>I don't understand the time that women seem to get to take from their husbands as a rule when they get married. Obviously there is give and take, but some women just hang around their husband's neck like a lead weight.
When women are alone they don't exist.
He's knows who he is, and there's a victory in that. Also he lacks the constitution for suicide.
All of the light left my eyes after my last breakup around 3 years ago. I work in a bar, don't go out, and go home to continue drinking myself to death. Found a lump on my testicle about 2 months ago, so hopefully it's over soon.
Need someone to check your prostate bro?
Anon-y three balls over here.
I was waiting for the vax to get me but nothing is happening.
Give it two more weeks
>All of the light left my eyes
Get a motorcycle. I swear to god it will fix everything.
>after a break-up 3 years ago
lmao homie please, I am the most sensitive little emotional homosexual on the planet and even I know when to move on. Divorce I could live with but break-up? I don't care if you were dating for 10 years if you weren't married by that point you're too immature to be that wrapped up on anyone dumb enough to date you.
>All of the light left my eyes after my last breakup around 3 years ago.
This is me except I quit my job last month and just sit at home smoking weed instead and quit my job just to do this more. Eventually will have to work again but that's later me's problem.
I used to do this habitually from ages 17 to 24 but I’m worried that I’m getting too old to keep it up. Idk what to do going forward since I’m both unwilling and unable to work everyday with only two days off a week to myself.
>inb4 some 86iq alcoholic mongrel starts bragging about muh 12 hour shifts
Good for you, Im genuinely happy that you enjoy your serfdom (no sarcasm)
How many dicks do you imagine your 'wife' have sucked before she decided to settle down with your loser ass? Marriage is for literal cuckolds
People don't really "choose" the lives they lead, at least not as much as they'd like to.
Stardew Valley dropped a new update recently and it's nice being able to spend 6 hours on a Saturday binging it. Women are always wanting to do activities and I hate it.
god I hate doing things. it's the worst.
I currently live with my dad and in 3 months my job may have me move several states away. I think it would be kinda silly to get involved with anybody right now.
I bought some magazines to keep next to the shitter not long ago and I don't know why I never thought of it before, I'm the happiest I've been for a long time
I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and haven't been happier since.
I'm 34 and I live like this sort of. Live on the dole in social housing, and I take university classes for fun to keep busy. Literally don't want to do anything else. Don't want a job, seems like a scam these days, so I can't really get a girlfriend or anything else.
Which country?
Canada.
There is a nice little book called One Bird's Choice about something similar to what you are experiencing, written by a Canadian author.
He doesn't need to read a book, and he can just read this Wikipedia page. The term is Japanese, but I'm sure it's happening in the West too.
If people are unhappy with society, they will stop participating.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori
I think most people rush into relationships with people they might not even really like just because they're so scared of being alone
Also doesn't help that society shames single people to no end
What's he gonna do at 65+? Won't be able to work as much. Does he have a pension? how many years in the police pension did he have and do you think he even paid in?
>no gf
>no work
>just go to grocery store, go home
not my problem
>Why would a character choose to live like this?
Key word “Choose”
It easy to choose to live like this when you already had it all
Rust doesn’t need a shake down to get some ass
When I was in highschool I used to think that I was Schizoid, now I am a couple of years into college and think that I am trans.
I just live with the permanent feeling of having remembered that I missed doing important homework.
>what keeps him going
the fricking case idiot, did you watch the show?
>choose
Wizard apprentice here. My only friend is my grandma. I visit her a few times a month and we watch good movies together. We watched The Holdovers last time, and it was peak comfy. I will miss her a lot when she's gone, but the rest of the world can go suck a dick as far as I'm concerned. I'm content in being alone, and spending time in the company of multiple other people for longer than a few minutes is extremely mentally draining to me. I suspect I might have a higher ability to empathize than most, so in a social setting I just soak up everyone's emotions like a sponge until I can't take it anymore. As I proofread I realize this isn't a very well-written post, but I can't be bothered to articulate my thoughts better at this moment. I'll take recommendations for films to watch with my grandma if anyone has any. All genres except porn.
Jason and the Argonauts?
Arsenic and Old Lace
I'm pretty happy just getting drunk and high all the time. I think I need a new job though, I've pissed way too many people off
I've been living like this for a bit more than 3 months and I'm starting to lose it. 10AM to 7PM with a 30 minute commute each way. I think it's because I loathe my job and I have 0 freetime to relax. I just make and eat dinner then sleep. If I had an incredibly boring and easy job I think I could cope better, but my job and managers are so stressful it's getting on my nerves
>when you can focus on yourself before finding someone else
Such a dumb meme meant to delay the making of a family. It encourages women and men to prostitute around while working at McDonald's
>Choose
???
this but i'm in constant financial hell because i have to keep paying for shit going bad for my car. 1300 for a timing belt, and then i'll have to deal with the power steering leak, and then there's some weird noise that i think MIGHT be a heat shield or exhaust or something but i'm not sure, the oil pan is slowly seeping because that gasket is 25 years old etc.
i quit my job and i'm going to SEAmaxxx