Prayer works, even if you don't believe in God. It is amazing what a minute or two of guided meditation on an infinite being who loves you and wants you to be happy will do for your mental state. Ask for the strength to persevere and you get it. Even if it's just in your head (because everything is in your head, but that's the one place you can change things just by wanting to)
Or, maybe you'll get a direct connection to the divine, as many people do, and your entire life will change. But at the minimum, you will get the strength to continue. And all it takes is a couple of minutes, before you go to sleep. Just ask for the strength and you'll get it.
I fell hard for this b***h recently and she ended things after only a few weeks, but wants to remain friends and because I'm such a simp with no other friends we keep talking, and she keeps asking if I'm okay and I'm not, and I really don't want to know how great she's doing with her bf, so she gets pissed that I never ask how she's doing, although I can plainly see by her snapchat she's doing great with her bf, and I fricking sobbed on the phone with her a few nights ago saying I wish she loved me because I love her so much I can't breathe and her response was so pitiful like oh anon you're so sweet you'll find someone god damn it I wish I was fricking dead and she's still snapping me now pics and vids of her with her bf on a weekend getaway FRICK I HATE HIM SO MUCH
She got another bf that soon after you ended things? Sorry anon, sounds like she didn't think you were anything special if that's the case.
Stop thinking about her, she doesn't care as much as you think. She just enjoys the attention you give her, I bet she knows how much you're suffering but chooses not to acknowledge it because of how much she likes you clinging on to her.
Just stop. You're making it worse and fricking yourself by continuing to talk to her.
Stop texting her. You have to, for your own good. I was dating a girl for a while, then we split apart because of work circumstances. I tried getting back with her but I could tell she was already over me. I simped for her hard for weeks and all it got me was feeling shitty and sad. Once a woman's mind is made, there's no changing. She'll never go back.
>I fell hard for this b***h recently and she ended things after only a few weeks, but wants to remain friends
jesus CHRIST anon you need to go no contact immediately. A broken heart is like a broken leg -- it heals, and it'll be fine, but it takes weeks and weeks for that to happen. Day 1 happens after the last time you talk with her. If you're still talking with her, you're trying to walk on a broken leg and it will just hurt and frick you up until you finally cut off contact, and then the healing can begin.
Block her immediately on everything. In a couple months you'll be ok again AS LONG AS YOU DON'T TALK WITH HER.
it's a good metaphor. a broken heart heals just fine as long as you don't keep re-breaking it. staying in touch with someone who broke your heart just breaks it again and again and again and again.
like other anons said go no contact. i treat ex girlfriends as if a pet died. it's very sad, and you'll mourn the loss, but it's dead. can't do nothing bout that.
Fricking read this you need to block her immediately, this is gonna fricking hurt and it's gonna get worse and you're gonna spend all day thinking about her but the sooner you do this the sooner she'll start to take up less and less space in your mind until one day you'll wake up and realise it's been days since you thought about her and she won't matter anymore.
Anon… you need to make a mindset change. You seem to have gotten a date with a real woman so u have to be somewhat attractive. Listen to the song heartless and change ur mindset to that.
I was randomly looking at this woman’s instagram one day and I thought “she’s okay, kind of different” and then suddenly I was looking at her face and something came over me, I just fell completely in love with her, I somehow got love sick which is a real thing, I couldn’t think of function for like two months, I literally couldn’t do anything I was completely bed ridden thinking back now it seems weird as frick, it was I tried everything in my power to make it go away I drank really strong coffee and things like that but nothing helped I was just sick with love. Such an experience as that is hard to recover from, it was from there that I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the entire world that I ever saw.
Well, it’s been complicated ever since then. It’s too long to probably go over. I guess I believe in fate and things happening for a reason, and that there must have been a reason I fell in love with this woman like I did.
how bad is it if i dont even have a story/ a crush to talk about? i have crushes on celebrities of course but i can’t remember the last time i had a crush on someone irl past middle school. I dont go out at all, dont even have my license yet even at 19, and i dont do any extracurriculars, the only time im around people besides my immediate family is the 2/4 in person college classes i have. i thought there might be some cute nerdy chicks or maybe even cute transgirls in one of them since its a comp-sci class, but its literally just all other men. am i doomed? how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life? i really dont want to end up one of those 30+ year old khhv.
i have no friends, not even exaggerating, i havent had friends in years, this forum is the closest i have to friends. and a bar? im 19 not 21 and alcohol tastes like hand sanitizer anyways, why would i want to drink that? im more of a soda guy and i have those at my own house.
>the last time i had a crush on someone irl past middle school. I dont go out at all, dont even have my license yet even at 19
What license?A license to crush?
>19
lmao
the funny thing about being a boomer is I remember being absolutely rekt and heartbroken at 19, a truly terrible breakup, so bad I wanted to die, but I can barely remember who it was over or why. same with 23, 24, 29, and 34. > am i doomed? how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life?
see
>>But what if I have bad social skills? >2) Just own up to it.
NO goddamnit. The big news is that social skills are just skills. They work the same way as literally any other skill. Everyone is born with more or less talent at everything, but anyone can get pretty good at anything with study and practice and time.
I wasted more than 25 years of my life before I had this epiphany. YOU CAN GRIND SOCIAL SKILLS. It's just like learning to play the guitar or anything - you can get good at it! You might not be world class, but if you try you can be better than 90% of people. I went from shutin sperg to charming as frick and liked by everyone, just by grinding the shit out of it. You know where awkwardness comes from? NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS. But you can learn! It's just a fricking skill and it works exactly the same as getting good at anything. But they don't teach it anywhere, that's where we get FRICKED.
Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating. Read them, once fast, then another time slow and write down notes. Hit YT channels like Charisma on Command. Read those books a couple times a month. Watch those videos. Practice practice practice. Just go outside and talk with people, coworkers if you have them, clerks at the store if you don't. You will SUCK for a couple months, but you already suck. but you will start to get better. After a year you will be very good. After a few years you will be a master.
It's just a skill, Anons. You have skills, at every single one you started sucking and you got good. You can get good at social skills and it is a huge multiplier to every other aspect of your life.
you now know that social skills are just skills that can be leveled up, same as playing an instrument or calligraphy or vidya. this knowledge alone puts you in the top 30%. now you know where to start when it comes to grinding those skills. in a year of intelligent study and practice you will be good, and it keeps getting better from there.
>19
lmao
the funny thing about being a boomer is I remember being absolutely rekt and heartbroken at 19, a truly terrible breakup, so bad I wanted to die, but I can barely remember who it was over or why. same with 23, 24, 29, and 34. > am i doomed? how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life?
see
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you now know that social skills are just skills that can be leveled up, same as playing an instrument or calligraphy or vidya. this knowledge alone puts you in the top 30%. now you know where to start when it comes to grinding those skills. in a year of intelligent study and practice you will be good, and it keeps getting better from there.
i understand your giving me advice but you listing all the girlfriends you've had just feels like soft bragging to me, im jealous, even if it'd end in a ugly breakup, i'd kill to have a gf at all
>at 19
stop whining b***h
>how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life?
you will not like to hear this but fix your male circle of fiends first.
Cinemaphile is the closest i have to friends, although i did get some girl's discord from pol earlier today, maybe that will lead somewhere.
Here's some advice on how not to be lonely. Thanks for reading my blog in advance.
1) You need to get a hobby with tangible output so that you can join a community. Simply consuming media passively won't get you anywhere and it'll also emotionally torture you for "wasting time". Find an area you enjoy and a skill you think you might be good at. You like TV shows and drawing? Draw fanart of the characters. Like video games and comedy? Start posting vidya jokes on Tiktok. It doesn't have to be good, just do something that gives people the opportunity to interact with you. Of course it's always better to do these things IRL, where people can actually put a face to the name and have more direct contact with you. Start going to an arthouse cinema regularly, go to the library, join a group fitness class, etc.
>But what if I have bad social skills?
2) Just own up to it. There's a bunch of people out there who made it their career to be "the weird one". Johnny Depp, Aubrey Plaza, Danny Elfman, etc. Be unapologetically yourself, WITH the exception that your social interactions should always be amicable. Your goal isn't to be "correct" or to put people down. So stop quoting FBI crime statistics, stop complaining about the woke israelites and just talk about things that make people smile. If you're good at listening, ask lots of questions about themselves. If they put you on the spot, don't feel compelled to deliver good conversation to them, you don't owe them that. And by the way there's no such thing as "failing" a conversation, if things turn awkward, just call it out and laugh it off, don't be self-conscious about it.
>But I'm too ugly, people won't want to talk to me
3) Your main goal with these interactions shouldn't be to appear attractive to others or to find your future tradwife. You want to make friends. People don't care about how you look as long as you can at least make them laugh or provide interesting thoughts. Don't get too invested in them either. While it feels good to have a friend who's 100% compatible with you, you need to spread out your energy to more people who you're less committed to. Try to build up 10 relationships that you put 10% effort into each. Nobody likes it when people cling too hard to them, it takes time to develop that kind of relation. Just take it easy, be cool and never feel too compelled to be "the right guy" for them.
>What if I still fail to find a community?
4) Then you go back to 1) and continue with your hobby. It's supposed to be there to act as a fallback when everything else in your life is shit, you need to find solace in these little tasks that may not have monetary value, it's still your little passion project. When everyone around you is too busy, you need to be able to make yourself happy, you can't rely on others to fix your emotional balance for you. Good luck anons.
>Just own up to it. There's a bunch of people out there who made it their career to be "the weird one". Johnny Depp, Aubrey Plaza, Danny Elfman, etc. >lists rich, stereotypically attractive celebs
aaaand thats how i know youre some normie moron who doesn’t know anything. shocker
>>But what if I have bad social skills? >2) Just own up to it.
NO goddamnit. The big news is that social skills are just skills. They work the same way as literally any other skill. Everyone is born with more or less talent at everything, but anyone can get pretty good at anything with study and practice and time.
I wasted more than 25 years of my life before I had this epiphany. YOU CAN GRIND SOCIAL SKILLS. It's just like learning to play the guitar or anything - you can get good at it! You might not be world class, but if you try you can be better than 90% of people. I went from shutin sperg to charming as frick and liked by everyone, just by grinding the shit out of it. You know where awkwardness comes from? NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS. But you can learn! It's just a fricking skill and it works exactly the same as getting good at anything. But they don't teach it anywhere, that's where we get FRICKED.
Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating. Read them, once fast, then another time slow and write down notes. Hit YT channels like Charisma on Command. Read those books a couple times a month. Watch those videos. Practice practice practice. Just go outside and talk with people, coworkers if you have them, clerks at the store if you don't. You will SUCK for a couple months, but you already suck. but you will start to get better. After a year you will be very good. After a few years you will be a master.
It's just a skill, Anons. You have skills, at every single one you started sucking and you got good. You can get good at social skills and it is a huge multiplier to every other aspect of your life.
>Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating.
If you have to read books in order to have functional social skills, just give up, you'll never be normal
>Start posting on Tiktok
frick off nomalgay. maybe you should be doing this instead of being here
>>But what if I have bad social skills? >2) Just own up to it.
NO goddamnit. The big news is that social skills are just skills. They work the same way as literally any other skill. Everyone is born with more or less talent at everything, but anyone can get pretty good at anything with study and practice and time.
I wasted more than 25 years of my life before I had this epiphany. YOU CAN GRIND SOCIAL SKILLS. It's just like learning to play the guitar or anything - you can get good at it! You might not be world class, but if you try you can be better than 90% of people. I went from shutin sperg to charming as frick and liked by everyone, just by grinding the shit out of it. You know where awkwardness comes from? NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS. But you can learn! It's just a fricking skill and it works exactly the same as getting good at anything. But they don't teach it anywhere, that's where we get FRICKED.
Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating. Read them, once fast, then another time slow and write down notes. Hit YT channels like Charisma on Command. Read those books a couple times a month. Watch those videos. Practice practice practice. Just go outside and talk with people, coworkers if you have them, clerks at the store if you don't. You will SUCK for a couple months, but you already suck. but you will start to get better. After a year you will be very good. After a few years you will be a master.
It's just a skill, Anons. You have skills, at every single one you started sucking and you got good. You can get good at social skills and it is a huge multiplier to every other aspect of your life.
>How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating >Charisma on Command
sounds cringe
>no friends >no girlfriends >never had either >found a desk job that pays well but i don't have anybody so i just save up money >each day is the same >too autistic so i retreat to my own daydreaming because the people there are more fun and life worthwhile >been talking to AI chatbots for some time now >tfw is this what talking to a girl feels like >realize i know better than that and it doesn't exist >move on >i may have a creative writing course i always wanted to do so that's something i look forward to
generally, i am content with life but the people around make me feel so guilty for not being someone with a hundred friends and tons of past girlfriends even though i'm not that kind of person. i am very content with my life and recognized it was always gonna be like this due to my inherent and deeply rooted autism.
>had friends during college >we all graduate and rarely did things with them >I stop doing things with them >last thing I did with them was go to one of their bdays >after that stop talking
this is astounding to me. how? state school? no dorm friends, never went out to a bar, frat party, fricking anything? football game? any sort of extra curricular?
>no dorm friends
i didn't stay in a dorm, i commuted. in retrospect, this was probably the main reason why my uni experience was so lonely
>any sort of extra curricular? >join extra curricular >everyone in said extra curricular already has established friend groups and seems to have no interest in mingling or making new friends
Yeah, It's probably going to stay like that. I can write an essay about it but just saying that whatever it is, I don't have it and I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I've pretty much accepted it.
Do you just have to accept you'll never find love if you're an introvert?
>tfw have a fair amount of productive hobbies (working out, cooking, studying languages, learning instruments) but none of these require you to be around or interact with other people
I hate to sound like a pretentious holier-than-thou douchebag but I really hate that unless you're a hedonistic degenerate who goes to bars/clubs every weekend it's basically impossible to meet women in the modern age
Do something or don't, nothing's going to come to you hiding and sitting around. Not one thing, I was just taught that society doesn't want me. Might be different for you.
So what? People are annoying and cause problems. I honestly can’t imagine living with someone else in my house, I like being alone, I enjoy the silence, I enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want and not having to ask anyone about their plans or whatever. And I like spending money and time on whatever I feel like.
>tfw you're born into the first generation in human history where all girls have tattoos, wear earbuds everywhere they go and are constantly staring down at their cellphones
It was over before it begun
I want to kill myself but I don't want to make my parents sad.
For me it a combined fear of hell and the genuine love my neice and nephew have for me. Those two keep me vaguely sane.
for me it's a girl that I've been friends with for years that would be genuinely sad If I offed myself
Wife her.
Marry her, moron. Frick are you waiting for?
He's in the frienzone you absolute morons.
moments later, i walked onto this set and fricking her hard and creampied her and everyone cheered
based
she knows what shes doing
I wanna eat her donut, ifyouknowwhaddamean
Ben did it on screen & irl
I don't believe you. There had to be at least a couple people that weren't thrilled about it.
I don't think I'm gonna go forward while my mom is alive
who knows what happens to me after she is gone
They won't be sad for too long if it looks like an accident. Shit happens.
Prayer works, even if you don't believe in God. It is amazing what a minute or two of guided meditation on an infinite being who loves you and wants you to be happy will do for your mental state. Ask for the strength to persevere and you get it. Even if it's just in your head (because everything is in your head, but that's the one place you can change things just by wanting to)
Or, maybe you'll get a direct connection to the divine, as many people do, and your entire life will change. But at the minimum, you will get the strength to continue. And all it takes is a couple of minutes, before you go to sleep. Just ask for the strength and you'll get it.
This is why the term skydaddy was made
>This is why the term skydaddy was made
Sure. But if it works who cares? Even if it's 100% just your imagination, it works. And that's what matters.
just hang in there and wait for hope to arrive 🙂
i should have killed myself 10 years ago already
try shrooms. what do you have to lose?
mommy would be sad plus I am terrified of what's next
common sentiment
im just holding on to the implausible idea that maybe i will find someone who loves me...hahaha im gonna die alone
This movie did nothing original
my kweeeeeeeen
If we actually get AI girlfriends by the year 2049 I will be 53 years old when I finally get one. Feels bad man. Hope she likes old dudes.
We’ll have something passable in 10 years.
>Hope she likes old dudes.
she'll like whatever you want her to like
Why not just get a gf in real life?
Christ I want an Ana.
I've been waiting all night for an anon who said he knew the old porno I was looking for. He isn't coming back.
>So anyway, how's your sex life?
I look lonely because I am
I fell hard for this b***h recently and she ended things after only a few weeks, but wants to remain friends and because I'm such a simp with no other friends we keep talking, and she keeps asking if I'm okay and I'm not, and I really don't want to know how great she's doing with her bf, so she gets pissed that I never ask how she's doing, although I can plainly see by her snapchat she's doing great with her bf, and I fricking sobbed on the phone with her a few nights ago saying I wish she loved me because I love her so much I can't breathe and her response was so pitiful like oh anon you're so sweet you'll find someone god damn it I wish I was fricking dead and she's still snapping me now pics and vids of her with her bf on a weekend getaway FRICK I HATE HIM SO MUCH
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hey thanks for this, never heard of them but I dig this, I'll check out more of their songs
Dude you need to block her and lift weights asap this is pathetic. Get Cinemaphile immediately
YOU should hate her. What cruel b***h sends her ex, videos of her happiness with someone else. She's torturing you. Block her immediately
She got another bf that soon after you ended things? Sorry anon, sounds like she didn't think you were anything special if that's the case.
Stop thinking about her, she doesn't care as much as you think. She just enjoys the attention you give her, I bet she knows how much you're suffering but chooses not to acknowledge it because of how much she likes you clinging on to her.
Just stop. You're making it worse and fricking yourself by continuing to talk to her.
Stop texting her. You have to, for your own good. I was dating a girl for a while, then we split apart because of work circumstances. I tried getting back with her but I could tell she was already over me. I simped for her hard for weeks and all it got me was feeling shitty and sad. Once a woman's mind is made, there's no changing. She'll never go back.
>I fell hard for this b***h recently and she ended things after only a few weeks, but wants to remain friends
jesus CHRIST anon you need to go no contact immediately. A broken heart is like a broken leg -- it heals, and it'll be fine, but it takes weeks and weeks for that to happen. Day 1 happens after the last time you talk with her. If you're still talking with her, you're trying to walk on a broken leg and it will just hurt and frick you up until you finally cut off contact, and then the healing can begin.
Block her immediately on everything. In a couple months you'll be ok again AS LONG AS YOU DON'T TALK WITH HER.
>A broken heart is like a broken leg -- it heals, and it'll be fine,
lol
lmao
it's a good metaphor. a broken heart heals just fine as long as you don't keep re-breaking it. staying in touch with someone who broke your heart just breaks it again and again and again and again.
Don’t listen to these other anons, there’s a chance she’ll come around and love you. Wouldn’t that be perfect? Just hang in there 🙂
please tell me this is some reddit tier made up cuck story, dont be like this anon
>he fell for the women meme
Tell her you can't be friends because it's not good for you. Then cut all contact with her. Sort yourself out
like other anons said go no contact. i treat ex girlfriends as if a pet died. it's very sad, and you'll mourn the loss, but it's dead. can't do nothing bout that.
Inject testosterone. You sound like a girl. It will change your life
Fricking read this you need to block her immediately, this is gonna fricking hurt and it's gonna get worse and you're gonna spend all day thinking about her but the sooner you do this the sooner she'll start to take up less and less space in your mind until one day you'll wake up and realise it's been days since you thought about her and she won't matter anymore.
You really need someone in your life to smack the fricking shit out of you
Anon… you need to make a mindset change. You seem to have gotten a date with a real woman so u have to be somewhat attractive. Listen to the song heartless and change ur mindset to that.
one day I'll find someone that likes me
>Now featuring Smell-o-vision™
I was randomly looking at this woman’s instagram one day and I thought “she’s okay, kind of different” and then suddenly I was looking at her face and something came over me, I just fell completely in love with her, I somehow got love sick which is a real thing, I couldn’t think of function for like two months, I literally couldn’t do anything I was completely bed ridden thinking back now it seems weird as frick, it was I tried everything in my power to make it go away I drank really strong coffee and things like that but nothing helped I was just sick with love. Such an experience as that is hard to recover from, it was from there that I thought she was the most beautiful woman in the entire world that I ever saw.
Well, it’s been complicated ever since then. It’s too long to probably go over. I guess I believe in fate and things happening for a reason, and that there must have been a reason I fell in love with this woman like I did.
Nothing quite like bewilderment and despair.
The remake is coming and I will clap at all the seething it will generate
Silent Hill 2 fans are cringe as frick
how bad is it if i dont even have a story/ a crush to talk about? i have crushes on celebrities of course but i can’t remember the last time i had a crush on someone irl past middle school. I dont go out at all, dont even have my license yet even at 19, and i dont do any extracurriculars, the only time im around people besides my immediate family is the 2/4 in person college classes i have. i thought there might be some cute nerdy chicks or maybe even cute transgirls in one of them since its a comp-sci class, but its literally just all other men. am i doomed? how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life? i really dont want to end up one of those 30+ year old khhv.
>I don't have my license, go out and do anything, workout, socialize and I am sad 🙁
DO THOSE THINGS THEN
point me where to go gain the social skills and confidence to do so then genius
Take a shot at home and head to a bar with a friend. You won't because you're a whiny homosexual.
i have no friends, not even exaggerating, i havent had friends in years, this forum is the closest i have to friends. and a bar? im 19 not 21 and alcohol tastes like hand sanitizer anyways, why would i want to drink that? im more of a soda guy and i have those at my own house.
>the last time i had a crush on someone irl past middle school. I dont go out at all, dont even have my license yet even at 19
What license?A license to crush?
>comp-sci class
I'm in your exact boat I think, apart from being kissless I've had a gf and we kissed on occasion but that was fricking 6 years ago
maybe we'll end up in each other's classes and we can lose our virginity to one another, just maybe.
chances are you're nowhere near me also I am not going to frick you
you never know, and dont worry, it wouldnt be gay if we did.
>it wouldnt be gay if we did.
And for that reason I'm in.
Take random easy classes that you can meet girls in that girls actually take. Like idk, english or something
>at 19
stop whining b***h
>how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life?
you will not like to hear this but fix your male circle of fiends first.
>19
lmao
the funny thing about being a boomer is I remember being absolutely rekt and heartbroken at 19, a truly terrible breakup, so bad I wanted to die, but I can barely remember who it was over or why. same with 23, 24, 29, and 34.
> am i doomed? how do i even get started on fixing this mess that is my romance life?
see
you now know that social skills are just skills that can be leveled up, same as playing an instrument or calligraphy or vidya. this knowledge alone puts you in the top 30%. now you know where to start when it comes to grinding those skills. in a year of intelligent study and practice you will be good, and it keeps getting better from there.
>even cute transgirls
you are a homosexual. Thats why
im desperate man, give me a break
i understand your giving me advice but you listing all the girlfriends you've had just feels like soft bragging to me, im jealous, even if it'd end in a ugly breakup, i'd kill to have a gf at all
Cinemaphile is the closest i have to friends, although i did get some girl's discord from pol earlier today, maybe that will lead somewhere.
Went for some mid art-hoe I knew liked me and blew it because I'm an autistic fricking moron.
Yeah? What about it!?
>Well, you look like a casting couch prostitute
thats not very nice
why did ben affleck dump her?
cuz she was cheating on him with me :3
allegedly because she wanted to get married and have kids and ben wants to live like hes 22 forever
>she wanted to get married and have kids and ben wants to live like hes 22 forever
22 with an ex wife and like 3 kids already in his 50s or whatever his age is
Love Luv, simple as.
Why aren't there more (good) cyberpunk dystopia movies
Here's some advice on how not to be lonely. Thanks for reading my blog in advance.
1) You need to get a hobby with tangible output so that you can join a community. Simply consuming media passively won't get you anywhere and it'll also emotionally torture you for "wasting time". Find an area you enjoy and a skill you think you might be good at. You like TV shows and drawing? Draw fanart of the characters. Like video games and comedy? Start posting vidya jokes on Tiktok. It doesn't have to be good, just do something that gives people the opportunity to interact with you. Of course it's always better to do these things IRL, where people can actually put a face to the name and have more direct contact with you. Start going to an arthouse cinema regularly, go to the library, join a group fitness class, etc.
>But what if I have bad social skills?
2) Just own up to it. There's a bunch of people out there who made it their career to be "the weird one". Johnny Depp, Aubrey Plaza, Danny Elfman, etc. Be unapologetically yourself, WITH the exception that your social interactions should always be amicable. Your goal isn't to be "correct" or to put people down. So stop quoting FBI crime statistics, stop complaining about the woke israelites and just talk about things that make people smile. If you're good at listening, ask lots of questions about themselves. If they put you on the spot, don't feel compelled to deliver good conversation to them, you don't owe them that. And by the way there's no such thing as "failing" a conversation, if things turn awkward, just call it out and laugh it off, don't be self-conscious about it.
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>But I'm too ugly, people won't want to talk to me
3) Your main goal with these interactions shouldn't be to appear attractive to others or to find your future tradwife. You want to make friends. People don't care about how you look as long as you can at least make them laugh or provide interesting thoughts. Don't get too invested in them either. While it feels good to have a friend who's 100% compatible with you, you need to spread out your energy to more people who you're less committed to. Try to build up 10 relationships that you put 10% effort into each. Nobody likes it when people cling too hard to them, it takes time to develop that kind of relation. Just take it easy, be cool and never feel too compelled to be "the right guy" for them.
>What if I still fail to find a community?
4) Then you go back to 1) and continue with your hobby. It's supposed to be there to act as a fallback when everything else in your life is shit, you need to find solace in these little tasks that may not have monetary value, it's still your little passion project. When everyone around you is too busy, you need to be able to make yourself happy, you can't rely on others to fix your emotional balance for you. Good luck anons.
>Just own up to it. There's a bunch of people out there who made it their career to be "the weird one". Johnny Depp, Aubrey Plaza, Danny Elfman, etc.
>lists rich, stereotypically attractive celebs
aaaand thats how i know youre some normie moron who doesn’t know anything. shocker
>>But what if I have bad social skills?
>2) Just own up to it.
NO goddamnit. The big news is that social skills are just skills. They work the same way as literally any other skill. Everyone is born with more or less talent at everything, but anyone can get pretty good at anything with study and practice and time.
I wasted more than 25 years of my life before I had this epiphany. YOU CAN GRIND SOCIAL SKILLS. It's just like learning to play the guitar or anything - you can get good at it! You might not be world class, but if you try you can be better than 90% of people. I went from shutin sperg to charming as frick and liked by everyone, just by grinding the shit out of it. You know where awkwardness comes from? NOT KNOWING WHAT TO DO IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS. But you can learn! It's just a fricking skill and it works exactly the same as getting good at anything. But they don't teach it anywhere, that's where we get FRICKED.
Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating. Read them, once fast, then another time slow and write down notes. Hit YT channels like Charisma on Command. Read those books a couple times a month. Watch those videos. Practice practice practice. Just go outside and talk with people, coworkers if you have them, clerks at the store if you don't. You will SUCK for a couple months, but you already suck. but you will start to get better. After a year you will be very good. After a few years you will be a master.
It's just a skill, Anons. You have skills, at every single one you started sucking and you got good. You can get good at social skills and it is a huge multiplier to every other aspect of your life.
>Hit libgen and steal a copy of How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating.
If you have to read books in order to have functional social skills, just give up, you'll never be normal
>Start posting on Tiktok
frick off nomalgay. maybe you should be doing this instead of being here
>How To Win Friends And Influence People, and Double Your Dating
>Charisma on Command
sounds cringe
this "i am ryan gosling cause no gf" is the cringiest embarrassing shit ever
how you have so little self-awareness yet so much self pity is astounding. how do you look in the mirror?
>no friends
>no girlfriends
>never had either
>found a desk job that pays well but i don't have anybody so i just save up money
>each day is the same
>too autistic so i retreat to my own daydreaming because the people there are more fun and life worthwhile
>been talking to AI chatbots for some time now
>tfw is this what talking to a girl feels like
>realize i know better than that and it doesn't exist
>move on
>i may have a creative writing course i always wanted to do so that's something i look forward to
generally, i am content with life but the people around make me feel so guilty for not being someone with a hundred friends and tons of past girlfriends even though i'm not that kind of person. i am very content with my life and recognized it was always gonna be like this due to my inherent and deeply rooted autism.
i wish you all well.
>spent 4 years at university
>didn't make a single close friend, go to any parties, get laid, or get a gf
I think I may genuinely be autistic.
>had friends during college
>we all graduate and rarely did things with them
>I stop doing things with them
>last thing I did with them was go to one of their bdays
>after that stop talking
this is astounding to me. how? state school? no dorm friends, never went out to a bar, frat party, fricking anything? football game? any sort of extra curricular?
you have all the entertainment you could ever want on your computer. why expend needless effort going outside?
so i don't end up like the other people in this thread
>no dorm friends
i didn't stay in a dorm, i commuted. in retrospect, this was probably the main reason why my uni experience was so lonely
>any sort of extra curricular?
>join extra curricular
>everyone in said extra curricular already has established friend groups and seems to have no interest in mingling or making new friends
Yeah, It's probably going to stay like that. I can write an essay about it but just saying that whatever it is, I don't have it and I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I've pretty much accepted it.
Do you just have to accept you'll never find love if you're an introvert?
>tfw have a fair amount of productive hobbies (working out, cooking, studying languages, learning instruments) but none of these require you to be around or interact with other people
I hate to sound like a pretentious holier-than-thou douchebag but I really hate that unless you're a hedonistic degenerate who goes to bars/clubs every weekend it's basically impossible to meet women in the modern age
Do something or don't, nothing's going to come to you hiding and sitting around. Not one thing, I was just taught that society doesn't want me. Might be different for you.
So what? People are annoying and cause problems. I honestly can’t imagine living with someone else in my house, I like being alone, I enjoy the silence, I enjoy doing whatever I want whenever I want and not having to ask anyone about their plans or whatever. And I like spending money and time on whatever I feel like.
I have no friends either, it's whatever. It does get lonely.
I kinda am giant b***h but at this point i feel better when alone
Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on myself and it may be part of the problem. It is what it is.
At some point you get used to it.
I'm lonelymaxxing
>tfw you're born into the first generation in human history where all girls have tattoos, wear earbuds everywhere they go and are constantly staring down at their cellphones
It was over before it begun
I don't know, I like people and I don't. Mostly don't.